Shell shocked at 8 wk scan

[fisher1]

We went for our 8 week + 4 days scan today, and was expecting good news due to all pregnancy symptoms being there - nausea, sore boobs, heartburn etc....
Well the consultant just looked at us and said sorry there is a problem! The sack is there and very clear to see, there is a very tiny bean there but he thinks that it stopped growing at 6 weeks. They said they could see a flicker but advised us that we would probably miscarry soon.
We have another scan Monday at the hospital to double check and then discuss options - has anyone else been told this but had good news?

[honeysucklejasmine]

I've got no experience but my fingers are firmly crossed for you.

[KittyBennett]

No. Sorry. Have had this and the outcome was as predicted. But I googled like crazy and there are plenty of stories where it worked out well.

[NoMontagues]

Sorry to hear you've had this shock OP .

I'm afraid I have no experience either but just wanted to wish you the very best for Monday

[mummyneedinganswers]

Fisher please please make sure they are 100% positive that baby is gone before considering anything I have experience in this exact thing. I am 19,weeks pregnant and when I was meant to be 7 weeks I went to maternity with severe pain they told me it was ectopic and sent me for surgery at 3am they gave me morphine n said I had to wait til morning for surgery. I got to the morning and asked to be rescanned they discovered it wasn't ectopic it was a ruptured ovarian cyst. Anyway that all cleared up and I was sent to epu to have another scan of baby at the scan there was no baby no fetal pole and just a sac measuring 4 weeks. I was rescanned two days later they said my baby didn't survive to cyst bursting. DEVASTATING they requested I return on the Monday for a rescan a final Time and on that Monday the sac had grew but still no fetal pole so they told me miscarriage was imminent I refused to go ahead with anything until one hundred percent certain a and two weeks later I had another scan and baby was there. Please make sure they are certain about any outcome I am 19 weeks pregnant and that all happened in first few weeks of my pregnancy. I reallyhope yours is a good outcome, but as you can see I measured 3 weeks behind and was fine.


Good luck xx

[Brummiegirl15]

I'm sorry op I wish I could say I had a positive outcome but it happened for me twice.

However, good outcomes do happen but you do need to prepare for potentially sad news. I'm so sorry that will not be what you want to hear

But we are here for advice and hand holding if needed. Good luck Monday

[sizethree]

I'm so sorry you're going through this.
I had very similar experience last year at an early scan. I noticed a little amount of blood when I wiped one morning so I went to my EPU foran emergency scan at 8 weeks and although there was a flicker of a heartbeat, the baby was measuring 2 weeks behind. And sadly over the next 48 hours, I had a full natural miscarriage.
Hopefully another poster may come along with a happier outcome. But I think it's wise to prepare for bad news on Monday, just in case.
If bad news is confirmed, you'll be offered either meducal management (oral pills and pessaries which encourage the body to release the pregnancy - either in the comfort of home, or in the day unit of the hospital) or have an operation (called either an a ERPC or D&C - which removes while you're under general anaesthetic).
But for now just rest up, get support fr loved ones and try to absorb the news given today.
There's some incredible women coping with similar situations and in limbo between scans on the pregnancy loss board, which you may want to dip into for support too.
Really sorry you're in this situation.

[scarednoob]

Just wanted to say sorry for your shock and upsetting news and really hoping for a positive outcome.

[fisher1]

Thank you all for your kind words and wishes, I'm still in shock and So is my husband.... Everything (even now) seems ok, ALL day sickness, waking up with heartburn and feeling generally wiped out, so to be told what we did, we just couldn't believe it.
Mummyneedsanswers - I will make sure they are 100% before I let them do anything, I have read a few stories on line where they have been wrong so there is a glimpse of hope even though it is very small.
This would/will have been our 3rd try.... We have to have IUI each time. The last one resulted in miscarriage at 6 weeks

[brickiemum2]

Miracles do happen so make sure they are sure. Unfortunately when this happened to us they were right, the baby wasn't developing. I never did go into a natural miscarriage despite waiting 4 weeks and ended up with surgery to resolve it. It was doubly hard as I still had full pregnancy symptoms during that time and for a while afterwards. Fingers crossed you have a better outcome.

[DulcetMoans]

So sorry for your news fisher. My experience did end in MC but as mentioned above, google does have positive stories. For example, you could be less pregnant than you thought or on a second pregnancy in a short amount of time.

If it is to end in MC, you could find that happens before your scan Monday so be prepared. Once I discovered I had lost first baby in MMC at scan I began to lose naturally a day or so later - like once body had it confirmed, it let it go. Just be prepared in case it happens over the weekend, make sure you have someone with you.

[casiopeia]

I am so sorry OP, I know very well how stressful this is, sadly have been there very recently. My story did not have a happy ending, but I know plenty of stories that prove otherwise. It will be 50/50 now and fingers crossed for you it is the happy sode of a 50 .

In any case, do not agree to a medical/surgical management until they are very sure, often one scan can be mistaken and as long as there is a heartbeat nothing is lost! Best of luck x

[casiopeia]

mummyneedinganswers what a most amazing story and congratulations! (Also can't believe such things happen, they must have given you a fright of your life :(((

[fisher1]

For the first time ever I have signed myself off work and am preparing for the worst this wk end. My last miscarriage happened over the wk end and it was very scary.
Thank you all for your messages x

[mummyneedinganswers]

Casiopeia it was the worst few weeks of my life. Every time we got a bit of good news it was stripped away instantly. Its was hell those few weeks but all Ican think now is if they hhadn't rescanned me and just went on in to do the surgery I wouldn't have my baby now anyway. I've had 4 miscarriages before this pregnancy so to have all of that going on I was emotionless, everyone kept telling me how well I was taking everything and it wasn't true I wasn't coping well I just shut myself off from it all to protect myself it took me to around 15 weeks to actually regain confidence and feel like I was enjoying being pregnant it completely messed my head and emotions that's why I completely sympathize with op its a terrible thing to comprehend. I'm glad mine was a good outcome but for other it isn't always and I couldn't imagine how I would have coped if mine hadn't of been good. X

[MummyPiggy87]

Fisher I pray that it's just an error, good luck on Monday, I've heard this a few times before on here, some end up being good news. All the best

Mummyneedsadvice wow.. That is absolutely shocking, you poor thing going through heartbreak after heartbreak!!

[ChicaMomma]

i would say be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. Is there any chance your dates are wrong and that it is really a 6 week gestation?
I hope you have an OK weekend, it's awful news to receive.

[fisher1]

Because it was done via IUI all are dates Re correct there is only a few days that it could possibly be out as I was scanned 3 times before the IUI....
I feel a little in limbo and a bit emotionless at the moment as I do t know how to think or feel. I have been told today that the EPU clinic will not do anything unless there and I are 100% sure.

There are some really strong women on here, your all amazing x

[fisher1]

Well we had the scan and they couldn't find a heart beat and have told us the baby has died, by law they have to leave it 7 days before they can do anything - they will then rescan and I'm booked in the following day for surgery.
They think I should miscarry before then but at the moment my body still thinks it's pregnant - all day sickness, fatigue and heartburn!
Thank you all for your kind messages of support over the wk end x

[scarednoob]

you poor thing and poor little baby. what awfully sad news, really sad to hear it. thinking of you.

[oddfodd]

I'm so sorry - missed miscarriages are so cruel. You're in my thoughts x

[fallingoffthetoast]

Just read through your thread fisher1 really sorry to hear the sad news. I'll b thinking of you try and stay strong

[sizethree]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It truly is one of life's hardest and most heartbreaking experiences. You're in good company as there's a lot of women on these threads who have been through similar, myself included.
In the wise words of Oscar Wild - 'When you're going through hell, keep going.'
Big hugs.

[MummyPiggy87]

Oh how awful I'm so sorry, you poor thing. I think a lot of us can relate to how your feeling. So sorry

[NeuroticFox1]

So so sorry to hear that, take care x

[stupidgirl45]

So sorry to hear this hugs take care of yourself and OH xx