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No nookie....what so ever!

(13 Posts)
weelamb123 Sat 16-May-15 18:20:42

I'm 30 weeks pregnant and we've barely had sex since I fell pregnant. We haven't had sex in about 3 weeks now. Since my bump has become obvious and I'm getting bigger its like dh is scared to come near me. I'm not really in mood anyway but I worry he'll get fed up. Ive also got thrush now and I'm permanent pain with a flared rib so its difficult anyway. Anyone else in similar position xx

Whatabout Sat 16-May-15 18:28:54

Haven't done it since conception. SPD, previa and knackerdness mean I can't be arsed / can't. It'll change.

Gillian1980 Sat 16-May-15 18:31:58

We've had much less than usual all the way through but it's dropped off a lot since about 20 weeks. Nothing for about 2 weeks now.

In our case it's cos I just can't get comfy, all positions feel awkward and uncomfortable physically which kind of kills the mood.

I do fancy my DH still and vice versa and not worried about hurting the baby etc.

I found that having a bit more hand action with each other works well to stay close and satisfy each other.

Withalittlesparkle Sat 16-May-15 18:38:13

In all honesty it sounds like you could do with a sex break anyway

With DS we managed maybe 3 times in the entire pregnancy, nothing in 3rd trimester. I worried too that DH was satisfied, but it all came back after I'd had the baby (and recovered from a prolonged healing period) when I was ready DH was happy to assist!! I'm now pregnant with DC2 and we've already managed 3 times (I'm almost 11 weeks)

applecore0317 Sat 16-May-15 19:33:24

We stopped at 8 weeks cause of bleeding and then my consultant said not to until I got to 36 weeks. To be honest it had been so long I found I wanted to, we stick to spooning and he doesn't touch the bump during. A lot of people don't though.

Whilst we did abstain we talked about it, and I was perfectly happy for him to sort himself out if needed, joked about the length of his showers. Made it more bearable if that makes sense?

muddylettuce Sun 17-May-15 11:22:43

I wouldn't worry too much. Dp and I have managed it a handful of times this pregnancy in the brief interlude between hyperemesis and spd. He jokes about it but ultimately knows it's a temporary lull. If the lack of intimacy bothers you then just make an effort to cuddle, kiss etc. x

dillydollydarling Sun 17-May-15 11:53:56

Our sex life was pretty much on hold for a couple of months when I was suffering with hyperemisis. Since then, I've developed thrush and piles which makes things pretty uncomfortable down there for me. OH did go through a phase of getting quite upset at the thought that our sex life was over for good, but he seems to be better about it now. I just make an effort to keep him satisfied in other ways and I understand if he needs to satisfy himself every now and then.

Its not permanent smile

luckiestgirlintheworld Sun 17-May-15 12:05:49

As long as you're talking about it and it's not the elephant in the room, then just do whatever you're both comfortable with.

mrsjskelton Sun 17-May-15 19:03:44

We've managed it twice since conception and I just get massive cramps leaving me bed ridden for about an hour! DH is now a little worried but neither of us are bothered just now... I figure we'll do it when we do it!wink

abbiebunn Sun 17-May-15 21:29:38

I'm 37+2. Nothing changed for my and my DH, we still have it most days smile and am surprised and happy to say my DH loves the way I look and is still very much attracted to me.

cowbag1 Sun 17-May-15 21:42:57

We didn't have sex for the whole of my pregancy. At first we were both too nevous (it's our 1st DC), then I developed SPD and in my last trimester I just felt too uncomfortable, humongous and generally gross!

Fortunately our sex life has now resumed (DC 5 mo now)and is actually better and more frequent than pre-DC (I think because I'm not on any form of hormonal contraception) so things aren't ruined forever!

DH never moaned once throughout my whole prganancy. We kept up the kissing, cuddles and intimacy and he was happy to sort himself out if need be. I don't think any decent DP would complain; they should be supportive about everything you're going through and understand that their sexual satisfaction takes a back seat while your busy growing a little person!

Rebecca1608 Sun 17-May-15 21:48:42

I'm 33 weeks and have 3 weeks to go and me and my OH are still intimate most nights and i keep him satisfied in other ways although we only have sex once/twice a week sometimes not at all because often i fancy it but i don't enjoy it because of my huge bump positioning is rubbish and i'm knackered.

BurkeyBabyNo1 Sun 17-May-15 21:49:18

We didn't have sex from the moment we found we was pregnant until 20wks! With two minor bleeds, ongoing spinal problems and the fact I seriously didn't fancy it. Like you I did worry but I knew it had to happen when we was both ready and boom, happy days! It'll happen, just try not to worry too much, it'll happen when ur ready x

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