Please help - so stressed (4 + 6)

[Ls271082]

Hey


Need some support. I suffer really badly with anxiety and I'm so worried it's getting a bit put of control. I found out I was pregnant last tues (28th) after trying for over a year. I'm so so happy. I did a clearblue plus and digital saying 1-2 weeks and my plus was quite faint (was two days before af was due approx 13dpo - not 100% sure tho).


Anyway since then I have been driving my self and hubby mental and been really down and upset as I've got it into my head things aren't right and I'm going to have a chemical pregnancy. I've done 15 tests since and been reading loads on the Internet which is making it all worse. I can't go to the dr as I'm on holiday for the next week and a bit.


My tests have been getting darker but I've found this website where you can compare your tests to others as far along as you are and mine are sometimes light or darker than some but then main stress I'm having now is my digital results. I tested yday with a digital and it said 2-3 (approx 19dpo) but I looked on Internet at that comparison site and loads of people are getting 3+ at the same stage as me - I'm now approx 20dpo, 5 days late for af and date of last af was 1st July so I should be 4+6 so on cusp of 3+ on digital but my tests have only just changed to 2-3.


Sorry if this all sounds irrational but I am really worried and anxious x



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[ammature]

Hello, I think you should stop looking online. It's not going to help. Can you do anything for your anxiety? Do you have any coping strategies? What about going for a walk or swim? I'm sure someone will be along with better advice but I think comparing the tests is never going to be useful or posative. I'm sure everyone is quite different.

[justtheonethen]

Hcg can differ wildly in each woman so comparing tests isn't helpful! Try and relax and enjoy it. Congratulations!

[babsbunny]

Hey Ls.

Fellow anxiety sufferer.

Step away from the tests. Especially the digis. They should be banned. The amount of horror stories attributed to them is unreal. Mine went backwards over a week . Am now sporting a 19 week healthy bump.

I understand the need for reassurance, but you are constantly feeding the fear. Give your phone/tablet/laptop to your partner. Distract yourself. Read a good book.

You are pregnant today. Celebrate this. Share the celebration with your partner. You can't control what happens tomorrow, and whatever it is you'll deal with it.
Today you are pregnant, and that amazing.

[Impatientwino]

Oh you poor thing you sound so anxious. Firstly, theweeks on the clear blues are weeks past conception so you need to add 2 weeks to whatever it says so

1-2 - 4 weeks pregnant
2-3 - 4 to 5 weeks pregnant
3+ - 5 weeks+ pregnant

You shouldn't show a 3+ until you are well over 5 or even 6 weeks pregnant.

Therefore if you are 4+6 you could be showing a 2-3 but only just?

Step away from the tests. There is nothing that they will tell you. You're pregnant, congratulations!

Comparing your HCG levels to someone elses is pointless because it differs so greatly according to the individual.

Also, step away from Google!

I know it's a nerve wracking time but there is virtually nothing you can do to cause or prevent an early miscarriage. They are written in the stars. I've had one successful pregnancy and 1 miscarriage and I didn't do anything differently.

Currently pg again at 7+4 and still crapping myself but I try to have a little fret and then think of something different. It's sort of working!

Wishing you a boring and uneventful pregnancy

[chopsface]

Congratulations L you're pregnant! As the others say, step away from the tests! Enjoy this time before the nausea kicks in. There is absolutely nothing else you can do right now. I wish you a healthy happy pregnancy x