How do you stop the anxiousness?

[Bythedowns2]

Currently 6 weeks was feeling very sick dizzy faint, woke this morning feel much better sore boobs gone although tiredness remains. I had a missed miscarriage prior to my dd which was discovered at 12 week scan, I was very ill with daughter for first 14 weeks. This time I feel very different. But equally worried ! This is my last chance saloon periods everywhere not ovulating 35. Anyone any advice? Is this normal?

[Bythedowns2]

Anyone?

[twinsandapenguin]

Sorry to hear you are worried, early pregnancy is an anxious time even without previous problems. Symptoms can come and go, that doesn't mean that anything has gone wrong. Would an early scan be possible? It might set your mind at rest, either via nhs or privately (eg ultrasound direct)
Just try and hang in there, keep your mind off worrying if you can x

[Grizzer]

Hi Bythe, symptoms definitely come & go, especially in the early stages. I didn't really feel anything until I was 8 weeks & then the nausea hit big time! Sorry to hear about your mmc. Are you able to get an early scan?

[Bythedowns2]

It's possible but it sure if they would refer me as my symptoms have gone! I might be able to see or privately but feel like I don't want to also!!!

[daisydalrymple]

Hi, I was anxious through my last pregnancy after a mmc 2yrs earlier. I actually cried at the 12 wk scan (and again at the 20 wk one!). I was totally expecting the same no heartbeat. Except there was one as there most surely will be for you.

I just tried to focus on keeping myself healthy and relaxed. I didn't join the ante natal threads on here, as actually found it really hard reading first timers worrying about every symptom and having scans early. (Mmc was after healthy pregnancies for ds1 and dd) I must have been naive but I really enjoyed my first two pregnancies in the first trimester when people didn't know. I was surprised how many people obsess about it all going wrong, not having suffered a mc or mmc etc. I guess the Internet now shows just how common it can be so takes some of the innocence and excitement away, which is a real shame.

Can you maybe set yourself some little treats to focus on each week as a countdown to your scan date? Eg magazine and box of chocs, manicure, (or new nail varnish in with the weekly shop), bunch of flowers, watch a new film (cinema or dvd/ download whichever easiest), new bubble bath and candle...

With regards to an early scan, I chose not to, but if I had then I would have gone after 9 wks, as for me the previous baby's heart stopped beating at 8wks 4days. So I felt a scan prior to that point wouldn't have reassured me anyway, as then when I got to that milestone I would have been worried again.

Ds2 is now a healthy 9mo lying zonked on my lap flat out after his bedtime feed. Very best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy.

[Purpleball]

After a MC I paid for a private early scan at 7 weeks. It was £99 and could have been done earlier but at 7 weeks you should see a heartbeat and not need dildocam. Once you've seen a heartbeat the chances of MC are very low.
I'm now 34 weeks and about to finish work. Good luck

[Bythedowns2]

Thank you both! Yes I do need to keep off google! It was my first pregnancy that was mmc and my baby had died at 8+3 I had no idea a tiny tiny bleed two days before scan! Then my daughter who was healthy and once I had my initial scan I didn't worry ! I know it's most likely ok but it always sticks in my head. But I don't know if an early scan will help or make it worse!! I am going on holiday when 11 weeks so scan ain't be till I get back!!!

[daisydalrymple]

Hi op just saw this in my threads list, hope you've managed to relax a bit and enjoy this week.