3rd baby and scared.

[Charliej86]

My daughter is 9, son is 7 and I'm 21weeks with baby 3. I can't wait for his arrival but I keep thinking something is going to go wrong or I won't cope. I worried at first scan that there was going to be nothing there. Then at second I was sure they were going to say there was something wrong. i don't want to put this on my partner as I know I'm just being daft and he's so excited as this is his 1st baby. I feel quite alone.

[fattymcfatfat]

hi there. im on number 3 aswell and im 20+2. DS is 6 and DD is 14 months. come on over to july antenatal club. theres plenty of is and we may be abke to put your mind at rest

[Charliej86]

Thanks will have a look for it, not sussed this place out yet.

[RhiannonElward]

You're definitely not alone, I'm expecting my third and I've worried more about this one than my previous two. I feel like I've been very lucky to have my two happy and healthy kids and I'm pushing my luck with number 3.

I too wonder how I'm going to manage, but I will, and so will you, we're practised mothers and we'll figure it out. Please talk to your dp, if you need support then let him support you. If it were the other way around you'd want to help him, wouldn't you?

Do you know what you're having or are you leaving that as a surprise for the big day :)

[Number3cometome]

Hello! You definately need to come over to July Ante-natal!

20+5 over here, I have a DS (12) and a DD (7) from a previous relationship.

I am not going to lie, the thought of it all going wrong with my partner has crossed my mind several times (he is younger, his first baby too) and I keep worrying what if I am left as a single Mum again but this time with 3 kids?!

It's all totally irrational, but those worries then have a knock on effect as like you I worry at every scan and appointment!

I had very difficult pregnancies with DS & DD, which doesn't help.

But I am slowly coming round to the realisation that this time it may well be perfectly fine.

OH is very exciting and I wouldn't want to dampen his enthusiasm.

[S2b16]

Snap, 3rd baby and more terrified with this one. Mine are 10 and 6 to previous partner.
I feel like things are too good to be true keep expecting bad news. I'm 19+4, scan is in 2 weeks and I'm terrified something is wrong although baby is active and I've no symptoms to suggest otherwise.
Partner is so laid back, he thinks I'm crazy. Not so worried about after birth & coping. I'm worried something will go wrong with baby and the effect it will have on us as a couple. We still date a lot when my dds are at their dads.

[Charliej86]

Wow so pleased I'm not alone! Rhiannon that's exactly what I've been thinking, my first 2 are so fit n healthy surely I can't be as lucky again. We expecting a boy so oh is over the moon he gets to carry on his name.

I know I would complain at him if he was keeping any worries from me I just can't find a way to tell him without making him worry.

I'm not worried about our relationship. we date when kids are at dads even when they're at school.

[lilyanna812]

Hi I am expecting my 3rd, my DS1 is 3, my DS2 is 1.5 and I am now 16 weeks and the sole bread winner of the family.
The baby was unexpected and I am more worried and anxious this time round.

But have faith....kids will grow up and the woes will subside....one day at a time, that's all any of us really have

[RingInTheNew]

I could have written some of these posts myself. Am 9 weeks with number 3 and am still getting my head round the fact that we're not just sticking with the two healthy children we have. The 'pushing your luck' thing really resonates. But then I think about all the families I know with three and generally all is fine... I think it's harder when you have a largish gap between child 2 and 3, and you're looking at the prospect of starting the baby phase all over again. Good luck - hope you feel more positive soon.

[tomtomthepipersson]

Hi, me too. Scared about every thing! Life has just got easier and we will now turn it up side down again. I am also 40 and and exhausted with the two I already have. I am 9 weeks. Having the harmony test next week so hoping that seeing the baby will make me feel excited. It is good to see I am not alone in these feelings. I got my booking in appointment next week too and when I got the letter I just thought ....oh no more blood test! I cant be bothered to go! This poor baby..hope s/he doesnt feel my negativity.