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Catty, teasing work women :-/

(27 Posts)
sophiaslullaby Tue 09-Jun-15 18:34:21

A close friend (who works on another team) said she had to stand up for me today as the women on her team were making jeering comments about my bump. Im 19 weeks and have just 'popped' -can no longer call it bloat!
Apparently they were saying that i was walking around the other day sticking my belly out in a show-offy way.

I dont really know how to take this -these women don't know me so why are they being so catty? My hormones want to go up and smack them. But my actual meek, shy self wants to cry and hide away in big baggy tops.
I would never walk around showing off my bump, I'm still feeling awkward when people look at my belly, like an invasion of privacy so last thing I'd do is walk around in a smug way and I hate that they think this of me. Then again, they dont know me.

Sorry, this post sounds childish, i should be old enough to cope with teasing, but its just hit a nerve.

Bellabutterfly2014 Tue 09-Jun-15 18:40:20

Oh hunny that's awful. Just ignore them And be proud of your bump.
Some of the people I work with aren't very nice in general and a couple have made comments that have got back to me but I just ignore them x

ejclementine Tue 09-Jun-15 18:40:40

Even if you did want to show off your lovely bump, what difference does it make to them! They sound awful and are probably jealous and bored. If it were me I would confront them and ask what their fascination was with me and my bump. flowers

Jelliebabe1 Tue 09-Jun-15 18:41:14

Try not to fret about it. I bet they won't say anything else about it as your friend has now spoken up for you. Don't let it affect you either as this is a time of massive change in your body. You're bound to be feeling self conscious, I know I am. I am just still at the i look fat stage (well i AM large) but still... I just look fatter!

RandomMess Tue 09-Jun-15 18:44:47

I'm not sure why your friend told you sad

It's probably just because you're the newbie and as a group that's what they're like when they're together angry

sophiaslullaby Tue 09-Jun-15 18:51:10

Aww thankyou for all your lovely comments! (Im all teary now blush) Please all come to work and confront the women with me!!

I hear (from my friend) that they are truely nasty gossipers, just never thought i'd be a topic of their conversations -what did i do?!
Im actually friends their manager (heh heh heh!) but i will be the bigger person and ignore them. I believe karma will bite them in the arse. Might lovingly pat bump as they walk past...

sophiaslullaby Tue 09-Jun-15 18:52:42

random mess hmm...yes a small part of me did think "what did it achieve telling me that?" hmm

CultureSucksDownWords Tue 09-Jun-15 18:54:09

Tbh your friend sounds like she likes a gossip too. There was no need to tell you, just defend you to them and then walk away.

Hold your head up high, a bump is nothing to be ashamed of smile

CuppaSarah Tue 09-Jun-15 18:59:14

Have any of them been pregnant before? If not they might be a little naive about pregnancy and almost see it as attention seeking. I mean after all, we all choose at our booking in appointment if we want a pregnancy with or without a bump don't we? Anyone who chooses to have a bump is obviously a just show off wink

I'd say don't let it bother you, but no what they're saying is horrible a childish. Be disgusted by them, even tell them how vile they are if you want to. But at the end of the day, don't let it weigh you down. If catty women are being nasty, it's usually basic jealousy, which means you must look fab with a bump.

spillyobeans Tue 09-Jun-15 19:46:17

'Sticking your belly out and showing it off' shock why would they even think that never mind say it. Not worth your time seriously. They're probably jealous that you'll get more attention, or maybe they're just complete idiots! flowers

thesmallbear Tue 09-Jun-15 19:52:03

I walked around showing my bump off. There was no way I was going to walk around feeling frumpy in baggy clothes! They sound jealous.

LolaStarr Tue 09-Jun-15 19:52:22

Sounds like jealousy to me! Just ignore the bored, catty idiots and enjoy your lovely bump �� I barely showed until I was nearly due with my little one and I desperately wanted a bump the whole way through! grin

sophiaslullaby Tue 09-Jun-15 19:55:22

Haha! CuppaSarah -choosing to have a bump! I did, i chose the wobbly bum too for good measure.

The worse woman has an older child, she's sour about life i think from what i hear. Other one is w/o children.

lauraa4 Tue 09-Jun-15 19:58:12

Offer to make them all tea tomorrow morning and lace their cups with laxatives grin

On a serious note woman are sometimes horrible nasty bitches and there's no need for those comments. They are all probably hideously miserable in their own lives that they feel the need to gossip about you anyway flowers

fattymcfatfat Tue 09-Jun-15 20:01:42

well then if she has a child chances are she's pissed off because you look better with a bump than she did wink

and if your a show off then what am I? the lollipop lady had guessed by the time I was six weeks gone shock (this is baby 3 so my belly just sort of expanded immediately!)

OnlyLovers Tue 09-Jun-15 20:04:03

Sounds like they need lives and/or aren't working hard enough, if they've got time to think up silly catty things to say about colleagues.

Ignore them. They're not worth the headspace.

contractor6 Tue 09-Jun-15 20:15:07

Be proud of your bump and the amazing thing you are doing. So show it off maternity body con dresses for work everyday please!
And don't let the bees with itches get you down. flowers

sophiaslullaby Tue 09-Jun-15 20:46:18

Huge thank you to all your kind support, i've just bawled my eyes out on DH shoulder but feel LOADS better now grin-think hormones have made it worse (i was the green hulk yesterday), today a weeping mess. I thought a thousand times ways of how i could get them back and have instead decided to let them be obviously miserable and baby & me will keep to our bubble, be calm & happy like we were before i knew anyone actually gave a s**t about my bump smile
flowers

scarednoob Tue 09-Jun-15 20:47:56

Nasty jealous pieces of work. I bet not one of then would dare do anything than coo to your face.

You're pregnant. You're having an amazing baby. You're happy. You don't need to go around slagging off strangers to feel good about yourself. I'd rather be you than them any day of the week. So screw them - stick your bump out even further and start stroking it right in front of them!!!!

sophiaslullaby Tue 09-Jun-15 21:16:20

grin The one lady asked if i had a bump on Fri so i shyly pulled top tight to show....she said it was just bloat. shock i didnt know how to answer her so walked off (with my bloat-inducing sausage &bacon sarnie!)
Other lady has never spoken to me in 2half years (we are in different teams on different floors, she just knows my face and name in passing)

natjayne213 Tue 09-Jun-15 22:17:39

Ignore them all!! I've had it where people have suggested I am just eating too many pies.. oh and the father is not my hubby but a lad from the warehouse. Too many people can't keep their mouths shut.. learn to laugh it off and keep your head high hun x

Blueflower2015 Tue 09-Jun-15 22:21:32

Hold your head up high and know those people have nothing in their own lives to talk about!

Office gossip is horrendous - I've experienced it and given the father of my child who left me once he found out I was pregnant also worked at the same place, I got it big time but I just remind myself they must have empty and bitter lives!

Be strong - they are weak and small
X

NowWhatSoWhat Tue 09-Jun-15 22:54:54

I hear you! Ignore ignore ignore. (But after having a sleepless night myself over similar issues, I know how depressing it is and some days "ignore" is easier said than done). The comments say nothing about you (although I suspect you look fabulous and they reckon you have no business looking so good, and it's killing them), and everything about them. I'm embarrassed for them.

sophiaslullaby Wed 10-Jun-15 08:00:23

Sorry to hear others have had similar work issues -how and why can they speak before thinking?
Commenting on who the father is is nasty. And Blueflower im sorry to hear you had troubles with your ex. you sound as if your the bigger person though.

Im going to try and ignore today but i cant help feeling she should be 'told' -but that'll stress me out more.
My 'bump' is bigger today too as just eaten huge bowl of porriage so they can discuss that over their morning lattes while i get on with life.
Have a good day all x

SociallyAwkward Wed 10-Jun-15 08:09:08

your friend sounds like she likes a nasty gossip too. if she does it again, ask her "why are you telling me this".

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