I'm 16 weeks and while I no longer feel sicksick and have a bit more energy which is good, I'm just not enjoying this pregnancy at all and actually feel quite low despite this being a much wanted baby.
I had a MMC earlier in the year which I know is a big factor in this but I wondered if people had any tips on how I can feel happier, more connected to the baby and actually start to look forward to things instead of mix of denial and dread I'm currently experiencing...
I'm thinking maybe buying baby things, preparing stuff, some kind of mindfulness around the baby or going to a pregnancy class? Has anyone had experience of this sort of thing?
This is probably my last pregnancy assuming it all works out and I hate the thought of spending it miserably.
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Tips on enjoying pregnancy?
rageagainsttheBIL · 27/09/2015 20:16
I also had a miscarriage and when I got pg again I was certain I would miscarry again. In my first pregnancy I never imagined that I would miscarry - I thought that happened to 'other people'. But during my 2nd pregnancy I never believed I would reach 40 weeks or have a baby. It then felt like it was becoming a parent that happened to 'other people'. It got easier and I gained more confidence with every week. After the first scan I realised that we had a chance of a happy ending. I felt I needed to protect myself in case it happened again but realised that if I miscarried again I'd still be distraught whether I had gone shopping for little clothes, tried out travel systems, thought about names or not. There was no way to protect myself from the pain of miscarriage so I decided to stuff it and try my best to be excited. I started to actively try to build a bond with baby, so each night before I went to bed I massaged oil into my bump, it was like giving the baby a massage. It was quiet time spent with my baby when I thought about the future and relaxed. I had felt guilty about trying to protect myself and therefore trying to distance myself from my baby, so giving him a massage every night helped. I would recommend this for anyone, even people who hadn't had a miscarriage. I disregarded other peoples' advice on MN about not buying things too early and when I saw something cute and wanted to buy it I bought it, even if it was 'too early'. I also bought gorgeous maternity stuff and took pictures of my growing bump, and spent ages looking at it in the mirror. I stroked my bump and when I put my feet up at night I put my hands round the bottom of it, like I was holding my baby. Basically I just let go and went full-throttle into preggo-mania. I did all the preggo things I wanted to. It's easier said than done but I think really throwing myself into it helped.
Hypnobirthing and antenatal classes were also enjoyable and a great help during labour. I also met a bunch of mums who I've kept in touch with afterwards - we've all been a massive support to each other. Do you have a local bumps and babies (or similar) group? I found the support from the other mums really useful and it's been fun going through it all together.
I really hope you have the happy ending, I didn't believe I would (even when I was overdue) but I have a lovely healthy DS now. Congratulations on your pregnancy 
I'm currently 9 days away from my due date and I didn't particularly enjoy pregnancy. I felt sick, tired and had a constant rage on (much to my husbands fear/amusement!) until 22 weeks then felt pretty good from 22-30 weeks then big, tired, emotional from 30 weeks.
I found that distracting myself helped-going for walks, meeting friends, going swimming. With the hormones I threw a few things at the (private) office wall in work and my husband was very good at laughing at me when I was being ridiculous which made me laugh in the end.
I found that I had to scoop myself back up after a low day or I'd stay down so I'd treat myself to lunch or buy something off my baby list or look at holidays (that we'll prob never go on but it still did the trick). I felt so guilty not enjoying pregnancy but have now decided that it doesn't make me a bad mum-it's a bloody hard time. I just wish that people were more open about it. My friend said that she never told me beforehand because she thought it would put me off getting pregnant!
There have been low days and good days but I admit that I'm looking forward to a level of normality and sleeping on my tummy again.
For the sickness I kept jacobs crackers in my bedside table & a bottle of water and every morning ate a couple before even contemplating moving. I also kept snackpacks of raisins in the car.
Let yourself nap when you can too.
I'm sure there's more tips that will come back to my baby brain later x
Did you start the exercise? How are you feeling this week? I am 19 weeks. This is one of my milestones. The 20 week scan is in almost 2 weeks.
This thread gave me a feeling as though pushing myself into pregnancy activities might be a way forward.
I've ordered some 'I'm going to be a big sister (again)' t-shirts for my girls in anticipation of telling them.
Anyway, thanks for starting the thread. I hope some positive feelings bubble up for you soon. 
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