To be or not to be???

[intrepidnot]

I am getting on , am in a great relationship(not married(commitment phobic??) and am not in the least bit sure about having babies at all. I have always said I had no interest in having children but I am aware of the old bloody clock and don't know if I am just a big woose afraid of all that poking and prodding etc(by the doctors I mean!), am i being silly, I don't want partner under pressure to provide etc but am confident I could be a good/passable:-) mum just not sure if I want to be and now have convinced myself that maybe I will have PND or somthing awful. I am normally the most logical, practical person but given my thoughts on this subject I would forgive you all for thinking maybe I'm a bloody idiot who can't even decide what's for tea?? And yes I am aware that I am invading your space as a non mum......sorry!!! But I would be rewally interested to hear different views.

[MarsLady]

So... are you pregnant or not?

And just to let you know that you're not likely to be any of the things that you think you will. You may love it. You may hate it. Thems the chances.

Oh and other 'non mums' post on MN. So... welcome!

[intrepidnot]

No am not pregnant......am just worried about missing the boat (for want of another cliche)!! and thanks for the welcome.

[TarkaTheHeadlessOtter]

welcome intrepidnot. Go with your heart - not your head and try not to over analyse the situation - there is no right or wrong answer and as marslady says you may or may not love it. You will love your child if you decide to go that route. Of that i can be pretty certain

[QuootieSpookypie]

if im honest what will you look back and regret more - having children? or not having children? Follow your heart, not your head & welcome! x

[lulunaticmama]

if your body clock is ticking /chiming/ screaming...give it a whirl! never thought i'd be married with kids - although opposite way round, had them younger than i thought! but once the ovaries starting calling, it was baby time!

and MarsLady is right....it's not usually how you think it will be

somtimes it makes you scream and cry..

but i have just gone to kiss my darling girl good night, and i can physically feel how much i love her....

[squishy]

I was similar (although not worried about missing the boat, just wondering....) until I was late one month, took a pg test and it was negative. I was disappointed - that was the first sign that I was sort of ready! It took my DH another 3 months to talk me into actually trying though (if it had been an accident, I could have coped, but actually leaving the contraception behind......what a scary thought that was!!!!). Have now got 3 weeks left before LO arrival!!!!

[intrepidnot]

Thanks for the advice all of you....and for making me feel welcome.

[incy]

I got pregnant by accident with DS1 and was really worried about having a baby as I felt I was not very maternal - however, since the moment I held him for the first time I have never felt love like it, have no regrets and I am so glad I have experienced being a mum. So you can never tell. Also, don't be put off by other people's children (lots of people advise you to look after other people's children to see if it is your 'thing') - it is a totally different (better) feeling when they are yours. I can't recommend being a parent enough but I am biased because it worked so well for me. Good luck with your decision.