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Why do people feel the need to comment on the size of my bump???

(35 Posts)
Reebok Thu 21-Jan-16 07:40:37

Pregnant with dd2...almost 26 weeks and all I ever hear is 'whoa! You're huge!' Or 'that's a small bump!' I don't comment on the size of their belly so why should they comment on mine just because I'm pregnant. I feel like punching them in the face! Sorry...hormonal rant over!

Champagneformyrealfriends Thu 21-Jan-16 07:43:32

My sister keeps telling me that I'm big "all the way round" and that she was just the same "but with a bump". Selective memory on her part I think but whatever! Unfortunately your body becomes public property when you're pregnant (or so people think!). Try to ignore it. Easier said that done I know!

TheCatsMeow Thu 21-Jan-16 07:45:28

People used to comment on mine but it didn't bother me. They used to guess I was about 26 weeks right up until the birth and comment how small my bump was. I think they're just making conversation

Runningupthathill82 Thu 21-Jan-16 07:46:04

When I was around 20 weeks pregnant, a woman at work felt moved to tell me that I looked like I was going to give birth "any day." I was sorely tempted to point out that her belly was still significantly bigger than mine, despite hers not actually having a baby in it, but I didn't.

It's only got worse too. Every time my DM phones (which is daily, to ask if I've had this baby yet) she wants an update on how much weight I've put on, to the pound. Because apparently it's too much and I'll struggle to lose it. Thanks Mum.

crumpet Thu 21-Jan-16 07:50:09

Yes, it was never something that bothered me. They are making conversation and showing an interest. They'll have forgotten you and the pregnancy a few minutes later and moved on to the next topic of interest.

Some bumps are big, some are small. Some people put on lots of weight during pregnancy and others hardly change at all - the human body is an interesting organism!

And I speak as someone of 5'2 who stuck on about 3 stone with each pregnancy, so was very hippo like. One of my best friends is a size 6-8 and was not visibly pregnant from the back for any of her pregnancies.

SomebodySedateMe Thu 21-Jan-16 07:51:44

It really bothers me too. 36 weeks with a high risk pregnancy and people insist on telling me I don't look pregnant enough. It makes me panic.

sepa Thu 21-Jan-16 08:07:50

Drives me insane - are you sure it's not twins?? - the question I get asked almost daily

TheCatsMeow Thu 21-Jan-16 08:11:26

The one that did annoy me a bit was "where is your baby?!" Obviously in my bump, where else? I didn't mind people saying it was small but that one was weird

wonkylegs Thu 21-Jan-16 08:19:29

I don't mind although I constantly get 'are you sure it's not twins?' Or 'are your dates right?'. My bump is huge though, even I think that. I think it looks bigger as I'm small and there is nowhere but forward for the baby to go.

mrsjskelton Thu 21-Jan-16 08:31:06

Every. Single. Person. Has commented on my bump.
Same word every time! "It's such a neat bump!" "You're very neat aren't you!"
I'm now 2 days overdue and still only look about 6-7 months and I have to say it did worry me throughout thinking I was having a baby with a LBW and she's absolutely the perfect size hmm

TheCatsMeow Thu 21-Jan-16 08:34:24

mrs my baby was almost 8lb and I had a tiny bump. Bump size is often more to do with the mum than baby! smile

They panicked when I measured 31cm at 38 weeks and insisted on another growth scan, and that scan estimated him at 8lb 2. They were very confused!

nannyplumlikesitupthe Thu 21-Jan-16 08:42:12

My sister was working in a shop when I was pg with my 1st dc. Everytime I want in to say hello to my sister her manager keep keep saying are u sure ur pregnant ur just so tiny it generally started to get to me so one day when she said to me god u have no bump at all my reply was haha ya I know us is even bigger than mine and ur not even pregnant( this was true) my poor sister nearly drop..
It was hard to say but it was the last time she said anything about my bump size!!!

MaisieDotes Thu 21-Jan-16 08:47:27

running my mother is the worst culprit too.

With DC2, when I was about 32 weeks she said "you won't get any bigger now. You couldn't."
Er, yes I can and I will.

This time (DC3) she announced about a month ago that "there's no way you'll go to the end."
Well 39+1 now, mother.

Gunting Thu 21-Jan-16 09:13:24

I think so people don't know what to say to pregnant women and end up saying the wrong thing. When I was pregnant the only thing people wanted to talk about was my belly it was very strange.

Also had the 'you'll not go the full way' comments. I ended up giving birth at 40+8 to a giant 10lb baby.

Murloc Thu 21-Jan-16 09:19:48

This. Everyone keeps telling me how tiny I am (except MIL, who gleefully tells me I'm gigantic every time she sees me), I feel like yelling yes, I know, I have a bloody growth scan every fortnight, stop worrying me further!

Gah.

bessie84 Thu 21-Jan-16 09:42:48

good lord, im with you ladies, i hate this with a passion!!! "your so massive, are you sure you only have one in their, are you sure its not twins or triplets, you'll never go full term, i bet its a 10 pounder" those kind of comments.

i also hate that people think they can touch me, back the fuck off!

AmyLouKin Thu 21-Jan-16 10:12:41

I think I must have been lucky (that or I give off fuck off vibes) as none of my colleagues have touched the bump without asking! Personally I don't mind friends doing it.
I have had lots of comments on the size of the bump as it looks quite small still (36 weeks) but I am 5ft 6 and slim so I guess that's why! I had a growth scan back in Dec as they thought I measured small but baby was fine! I'm pretty sure it's growing well! I can feel the size of its feet when it stretches, feels big enough to me! Lol.
The one silly question I get (as we never found out the sex) is do I think it's a boy or a girl? Let me just get out my crystal ball..........😜

NotSpeaking Thu 21-Jan-16 10:33:19

Calm down ladies. You are an easy topic of conversation in the small talk world. You've probably done it yourself.

TiffanyAtBreakfast Thu 21-Jan-16 13:05:30

Blimey - People are just excited that your baby is growing, or as others have said, they use it for a bit of easy chit chat. To be honest I find it bizarre when people are offended by it. They're not commenting on your weight, they are literally saying 'Ooh your bump is getting so big! Not long now!' type thing.

I'm pregnant (and also plus size, so extra potential for getting offended) and have had the 'you're getting so big', 'bump is huge now' comments - I just smile and say yes I know, so exciting!

However on the flip side, saying somebody's bump is 'neat' or not looking very far along, is dangerous territory. It can worry people about the growth of their baby, or make them think they should be looking or feeling a certain way, when every mum is different.

blessedwithtwo Thu 21-Jan-16 13:12:31

I don't mind - I am carrying two and look six months gone already and I am only 16+4.

We tried for these babies for a long time so I am pleased when people comment on them growing.

KnitsBakesAndReads Thu 21-Jan-16 13:27:41

I don't usually mind as I think it's just people making conversation. I do find it odd when people say things like your bump is very "tidy" or "neat" like it's a compliment though. I have a bump because I'm growing a baby and to me whether it looks "tidy" or "neat" is pretty irrelevant - all that matters is that the baby inside is growing well and is healthy.

I probably wouldn't actually say anything as I wouldn't want to be rude to someone when they're just taking an interest, but it does kind of feel like another example of women being expected to be "slim" and being judged on their appearance above all else.

<end rant> blush

Frank85 Thu 21-Jan-16 13:31:33

Pisses me off
So when people comment: "I'm not pregnant, what do you mean" hahhahaah

Reebok Thu 21-Jan-16 20:00:37

Thanks ladies...glad to know I'm not the only one. Just annoys me as I've had hyperemesis (still do) all this time and because I've had a sudden growth spurt I'm getting constant comments on the size of baby despite the fact I can't eat much.

spacefrog35 Thu 21-Jan-16 20:36:32

Oh yes. Everyone has told me I have quite a small bump (I'm carrying all my baby weight in my bum, hips & thighs) except for my lovely college who said " oh, aren't you waddling well". WTF hmm do I look like Jemima Puddleduck angry

Skathleen Fri 17-Jun-16 13:02:18

Im finding the comments I get bother me. The people I work with are lovely and say I've got a really nice bump but I work in a shop and get loads of customers comment. I've been asked what sex the baby is and then when I tell them they've said they don't agree with finding out the sex at all. Am I'm left thinking, well why the hell did you ask then? And today when out walking the dog one lady wouldn't stop pestering me with questions and couldn't believe my baby was due in September, I'm only 26 weeks but she kept going September! September! Good luck love! I'm sorry but that's just plain rude. From now on I'm not telling them anything.

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