First trimester down moments. Hormones, age (43)?

[Sezramum]

I am 10 weeks and keep having moments where I really feel quite down and tearful on and off for a couple of days. I worry about coping and feel a bit alone even though my DP is very fabulous and supportive. I blame it on my hormones but I am wondering if it is also my age (43)? It does pass but seems to be a bit of a weekly occurrence at the moment! I am hoping it is nothing more than age/hormones and maybe when I can start sharing my pregnancy with friends and family I might feel a bit better.

Does anyone else feel like this? Hoping it is just normal!

[brookeberry]

Hi Sezramum that sounds very much like hormones to me. The up and down feelings tend to be due to all of them coursing through your body and everyone reacts differently. The hardest part is to not let the negative thinking start. The moment you feel that down feeling, just say - hormones - and try and distract yourself (easier said than done I know). It's not long until they start to level out though. Of course it's normal You will feel better soon.

[CarShare]

I'd agree- sounds like hormones to me. Not sure about the age related side of things- are your worries about coping linked to your age at all? I'm 22 weeks pregnant and have had regular periods of 2-3 days where I've felt quite upset, guilty about silly things, generally down, tired, lacking motivation and tearful then I'll have 4/5 days of feeling much better and enjoying life. My DH is very supportive also and I haven't got any major issues going on that would cause this degree of upset/change in behaviour so I've resigned myself to it being cheeky hormones mugging me off

[Sezramum]

Thanks Brooke I just don't remember feeling like this with my previous 3 DC but then again I was last pregnant 10 years ago so maybe I am forgetting some of it! I wondered if I was getting more emotional with age!

My DP is so lovely and never makes me feel silly for getting upset but I hate people seeing me cry so just want to hide and blub in peace!

I must admit I am hoping that I follow my normal pattern and the constant nausea stops soon and that the emotional roller coaster will also calm down. I am looking forward to being able to enjoy this a bit more and not have to hide my already bloated belly! Only two weeks left!

[Sezramum]

Thanks CarShare, I think we cross posted.

I don't think my worries are to do with my age, more the impact on my 3 DC (16,12 & 9) and how I will cope with having to work again so quickly. I am also dreading telling my boss! I work from home so I am hoping I can juggle it with a bit of outside help, but I need to convince my boss that it will work. I guess some days when it seems like there is so much to do at home, the kids are being demanding and I am busy working I just wonder how on earth I will fit a little baby into it all!

[brookeberry]

Sezramum it's a lot to deal with 3 DC already - a big change for all of them as well - no wonder you are feeling emotional. I'm no expert (this is my first) but I believe each pregnancy is different and you could be feeling the hormones more this time. Like you say this will start to level out soon. Thankfully you have a great DH and hopefully the DC will be able to help with the wee one . . . . . .

[brookeberry]

Sorry DP!

[Sezramum]

Thanks Brooke

Here's hoping! It's hard enough to get them to keep their rooms tidy but hopefully helping with a new baby will be considered more fun

[cloudjumper]

sezra I think feeling sick and tired will make everything a lot worse, so this is probably part of the issue. I remember feeling like I'd been given a new lease of life when the nausea stopped in the second trimester and I started to be able to stay awake past 9pm again! Emotions are closely linked to physical wellbeing, so don't beat yourself up - hot chocolate, blanket, sofa, TV would be my recommendations here! Or even a short walk in the glorious weather, if you can face it. Be kind to yourself, it will get better!

[Sezramum]

Thanks cloud .

I am hoping for that new lease of life! Staying up a bit later and having a bit more energy would be fab!

The weather is great at the moment isn't it? I am just off now to take the dogs out for a stroll.

[FluffyPersian]

Hi Sezramum - I can identify with what you're saying, especially the 'alone' feelings. I'm 7+4 and I feel very up and down and despite being a very independent 33 year old, am constantly clinging to my partner at the moment.

I find it's worse at night and have been having quite dark thoughts am struggling a lot at the moment. I have never really been affected by hormones and as PMT was something I'd never really experienced, I can't believe how much crying I've been doing and how I've been feeling.. it's quite crazy.

I'm trying to just take one day at a time and also find joy in the smallest of things (today I'm really looking forward to a baked sweet potato and beans for tea, tonight!). Might sound naff, but I'm trying to keep myself happy

[Sezramum]

Hi Fluffy

Sorry to hear that you have been feeling like that. It is quite crazy what these little things are doing to our bodies! Mine also often occurs in the evening which makes me think it might be linked to tiredness then?

Maybe it is also fear of the unknown made worse by the hormones. Is this your first? It is my 4th but things are very different now for me so I have no idea how everything will turn out. DP keeps telling me it will all be fine because we will make it fine!

I have been eating quite a bit due to nausea, but trying to find something that I really enjoy or fancy eating is quite hard. When I do come up with something it is amazing how excited I feel! I am glad I am not the only one who is enjoying the simple things such as finding something tasty for tea I now fancy jacket potato with beans and cheese!

[FluffyPersian]

I think being tired really does make it worse - I always feel down when I'm tired, as if the entire world is against me... Chuck in the hormones and the feeling sick as well and it's just, well pants.

Yes, it's my first and I'm still deciding what I want to do as my moods are so severe and the fear of the unknown and anxieties are much worse than I ever thought they would be - I guess at least you roughly know what to expect if you've had 3 already? It sounds like your DP is a good'un - My boyfriend has been utterly amazing and supportive - I think that can make a massive difference if you've got good support around you.

My appetite is zero at the moment - I've never, ever been off food before but it's also really hard to find something I fancy. Anything greasy or fried makes me want to heave, so I'm finding solace in as many 'healthy' carbs as possible.... I had eggs on toast for lunch and it was yummy .

Simple things are awesome - I'm now happy as the packing boxes I ordered from eBay have turned up. I'm moving in with my boyfriend in November (we live 1/4 of a mile away from each other and have done for 7 years, but due to the latest 'development' we may as well move in together) so now I'm excited about all the sorting out and packing I can do! .

You know a jacket potato with beans makes sense

[Sezramum]

How exciting! You have so much to look forward to It sounds as though life will be very positive for your new family! It is great to hear that you also have lots of support.

Apart from moving in with the fab BF, I would not make any other major decisions whilst you are so up and down. Most things can wait until you are feeling a little more like yourself

I spend too much time staring blankly in the fridge and cupboards wondering what I feel like eating and then end up having toast. Not the best but when you don't fancy anything toast is always a winner!

Off to make my jacket potato and beans lunch now

[Maurice169]

I felt like that until week 14 or so. Hang in there, it will get better, especially when you can share your news!.

[bluewisteria]

I've found a bit of exercise helps, a beautiful walk or gentle peaceful swim. Gets the endorphins going and stops me festering!