12+2 and terrified of miscarriage

[ambientolf]

This is my first baby and I am so far having a straightforward pregnancy (I.e. 2 successful scans, no bleeding or pains, no symptons whatsoever really) but I am terrified of miscarriage. My mum had 3 after me hence me being an only child & I feel like because I grew up with that, I can shake off feelings that it will happen to me. I am even worrying about baby having downs or spina bifta or some anomaly at the 20 week scan! And if not, then having a still born! Then I'm thinking about cot death! I just can't give myself a break. It doesn't help that a woman at work is 19 weeks pregnant & my cousin is 30 weeks so I know if I do miscarriage I will have to see a pregnant woman everyday & a baby in the family due in May!!! I'm not really asking a question, I just feel like letting it all out as I can't talk to anyone about how I feel. I just wish I could be excited

[stargirl1701]

Have you spoken to your midwife about your anxiety? Have you tried Mindfulness to alleviate it?

Congrats on your pg

[seaoflove]

I understand. My mum had a lot of (first trimester) miscarriages, and that made me really scared when I was pregnant for the first time.

But, you knows the odds of miscarriage after 12 weeks is really very low? I saw a table with percentages on MN just this week, and I can't remember the exact odds now, but let's just say you have a greater than 95% chance of having a healthy baby at the end of this pregnancy.

If you feel your anxiety is really stopping you from relaxing and enjoying your pregnancy then do speak to your midwife.

[hestialou]

Chances of mc are very low, attached link for daily chances up 12weeks. spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=20&d=12&y=14