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Lonley and pregnant

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Mumtobe2016 Mon 28-Dec-15 20:47:29

Hi. Not even sure if this is the right place go do this, let me know if it's not.
I'm 6 months pregnant and feeling very lonley. I got married 8 weeks ago. My mum passed 10 years ago and my nan passed away last year. I was brought up by my grandparents. Me and my husband moved in with my grandad last year to take care of him. I don't speak to my 2 sisters. I go to work but don't have anyone particularly close. I have friends but not very close ones. When I have an argument with my husband I feel so alone and scared. Things have been tough he's been out of work 5 months so all the pressure is on me at the moment. Basically I want to know if I am being selfish for feeling so lonley? Thanks

Junosmum Mon 28-Dec-15 21:21:06

Totally the right place and you aren't being selfish. We all need some friends and support outside of our family/ relationship.

Do you have any hobbies or do any activities which could lead to a group or get together?

Where in the country are you? Have you tried 'meetup' or a local facebook group? Where I live there's a facebook group for local parents/ parents to be and they have meet ups.

Are you doing any parenting classes? you'll meet other people there.

In the mean time there is always on here!

maybebabybee Mon 28-Dec-15 21:26:01

Bless you. You are absolutely not being selfish. Pregnancy can be a scary lonely time even when you have loads of people around you. In your situation it must be very difficult.

Is your relationship OK apart from financial pressures?

Whenwillwe3meetagain Mon 28-Dec-15 21:27:40

Id really recommend doing a pregnancy class if possible. Be the one who sets up a whatsapp
Group afterwards. Was brilliant for me.

oneconfusedchick Mon 28-Dec-15 21:28:17

Hey - I don't have much to say but I didn't want you to read and run. It must be very hard without your mum and nan. I live far away from friends and where I grew up and it can get quite lonely especially being pregnant. I hope you find some people who you can relate to on here. You might also want to think about looking/posting in the relationships thread as I think these sort of topics can come up there.

I do not have really any close friends now but I have found friends through going to baby groups - I use netmums and google ones on my area. I also work part time (not at mo tho as on maternity leave) which keeps me feeling a little connected after have a kid.

I think people (esp those without kids) expect pregnancy and motherhood to be blissful and amazing. Personally I found pregnancy lonely and I do struggle to look after my toddler (baby groups and having plans to do these groups does help take up the time).

Def keep posting on here though - if anything just to vent! xx

NerrSnerr Mon 28-Dec-15 21:45:32

Do you have a Children's Centre nearby? I had an awful pregnancy and moved house at the same time so knew no one. When I was heavily pregnant I just walked in and asked about groups, I told them I was having a rough time and they offered so much support. I couldn't have got through without them and I am really good friends with people I have met in those groups.

Mumtobe2016 Mon 28-Dec-15 21:50:26

Thanks everyone for replying.
Things are ok. My husband helps with cooking, cleaning etc but don't think he really gets that I am lonely.
He says it's an insult that I am lonley when he is there. After any argument he tells me our marriage won't work, which makes me feel even worse as I work and cannot bring up a child alone with no one.
Maybe I shouldn't have decided to start a family, I tried to avoid it due to my bad child hood and didn't want the same things repeting themselves. .. I have tried so hard to avoid it. I am so blessed at the same time. Just very confused. Thanks everyone.
I am starting yogabellies on 20th Jan once a week so il get to meet other pregnant mums.. hopefully that will help me
Thanks

Mumtobe2016 Mon 28-Dec-15 21:56:36

What is a children's centre? Thanks

Gingergen2013 Mon 28-Dec-15 22:54:48

Children's centres are a local resource set up by the government offering help and advice for families, run cheap playgroups, courses - they're a fabulous resource if you have one nearby. Search Sure Start Children's Centre on the web and it'll help you find one local to you. I felt very lonely when I had my DS, and the groups these centres run were great for getting out of the house and meeting other Mums!

Mumtobe2016 Tue 29-Dec-15 13:09:20

thanks, i have got some details for a local sure start

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