single 29 weeks pregnant and feeling lonely :(

[Bobbi1234]

Hey it sounds so silly but i am 29 weeks and finding it hard to make new friends. All of my old friends are partying all the time with the baby's dad who is not involved with the pregnancy (his choice not mine) or they live in a different town witch means getting two busses just to visit them. I have been going to antenatal classes but everyone is really quiet and not very talkative. Does anyone have any ideas on how to get some friends that are in a similar situation to me as this loneliness is driving me crazy x

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

Gosh, they're not very good friends if they are partying with your baby's dad. I have heard the NCT classes before birth are quite good for meeting people although I think you may have to pay for those. I just went to the free NHS classes and I didn't meet anyone there. After the birth, try and get out to as many things as you can. Do you have a lot of old friends on FB? I have reconnected with people from school who I wasn't good mates with but who had children young like me so we had things in common. If that's the case for you, maybe drop them a line and if they respond then bonus, if not then nothing lost. Try Mumsnet Local in your area and Gingerbread.

[prettywhiteguitar]

Yes they don't sound very supportive ! I think I found it easier once I had had ds to make friends.

Is there a single parents group near you, I really wish I started one when I had ds as it would have really helped me.

At this point the internet is your friend look for mummy groups in your area on Facebook, I am on two in two local areas. Especially being pregnant means you can ask loads of questions for advice and get to know other mums in the process.

It is a bit of a lonely time getting used to the change of having a child, I found I really had to reach out to others, if you sit waiting for people to approach you it can be very lonely. Defo try mumsnet local, some are very active.

and have one of these while you do your research !

[TestingTestingWonTooFree]

When my baby was 3 weeks old I went to a baby group organised by the health visitor. I think there were 16 other local mums there. There may be more opportunities to meet people after you have your baby so don't panic if it doesn't happen right now.

[Bobbi1234]

No they are not great friends but he is willing to party with them and they are willing to join in ....... The NHS classes are not great at all and I am the only single person in there I will look in to the not classes ..... I will also try the local bit on here. It just feel so weird because all of my "friends" was like we will be there for you , you don't need him he a idiot yet here I am sat here alone while they are all drinking with him ?? I am talking to a few people from school but a lot of them have full time jobs or things like that where as I have finished work early for annual leave and mat leave as the baby's dad is a senior member of staff at where I work so I couldn't bare seeing him everyday when he told me my little girl would destroy his life. I think once she is here it will be easier to make friends as I plan to go to all the sure start groups and things with her where as at the moment I am big fat and grumpy lol xx

[LBNM19]

I was 21 when I had my first and I lost alot of friends because all we has in common was going out, did used to take my son to baby classes and met a few people there baby massage Etc was free at my local childrens centre xx I'm pregnant again with my 2nd and do feel lonely at times so I can relate in a way. Xx

[prettywhiteguitar]

That sounds awful, I'm sorry you're going through this. I had the same unfortunately, people can be very selfish.

Can I say please look at Facebook in your area it's usually busy with posts, some of the local mn groups can be quiet.

Try to get busy to keep your mind off what's happening, I found it hard. Just staring off into space bring angry with my situation, it didn't help bring so lonely. I hope things get better for you soon.

[Bobbi1234]

Thank you i am going to do some googling about groups in my area and see what i can find and i know what you mean about staring into space being angry. Sometimes i feel myself thinking about everything and just getting angrier and angrier but i am trying to not let myself get mad because i am not missing out he is missing out. It just hard with being alone most of the time i keep thinking will my little girl think it my fault she dont see her dad ? Will she feel upset that she wont know her siblings? Then i think will he be different when she here and want to be involved ? But if so will i let him because i don't want him to let her down like he does his other kids !! Ugh sorry went off on a tangent then thank you everyone for the ideas on where to make some new friends xx

[BlindKitty]

Bobbi there are loads of groups to get involved with now or after the baby is born. Basically you just have to be brave and suggest meeting up one day! Me and my friend are mates but only because she suggested we met up out of pregnancy yoga. Now there are 6 of us in the group and all our babies are born. We meet up every week but not sure we would if my friend hadn't made the first move!

[LostMySocks]

NCT have bumps and babies groups. They meet once a week and I think you just pay a pound or two.