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Staying longer in hospital - advice needed

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lubella · 22/10/2006 20:08

Can anyone let me know if you can ask to stay an extra night at the hospital. At my local maternity unit they boot you out after 1 night after a non "complicated" birth, we don't mind paying if necessary can anyone advise on cost or if we can just tell them we are not ready and insist...?

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mygirllolipop · 22/10/2006 20:18

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lubella · 22/10/2006 20:27

Thanks for your response mygirl - I just don't feel that 1 night is going to be enough for me for all sorts of reasons, I just hope they are flexable....

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binkacat · 22/10/2006 20:42

Insist, tell them you're not ready. Are you planning to breastfeed, if so I think its important to stay until its established and am shocked that a hospital would boot people out afetr 1 night.

lulumama · 22/10/2006 20:44

i know plenty of women who have asked to stay longer for various reasons

including a night away from the other children!!

why not discuss with the midwife at your next appointment....

HumphreyComfrey · 22/10/2006 20:45

When I had my children I had the option of paying for a private room, and staying as long as I wanted - within reason!

I think it was about £25 per night.

Might be worth asking your midwife.

lubella · 22/10/2006 22:09

Thanks guys I have my tour in a couple of weeks and will ask the MWs there - and I think you are right binka I will insist, just sounds far too soon to me.

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CountTo10 · 22/10/2006 22:12

When I had my lo 2 yrs ago, I was told I could leave the next day but chose to stay a bit longer as I felt I needed that time to recover a bit longer and prepare myself a bit more especially when it came to breastfeeding. I would chat to your midwife and mention it to the unit when you are on tour. I would be really surprised if they insisted you left the next day if you weren't feeling ready. Is this your first?

albatros · 22/10/2006 22:16

When I had Dd1 I transfered the next day to a Midwife run unit in my home town and there was no pressure to leave there

lubella · 22/10/2006 22:35

yes it is my first count, the MW at the ante natal classes I have had (both NCT and NHS) have said "yes we normally discharge you after 1 night" after I expressed surprise at that they didn't follow it up or say we actually had a choice if we didn't feel ready....

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Linnet · 22/10/2006 22:41

when I had my dd1 I was asked by the midwife at an appointment how long I intended to stay in the hospital, I said about 4 days but I'd see how it went. in the end I stayed in for 5 days but I wasn't going anywhere until I knew what I was doing with this tiny baby with her being my first.

with dd2 I stayed in one night and went home the next day but the birth had been more straightforward and I was happy to go home as I knew what I was doing second time around.

Tommy · 22/10/2006 22:45

don't remember being told to go home either time!

I moved to a small (4 bed) maternty unit after giving birth in a very big and busy hospital - lovely
I think I stayed one night in hopsital and 2 nights in the unit both times

QuootieSpookypie · 22/10/2006 22:45

I got told we can stay as long as we liked, that we wouldnt get booted home if we weren't ready!

PrettyCandles · 22/10/2006 22:51

After dd was born they offered to discharge me after a few hours, but I wanted to stay in for a while. I explained (and it was in my notes) that I had had PND after ds1, and this was considered a good enough reason for me to stay in. I had one night on the ward, and then, as I had requested a single room if one came available, two nights in a single. Obviously we paid for the single. IIRC it was about £100 for a room with private en suite. Expensive but worth every penny to have some private bonding time with dd and not be stressed about things at home.

mygirllolipop · 23/10/2006 09:06

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katzg · 23/10/2006 09:24

i think you can stay for as long as you reasonably want.

The only thing i would bear in mind is that your DH/P friends and family generally can not stay past 9pm or in some hospitals 8pm.

lubella · 23/10/2006 11:19

Thanks for all your responses girls - I am much more confident now they cannot boot me out after one night but will ask on the tour anyway...

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JodieG1 · 23/10/2006 11:37

Personally I'd get out as son as possible, home is muhc more comfy and relaxing than in hospital. Hospitals are always noisy and I worry about how clean they are too, at least at home they are your own germs. With my first I was home the next morning bubt dd had to stay in scbu but with ds we both came home 8 hours after the birth, couldn't wai to get home! This time I hope for us both to be home within a few hours but it depends how early I am and how it goes

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