I'm 21+6 and, so far, I am very disappointed by DP's attitude to our first pregnancy. Throughout our relationship, DP has been very vocal about the fact that he really wants kids; it was me who needed convincing, to be honest. So I'm very surprised at the way in which he has been behaving so far during the pregnancy. Despite saying how happy and excited he is about the whole thing, DP continues to go out and socialise as normal, often going out on a Friday or Saturday until 3am, leaving me at home feeling sorry for myself. He's also shown little interest in reading up on pregnancy and childbirth, even though I've given him things to read. In addition, I have had to organise the redecoration of our flat without any input from him, and while he helped with some of the work, I have had to do the lion's share, including most of the painting and de-cluttering.
I suppose I am disappointed that DP has not been more hands-on during the pregnancy, given that he was so keen on having kids. I'm also terrified that he will be similarly hands-off when the baby comes, leaving me to look after it on my own. I have spoken to DP about my feelings on a number of occasions,but I struggle to do so in a reasonable way, meaning that we end up having nasty arguments during which I say things that I later regret.
Am I being unreasonable to expect DP to make more of an effort during my pregnancy? And does this spell disaster for when the baby arrives?
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DP not as involved as I had hoped - am I being unreasonable/crazy??
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scaredexcited · 22/09/2014 13:48
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