33 weeks and Nervous about everything!

[KLG3101]

33 weeks and up until now I've been so relaxed. I'm so, so about the birth. I need to write my birth plan and pack my bag. However I am so nervous about being a good Mum and coping. I'm starting to worry about life never being the same again and how it'll change my marriage. We didn't choose to have a family lightly so why am I feeling like this?!! It's awful.

[goodnightdarthvader1]

I know how you feel - literally 10 mins ago randomly burst into tears and was reassured by my lovely DH!

I'm 35+4 and am worried about everything - the birth, breastfeeding, being a mum, looking after the house, making new mum friends! I don't have anyone IRL I can talk to apart from DH. Do you have anyone?

I'm always up for a PM if you want to compare notes! and sob together

[KLG3101]

Thank you for replying. I'm putting it down to hormones but it's awful isn't? Glad your DH has made you feel better. My DH works long hours and I miss him so much in the evenings just now.

I'm worrying about breastfeeding too and the fear of basically being a feeding machine, not getting anything done and poor DH coming home to a bomb site! I am so lucky that most of my friends have children with 2 currently pregnant. Have you been to any birthing or antenatal classes and met anyone?

[goodnightdarthvader1]

Yup, i worry about that too! I know he wouldn't mind cleaning up, but I feel like I should suddenly become a domestic goddess, it's mad.

I had to miss my antenatal class because I got really ill with anemia, so I feel like I lost a huge opportunity to make pregnant friends locally. Could kick myself! You?

[maybebabybee]

32 weeks here and feel exactly the same OP, you are not alone

[goodnightdarthvader1]

Sorry to hear that maybe

[maybebabybee]

Think it is quite normal really darth :). I see pregnant women on my train every morning and find myself thinking "hmmm, I wonder if you also feel a wreck"!

[KLG3101]

Do you feel lazy? I have been keeping fit and looking after myself until this week. I just feel so lazy! DH would think I was mad but don't want to completely loose my shit!

That's a shame. I did but tbh not that many couples we clicked with I'm planning on joining baby groups and classes edict I hope will help get me out the house when I feel confident enough to!

I'm worried about losing that bond with my closet two friends after baby as one doesn't have children and although the other does she doesn't work and has a vast amount of help from her Mum so never misses catch ups/weekends away etc.... I will have to cut back as don't have that luxury and also want a family life.

[KLG3101]

Maybe thank you Hormones?!?

[goodnightdarthvader1]

Part of my meltdown was panicking that I hadn't done enough yoga or prepared enough. I'm just so tired!

My closest friend is childfree and despite me hardly mentioning my pregnancy has clearly decided that we are now incompatible as friends, so has ignored me for the past few months. My other friend just had a baby herself so is still finding her feet. I feel very alone!

Maybe, I do that too!

[KLG3101]

Glad I'm not the only one!

That's so sad. I hope once baby is here and you find your feet that passes with your friend. I hope you have a straight forward labour and baby behaves for you both!

[goodnightdarthvader1]

Thanks, you too!

[mellowyellow1]

28 weeks here and not excited at all! Actually I'm excited to no longer be pregnant but everything else seems terrifying. I hate staying indoors for more than a day so having visions of me pushing a pram round aimlessly!

[goodnightdarthvader1]

Anything that gets you out the house is good! I'm terrified I'll be too terrified to step foot outside in case she starts crying and everyone judges me!

[KLG3101]

Likewise I'll have exhausted my walking route writhin a few weeks no doubt! At least we will be out the house!

[SleepyRoo]

Expecting DD2 in 7 weeks too. Don't put all this extra pressure on yourself OP! Its mad to worry about having an untidy house & being a perfect mum! And 'birth plans' should def be renamed 'vague preferences that may or may not be relevant come D Dat'. My humble aim is for a low-stress, low-key first few weeks this time around. Stock up on lovely bath/body products, box sets, anything simple that you know lifts your mood.

[kiki22]

I'm on my second pregnancy and its just as anxious as the last time round except this time it's not how it will it change our relationship it's how it will change our family, how will I cope with 2 instead of how I cope with one. When it comes down to it though once your baby is here you just muddle through and do your best then a few years up the line you think wow he's still alive and doing well and go on to worry about the next thing.