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Thank God for women...

(38 Posts)
resipsa Wed 01-Jul-15 17:15:03

Just got off a delayed, packed and over-heated commuter train. Packed when I got on but immediately 2 women offered me their seats whereas the overweight young man taking up 2 seats unnecessarily just looked up then down again. Of course, being 35 weeks pregnant and a bit, well, hot, I turned down the offers and made him move. So glad there are women in the world who get it!

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie Wed 01-Jul-15 17:17:47

Maybe he needed to sit down too? You sound incredibly rude and entitled.

PurpleDaisies Wed 01-Jul-15 17:20:07

I think you're generalising a bit there. Sorry you had a bad experience but there are plenty of decent blokes out there as well as women who will offer to give up their seats.

Why is the guy who didn't offer you his seat's weight relevant?

ScooseIsLoose Wed 01-Jul-15 17:20:31

What's his weight got to do with anything? I second the above poster you sound incredibly entitled

LadyStark Wed 01-Jul-15 17:21:19

Funny, I've been doing a little study whilst pregnant and in a good few months of commuting on four separate journeys per day I have been offered a seat by other women just three times.

I think it's a little rude making someone stand, he may have needed the seat as much as you and you had other people willing to offer you a seat. Pleased you didn't have to stand though, it's a horrible day for commuting.

WiIdfire Wed 01-Jul-15 17:23:22

Hold on, unless I've read it wrong, she said he was taking up two seats. No-one is entitled to two seats, she is perfectly in her rights to get him to move over so she can sit next to him rather than allow someone else to stand up.

Nolim Wed 01-Jul-15 17:26:04

Was the guy in one of the priority seats? But in any case if two ppl (women or men is irrelevant) offer their seats is because they can afford to in terms of comfort and health. Maybe the overweight guy could not.

GreenBoatRedBoat Wed 01-Jul-15 17:29:25

I think the point was that he was taking up two seats, rather than the op expecting him to give it up ahead of the two women.

PurpleDaisies Wed 01-Jul-15 17:33:46

The thread title "thank goodness for women" was what mislead me!

Seat hogging is definitely not restricted to men and I still don't get what his weight has to do with anything.

LuckyLopez Wed 01-Jul-15 17:34:48

Being pregnant doesn't make you queen of everything. You can't berate someone else's manners and then be a bitch yourself. Get a hold of yourself!

PurpleDaisies Wed 01-Jul-15 17:34:58

By seat hogging I mean using one for your bag etc when it is busy.

amarmai Wed 01-Jul-15 17:43:43

weird ! who are these pps who are in such a hurry to attack a 35 week pregnant woman who thinks a man taking up 2 seats should move over rather than 2 women offering her their seats?

Nolim Wed 01-Jul-15 17:49:07

weird ! who are these pps who are in such a hurry to attack a 35 week pregnant woman who thinks a man someone taking up 2 seats should move over rather than 2 women people offering her their seats?

dancinglorna1984 Wed 01-Jul-15 17:50:28

I think the heat is getting to everyone on this thread... If he was taking up two seats then he should move. At 36 weeks with my first child I have found that a lot of people just choose to ignore pregnant women and are pretty rude to be fair in regards to giving up seats etc IME.

ScooseIsLoose Wed 01-Jul-15 18:26:39

But op didn't say she made him move over she said she made him move! That could mean anything if the op was clearer people wouldn't be jumping to conclusions

resipsa Wed 01-Jul-15 18:27:19

Oh heck - it was meant to be light hearted. That'll teach me! I didn't make him stand, I just asked for one of the two seats he was sitting in. Not so awful. Entitled? No, just wanted a seat. If that's entitled (such a ridiculous Mumsnet word that real people don't use), we're all in trouble. I usually like a seat when I'm not pregnant too but I guess some of you would let AN Other have 2 seats and ride on the roof for fear of seeming entitled!

ScooseIsLoose Wed 01-Jul-15 18:27:20

Weird double post under two different names hmm

ScooseIsLoose Wed 01-Jul-15 18:29:05

I still don't know why his weight was relevant confused

resipsa Wed 01-Jul-15 18:30:32

It was just a description, not a criticism. You lot are touchy.

Appleblossom82 Wed 01-Jul-15 18:33:22

Poor resipsa ! Im glad you made him budge over. Selfish bugger!

GlitzAndGigglesx Wed 01-Jul-15 18:35:21

He probably moved out of embarrassment if you pointed out he's in 2 seats. Lovely hmm

resipsa Wed 01-Jul-15 18:38:47

Oh for God's sake; I didn't 'point it out'. I'm not rude. I just asked for the middle seat. The train was rammed and he should have left it available so he didn't need to be asked. People, really, this is the pregnancy board, remember. I'm off and God forbid anyone comes on here tonight looking for light relief.

Viviennemary Wed 01-Jul-15 18:38:58

If you can't travel then give up work earlier. That's what I had to do.

PurpleDaisies Wed 01-Jul-15 18:48:33

Totally fine to ask any person to move if they are using two seats. I couldn't work out how men verses women came into it, and generalising that only women would give up a seat for a pregnant lady wasn't really fair on half the population (that's how your op reads).

Anyway, glad you got a seat and hope you're not melting too much in this hot weather.

MistressMerryWeather Wed 01-Jul-15 18:49:49

I am a women and would have offered you my seat.

I also would have found it odd if you had refused my offer and decided to round on someone unnecessarily.

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