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Not sure I can do this!

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lottie10312 · 17/04/2015 08:52

So was woken up at 4:30 this morning to sounds of my OH throwing up... on the bedroom floor.
He went out drinking last night and obviously thought it would be a good idea to get absolutely wasted.. but that's a topic for another time...

Anyway, I'm only 5 wks, he doesn't know yet (I found out yesterday!) and work don't know, in fact only me, the doctor and I suppose mumsnet know now.

Thing is, I couldn't even bear the sight, the smell of his puke, any of it, I close my eyes and it's all I can think about... makes me wonder, is it maybe such a good idea to have a baby? He's obviously not mature enough, despite being 5 years older than me and I just cannot deal with icky stuff.. I was so excited to be pregnant, as I was told there was a very slim chance but so stuck on what would actually be best?

Help!

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comeagainforbigfudge · 17/04/2015 09:11

congratulations on pregnancy

Tell him. He doesn't know you are pregnant so how does he know that his life is changing, think you being a tiny bit unfair.

Of course if this is a regular occurrence then serious words/thinking need to be had. But you still need to tell him you are pregnant.

Karelia81 · 17/04/2015 09:17

I'm not a fan of dealing with icky stuff either, but I think when it's your own baby you do it out of love for them - no-one wants to clear up sick or poo but you get on with it. I can understand that your OH throwing up on the bedroom floor is repulsive - but your baby won't have had a skinful of booze....
Comeagain is right, tell him and give him the chance to be by your side.

And congratulations.

Cornberry · 17/04/2015 09:28

I think there is no woman who doesn't have a wobble during pregnancy, regardless of how much she might want a baby. It doesn't mean it's a bad idea, it just means you are being cautious and thinking it through as you should. Tell your OH.

Number3cometome · 17/04/2015 09:57

Baby sick and adult puke are a world apart! You really do deal with it fine. I know a ton of people who hate icky stuff and cope fine with babies.

But, it doesn't sound to me like that is the main issue - is something else wrong?
Was baby planned?

ChatEnOeuf · 17/04/2015 09:57

He doesn't know yet, so how is he expected to know to change his behaviour.

Grown-up drunk sick is vastly different from newborn sick anyway...

lottie10312 · 17/04/2015 10:34

Okay, I probably came across a little harsh in my first post haha, only reason I didn't tell him was because he went out with a few mates from work and came home drunk- I'd much rather tell him when he's sober and can understand what a big thing this is for us haha!

I am really excited to have a baby but I'm also terrified- we decided to let nature take it's course and it happened a bit sooner than we expected!

But thankyou for all your reassurance- think I was just having one of those OMG moments!

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Number3cometome · 17/04/2015 10:36

You'll be fine OP, we all have those moments

sianihedgehog · 17/04/2015 10:57

Tell him! He'll probably have a few wobbles, but my OH is 5 years younger, too, and he's handling it as well as I am - I'd want to go out on the piss to deal with all the anxiety if I could, so can't really blame him. :)

comeagainforbigfudge · 17/04/2015 11:00

Oh I agree. That is definitely a sober chat.

You'll be fine op.
Just be prepared for lots of those "what am i doing" moments

I'm 32 weeks and still have them.
I refer to them as my disaster planning moments ie thinking through the worst scenario and then steps to sort it. Keeps me sane.

Have a good chat with him tonight and all will be well

lottie10312 · 17/04/2015 12:56

Thank you all for your reassurance!

But I have just had another (slightly gross) thought...

I am at work all day today so have asked the neighbour to go round and check that OH is okay (although I have no sympathy for him, I quite like having him around) and he has text me saying it's not a pretty sight and he doesn't envy whoever has to clear that up...

But... it's me that has to clear it up!! Any advice? Suffering with morning sickness quite badly today- someone burned toast at work and my stomach flipped... how am I going to manage that?!

Sorry if I sound really moany but I think I've come down off my high of finding out!

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babymouse · 17/04/2015 13:04

It's his mess - he can clear it up.

Otherwise a wand attachment on a carpet washer may be helpful

HazelShade · 17/04/2015 13:24

Why on earth should you clear it up? It's his mess! He clears it up.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! You'll be fine, really - everyone has wobbles, that's normal.

sianihedgehog · 17/04/2015 13:25

Are you kidding? He made the mess, he cleans it.
But yeah, a carpet washer is an absolute godsend. Get him to buy one!

comeagainforbigfudge · 17/04/2015 13:54

Eh. He cleans it up..... obviously

Poor you, it was coffee and cigarette smoke that was the worst for me, oh and chicken being cooked .

Text him and tell him you expect place cleaned before you get home.

comeagainforbigfudge · 19/04/2015 10:33

How'd you get on lottie?
Did he clean up after himself?
And did you break the news?

Hope all is well

Pigriver · 19/04/2015 11:11

I have this worry almost daily. Not just sick and poo (I've changed nappies before) but everything else.
DH snores (had an op to fix but it came back ) and it gives me the range, any repetitive annoying noise just sets me on edge. I suddenly thought 'what if baby snores/snuffles all night?' I can deal with waking up, crying , feeding but unrelentless noise is something else. My DH has been trying to reassure me that love will conquer all!
Also noisy, beepy toys. WIBU to not allow them? My friend said they are unavoidable.....

lottie10312 · 26/04/2015 19:31

Hiya!

Sorry for the late reply, it has been an absolutely mental couple of weeks after crashing my car :(

But he took it so so well! He's all excited and has already started planning out how to have the nursery, make the house baby proof etc. I think he just knows this is his chance to prove he really is a grown up!

He did clean up his mess, and has been nothing but loving... very protective of me now though! We've both agreed to wait until 12 weeks before telling work, parents etc, just because we have had issues in the past.

Just really looking forward to what the future brings us now which is nice. Still have some omg moments but they seem to be passing a bit- the only problem is the constant need to pee haha!

But any advice on what to expect? This is our first child so some experienced mummy help would be lovely!

PS Pigriver I'm afraid noisy toys are unavoidable! Even if you ban them, everyone will buy them- just a natural part of kids!

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comeagainforbigfudge · 26/04/2015 19:42

Aw fab news lottie glad he so excited about baby.

I hope your car wasn't too badly damaged and you are okay?

I have no advice for you as this is my first.
Only thing I can advise is to listen to your body and slow down when it's telling you to!

(I'm so stubborn and won't let my OH help me when I really should. But the further on I get, the more I have to accept I'm no longer wonder woman and let him help!!)

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