I posted yesterday in parenting my situation. I have a 16 month old son with my ex partner. We broke up several months after he was born as ex wanted me to relocate to Ireland and I didn't want too. He pays for his son and has contact via Skype but really about it unless he's down visiting family.
In summer I started seeing someone new and went on the pill as didn't plan on having babies with him anytime soon! Pill clearly failed us and I fell pregnant in October. It was never really anything serious but it was more than just sex. In the end it just fizzled out and we was long distance anyway, it wasn't working. Despite this still have a good friendship and get on. He assures me he will be there for baby although I'm not hopeful that he will Cary through with those promises as he's so far away.
It's obvious both children have different dads. Son is white with blonde hair and very blue eyes. This baby will be mixed race (half Jamaican) with brown eyes and brown hair I assume.
Obviously I'm going to have to tell the midwife that her father is black etc and give his name details at my booking appointment today. I had her with my previous pregnancy and she is very unfriendly and blunt. She will most likely ask the situation between me and new babies dad and if they have different fathers. I will have to be honest and say yes and that we are not together. She will then judge me, probably say something horrible and in addition, tell my hv.
I am only 20 so I understand people and not just her may judge me especially as Ive not got a partner. However I'm not on benefits, I have a job and I study at the same time, this babies dad also has a good career.
Am I over thinking too much? I'm a very anxious person and hate confrontation, I'm just really scared that she is going to get nasty about this too me. I've already had some comments from friends about the situation. I could understand if I was a bad mum and living off the state. I'm not, I make my own money and I believe I'm a good mum so I just don't see why me having babies is anyone else's business but my own, as long as they are well looked after.
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Booking app today and so nervous because of babies being by different dads
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Lins2839 · 13/02/2016 11:02
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