Irrational fears?

[Belle7688]

Did anyone else have a major fear of infertility before TTC? With no good reason? Me and DH are healthy, both early 30's, good diets etc, otherwise healthy but have been using the withdrawal method as primary contraceptive for last 18 months and we've never fallen pregnant - now looking to fall pregnant but worried that something will be wrong. My cycles have always been regular although over last year or two periods don't last as long as before and are also lighter but GP said this was not a concern but I can't help but worry as I've always wanted children.
I know this probably sounds insane but now that I'm finally in a place to start a family I'm petrified I won't be able to

[jurisane]

Yep. I was in the same boat as you. I thought the age thing was going really hurt us too (also early 30s). The first three months of trying when nothing happened were agony. Then a year went by and I thought we would never have kids. I used ovulation kits like they were going out of style. I can't even count the number of times I've peed on a stick.

Unluckily for us the first time I got pregnant I miscarried three months later. But now, over 2 years after starting, I'm 31+5 weeks and our little baby girl is looking a healthy as can be.

I hope your experience goes MUCH better but just know that it CAN happen! Talk to your doctor about it and they might be able to give you some reassurance too.

GOOD LUCK!!

[Belle7688]

Thanks so much for sharing your story. I didn't expect to feel this scared but it's like we've decided to TTC and now I'm in panic mode - I've always wanted a big family but TBH I don't think I'd be feeling this nervous if my periods hadn't changed so much lately - they're much lighter flow and lasting only about two days and this to me signals trouble but hopefully not!

[Junosmum]

Oh yes. I have an underactive thyroid and made the mistake of googling it! I scared myself silly to the point I ended up crying at the doctors, and I never cry!

As it was I came of the pill 2 months before we started trying and 6 months before we wanted me to be pregnant. I got pregnant first month and I'm now sat rubbing my 20 week bump!

[Lemonfizzypop]

I think everyone does to a certain extent, you spend so long trying NOT to get pregnant when you finally want to it seems unimaginable!

[kjwpn]

Hi Belle7688 - yes I had the same feeling. We had planned well in advance when we would start trying and so i had plenty of time to obsess about it. I knew loads of people who had struggled (as a youngster don't you just assume it will happen?!) so then started to worry it would take ages or ultimately not happen. But on a positive note, we got pregnant first month of trying with our first and recently again with our second so feel very lucky at the moment (and a little bit suspicious like something might go wrong with number 2...!) so even though you are worrying, it could be simple - I hope it happens for you soon so you can stop worrying!

[DotterP]

Hi Belle - We actually knew we may have problems conceiving as my DH has had testicular cancer, and had to bank samples for storage in case of chemo. The analysis of those samples was that his sperm was poor quality, and we would probably need IVF. We agonised for ages over when to start TTC as we weren't ready for a baby yet, but didn't want to leave it too long in case it took us a while once we started. There was alot of obsessing (mainly from me) about what if we couldn't once we started. We had both pretty much accepted that if it came to it, we would probably need IVF, or even look into adoption.

As it was, when we decided to take the plunge and start trying we fell pregnant within 6 months. They were a pretty agonising 6 months, as each month I felt more convinced it wouldn't happen, but thankfully for us it did and I'm currently 18+3. So try not to worry too much, especially if you have no prior reason to think there will be a problem. Just get on and enjoy trying!

[MummyBex1985]

Even after having one prior I'm still scared there's something wrong. It's normal when you want it so badly I think.

I accidentally fell PG first time around with my now ten year old and Sod's law says I'll be trying years for another!!

[Cornberry]

Yes. I was completely paranoid about being infertile although I am 33. I lay awake at night worrying about premature menopause. When OH and I decided to start trying, thinking it would take months at least , I became pregnant practically within minutes :)

[Daphnedolittle]

I was really worried too. Used pull out method for 2 years and never fell pregnant. We are both early 30's and healthy. We stopped using pull out method and fell pregnant the first month of trying!
I read somewhere that the pull out method if done correctly (man pulls out prior to ejaculation and not part way through) is as effective as condoms.