ugly ugly ugly!

[sara87]

hello ladies!
i know its ughhh but i just caught a glimpse of my hips while taking a bath and almost gasped! i've never seen an uglier sight! sigh apart from the broken capillaries (which are oh gosh in ssooo many!), stretchmarks, it looked like it belonged to a really faaaaat person and soo sooo dark than the rest of my skin! i feel soo embarrassed! im almost gona make sure dh never sees them again! i feel like crying! its my 29th week, and i am really happy for having been blessed with this pregnancy...don't get me wrong please...
but honestly, face malesma, hair shooting out of my head in all directions was one thing...but this really really has me broken! any advice on how to get them back please? it seems the only area i've gained weight (10kgs) so far has been the belly and the hips! and its beyooond ugly! i don't even want my ob gyn to look at the marks there! i soo wana cry!
:'( :'( :'( :'(

[kiki0202]

Google Kim Kardashian before and after baby and hold on to that lol :) Just think you are making a person it's not going to be pretty but eat well and work out (if your MW agrees) and you can lose it once your baby is here. It's tiny part of your life where you look gross once your baby is here you can get back to being you it is very possible.

Lots of people love their changing bodies and feel so comfortable but others don't and it's ok to be either way.

[BiscuitMillionaire]

woah there, wait just one minute, missy! Your body is doing a totally amazing thing. When you breathe in your lungs are sending oxygen to your baby, your heart is incredibly pumping blood not just around your body but into the placenta to bring oxygen and energy to the baby, when you eat, some of the nutrients from that food are going to form your baby's bones, muscles, skin, it's an amazing miracle, inside you, you're growing another human being!

Sorry to sound gushing but really, it doesn't matter if your body looks like someone out of Hello or not, what matters is that you're creating another whole person in there! THAT is beautiful.

[CarbeDiem]

Stop it! STOP IT! :)
It is a shock when you see your body changing so much and the stretch marks can upset you when they appear but keep in mind that your body is doing something amazing. It has created and is now growing a little person. The fat stored on your hips is to assist with the production of your breast milk so needs be there.
Your husband won't think anything if he's a grown up, he'll be proud that your body has nurtured, protected and grown his child.
Pregnancy isn't forever and soon you'll be able to reclaim your body back and work on making it how you want.
Don't cry and don't be too hard on yourself. YOU ARE NOT UGLY.
Take care.

[sara87]

thankyou guys!
I know i should be grateful for being endowed with this blessing..
i just felt like an utter mess.
you are all absolutely right ofcourse...
hahaha n i did google kim kardashian before and after preg!
i guess we have a bigger purpose in life now, and body beauty is probably a secondary factor..or may be reclaimed as you said afterwards.
anyway thanks all of you. your kind words did help looking at the silver lining which i had soooo forgotten in the midst of everything.
love and prayers!

[Roseylee20]

Glad you are feeling better today Sara! The ladies above have wrote some really nice comments! Have a listen to Colbie Caillat - Try. take a look at the video on YouTube and Google the lyrics. It's based on the Celebs that are airbrushed and photoshopped in magazines. We all know it but we all forget! The video is more about makeup and hair but you'll get the jist! X

[frannie2013]

All great responses. Also you are not alone. I've cried 100 times because of my stretch marks. People say (here & in RL) that it doesn't matter, and there will be an amazing baby, and yes that is true but why oh why at the expense of my decentish body? I'm in mourning for it but the pain / anguish is going (on most days! Still have a couple of bad ones from time to time. Hormonal? Me?!) and I'm hopeful that I can get to my pre baby shape within 12 months of baby here (4/5 months of not too much focus then 7/8 months of 'Crickey need to get this sorted now!' You are no alone. But look at those other mums out there (in celeb world but in RL too) who look - and are - amazing as I find them a great inspiration. You and your bubba, and hubba, will be great x

[flipflopsonfifthavenue]

like someone else said - the fat is so you can feed your baby!

That's what I'm telling myself about the extra roll of back fat I've just discovered at 33 weeks ;)

[squizita]

Everyone looks different when pregnant. It's just our bodies working flat out.

I have a massive goiter (neck cyst, looks like I swallowed a ping pong ball)- pregnancy triggered- which may need surgery, but then I found many people have had the surgery and you can't tell a few months later.
TBH I'm more worried about the fact I enjoy feeling toned and will need willpower to stretch and exercise when knackered after baby is here!

I don't think anyone should feel ashamed to be surprised by their bodily changes in pregnancy: yes, the fat is there to help produce milk, the hair is hormonal ... but you don't have to like it, get woo about it or be 'grateful' for it. You don't. Any more than you have to like aches and pains and peeing all the time.
But the good news is much of it, in most people, is temporary and harmless.

[jaykay34]

If it's any consolation or hope to you....my first pregnancy was with twins that I carried to full term. Prior to conceiving I was tiny size 8...and had lovely skin, nice shape etc. During pregnancy I put on 4 stone and was a huge stretchmarked mess. I lost weight quickly afterwards but my belly skin and naval never went back perfect again. It probably actually took about 2 years to tone up and be happy with myself again and after 5 years i even felt able to wear a bikini on a beach and the stretchmarks faded to fine lines which I could bear.

Now....12 years later I am pregnant again with a single baby and the stretchmarks are back in full force and i am huge again. I am covered in cellulite. I am so jealous of other size 8 people who have those tiny bumps because I just look like Jabba the Hut !! My body is AWFUL...i am dreading having to get my body out when I am in labour. I look gross and could cry!

But the thing is...I know in time and with a healthy diet and exercise I will be able to be happy with my appearance again. It's only temporary and like everyone has said...your body is doing a job.

So...the bottom line is that you can still look good afterwards..stretchmarks fade and cellulite goes. Don't be too hard on yourself if it doesn't happen straightaway...becaue it can take time. And if it doesn't...don't worry. There are so many women in the same boat !