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think i may be miscarrying 5+4

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lizzydripping78 Sun 31-Aug-14 16:42:05

I'm 5+4 and last night when I went to loo and wiped I had brown blood, over night I had period type pain and this morning and all day this has been red. There has not been any clotting type stuff and its not masses, I have a panty liner in and it seems to be when I wee. The pain seems to have subsided. I hadn't really had what I thought to be pregnancy symptoms, I have had a headache for the past 4 days and felt a bit lightheadedness, my boobs had over the past few days felt a bit pins and needles. Obvs I'm gutted and can't stop crying. I've been lurking about on what would've been my "due" month thread and I made my booking in appnt with midwife I was so excited. Now I feel like a bit of an idiot really. My dp is all hopeful whereas really it is was it is isn't it? Am I meant to do anything as I'm so early? Do I bother the doctors or not? I'm stuck between just wanting to lie in bed and sob and the fact that really I should just feel grateful for what I have, I do have three ace dc,s! And am so lucky I almost feel like I'm being ridiculously silly. I'm just babbling I know now but I just feel so terribly sad and confused and grasping at any tiny bit of hope. I don't even know what I expect anyone to say if they read this. I don't have anyone else in rl to tell as I hadn't told anyone nor do I want to now. Perhaps it's just knowing it's out there among people who may understand how sad I feel,it's like my eyes won't stop leaking.

TheBuggerlugs Sun 31-Aug-14 16:52:31

Hi there OP. I had a mc at around 5w after one at 10w and another at 9 and it was just like a normal period. My advice sadly won't tell you much today but the best thing to do is wait and see what the bleeding does and when it has subsided do another test. If it was a MC the test will be negative. A scan so early wouldn't show much so it won't be much use I'm afraid. Sorry I can't be more helpful than that.

lizzydripping78 Sun 31-Aug-14 16:59:38

Thank you, obviously over the 10 days being pregnant I had I was all over the web reading what I could as its been some years since my last, I figured as there wouldn't be a heartbeat anyway there wasn't much anyone could do which was why I was a bit "do I even bother going to the doctors?". I think I shall just have a good cry as I can't seem to help it even if I try not to and do what you say, see how it goes and 're test, do I need to wait for bleeding to completely stop will that interfere or is that a bit of a numnut question?

squizita Sun 31-Aug-14 16:59:40

Sadly yes it may be an early loss. Do use a test to check.
However, you must visit your GP about it; although less painful than a later loss there are risks (eg infection, ectopic, molar) which whilst rare need to be ruled out by a hcp. Your GP will also be able to advise you on physical aftercare.
Please do this. I skipped seeing my GP after one loss (it was an erpc so I thought after the op I was sick of drs)... Unfortunately I was one of the tiny minority with complications and whilst they are now all sorted it resulted in worry and multiple bloods/scans.

TheBuggerlugs Sun 31-Aug-14 17:03:27

OP today you need and are perfectly entitled to an obscene amount of chocolate. When I mc'd I was advised to wait at least 2.weeks after bleeding stoped but after the 5w one I got a negative after a week (and got suitably shit faced) Miscarriages are the wankest of wank thanks

lizzydripping78 Sun 31-Aug-14 17:10:09

My dp is taking day off tomorrw to take me to docs, thank you for replying. I know it may sound silly but I just feel so astoundingly alone and sad even with my dp here as you know you just got to get on as I've got other dc's demanding attention and no-one knows, we'd been trying for months and every monthly negative was gutting, we were well chuffed. It sucks doesn't it.

lizzydripping78 Sun 31-Aug-14 17:13:43

It was my birthday yesterday, I didn't eat any of the big choc cake I made in an effort to be a bit healthier, how can one day go so crud?, think I may just eat it till I think I'm going to puke, the dc,s have no chance this evening.

Featherbag Sun 31-Aug-14 17:18:14

Lizzy from the details above there is no reason to assume you've miscarried, although it is a possibility an implantation bleed is more likely. Go to the GP, ask for a referral for an early pregnancy scan. They can't be done until you're past 6 weeks but they can be booked now. Don't assume the worst, these symptoms are very common in early pregnancy (I'm a nurse and see many women bleeding in early pregnancy) and may mean nothing at all!

lizzydripping78 Sun 31-Aug-14 17:32:34

Can an implantation bleed really go on this long? I'd heard of them but thought they were a "once off" type of bleed rather than a couple of day thing? Similarly I'd always assumed spotting was literally like a spot or two one time in your undies! I am woefully under educated on this despite hunting about. Fingers and legs very much crossed, perhaps I won't eat all the cake then! My dp says until he's been told I'm not then I still am in his book. He was a bit over excited too. I hope very much featherbag that I'm one of them then! I really really really frigging hope upon hope I am. I'm not really losing anything much at all while I'm sat here iykwim it's when I wee. May just stop going for wee,s then. Gosh, I'm so emotionally wrecked. I'm keep randomly crying then I'm all chin up then I'm all cry again. Bugger ation.

Rubyshoe Sun 31-Aug-14 17:58:39

Hi Lizzy just wanted to post to say I'm so sorry about what you are going through. I know exactly as got a +ve pregnancy test at beginning of Jan at 5.5 weeks, went to the loo and when I wiped saw salmon pink blood, I literally sat on the loo and wailed I was so upset! It went on for 12 days in total and went between salmon pink, rusty brown and bright period red. I was convinced we'd 'had it' . I was wrong. Sitting her typing and am 36+1 and due for induction in about 11 days. To be honest I didn't have any discomfort or pain with my loss so don't know if that was significant. But there is hope. Good luck at the Drs tomorrow x

ControlGeek Sun 31-Aug-14 19:50:01

I came on to post pretty much your op, Lizzy. I am 5+1/5+3 today depending on if you go by embryo age or lmp (ivf pregnancy) and I've had three days of steady bleeding, following exactly the same format as my normal period. Before the bleeding started I had my normal pre-af run-up of symptoms (temp drop, back ache, night sweats, dry mouth).

Up til yesterday CB digis were reading 2-3 weeks. Today, the CB digi read 3+ weeks, so it looks like my levels are actually going up, not down.

Like your DP, mine is still hanging on to the chance that things can be ok. Today's cramps have been stronger though, and the bleeding more blood-like (rather than stringy red mucous) so I'm trying to mentally psych myself up for this going nowhere. I have another blood test tomorrow to see how the levels are, but they won't scan me as it's too early.

I really hope yours is hanging on in there too, and that your bleeding stops soon. It's a horrible time, and at this stage there is so little help available. I'm here for a handhold flowers

Loveallmyboys Sun 31-Aug-14 21:33:03

Do t give up yet OP! I started spotting/bleeding at the same stage you're at with all 3 pregnancies. I have 2 boys now, 11 and 2, and another boy who, against all odds(several VERY heavy bleeds) is still cooking away at 24 weeks. So, all is not lost.
I do hope this turns out well for you x

hullabaloo234 Sun 31-Aug-14 21:51:59

I'm sorry to hear your going through this OP. I too am in the same boat, 6.5 weeks and bleeding. Had an internal scan on Friday and the sac etc was where is should be and measuring 6 weeks,but too soon to see a foetus so I have to go back in 2 weeks for another. Trying so hard to be positive bit each time I go to the bathroom and see more blood my heart sinks.
Wishing you all the luck in the world thst everything is well xxxx

hullabaloo234 Sun 31-Aug-14 21:52:50

Best wishes to all ypu other ladies also, let's hope we've all hot ourselves some sticky beans xxxx

lizzydripping78 Sun 31-Aug-14 22:02:05

Thank you all, I'm trying to keep my hopes up, have just chilled out in the bath and watched trash tv and have come to bed to try sleep as I am knackered! Bleeding isn't too heavy, more like light af requiring a panty liner every few hours but bright red whereas my af is normally darker, and its not stringy, mucusy, clotting I'd say it was like a watery consistency, sorry if that's Tmi!, I just feel an occasional dull ache rather than anything else atm. So keeping it all crossed till all hope officially gone, but like we've all said, given its a bit early there's not too much can be done other than wait and keep fingys crossed.

Thank you 'm'ners for being there for me to off load to and for listening. You've been a lifeline today and probably helped stopped me driving myself to utter despair! I shall lurk about a bit and get some sleep before trying to see doc tomorrow x thank you : ) my thoughts are with you too controlgeek x it's a real sucky time to say the least!

lizzydripping78 Sun 31-Aug-14 22:05:40

And you hullabaloo x I hope it all goes well and stays stuck firm x

hullabaloo234 Mon 01-Sep-14 08:00:21

Thank you,and good luck at the doctors today xxxxx

ruth1104 Mon 01-Sep-14 08:35:08

Good luck at the doctors today op, I hope you're proven wrong!! I had a mc at around the same time as where you are now, and have to say that however you feel is ok, I never expected to be quite as devastated as I was - as far as I was concerned, I was having a baby and then suddenly it was gone. You don't have to justify being upset to anyone, if you are (or not, if you're not). Saying that, I had a fair amount more clotting and pain than a usual period so I really hope your gp will book you a scan for 6 weeks (mine wouldn't, but you know more than I did then!) and it proves to be implantation xx

lizzydripping78 Tue 02-Sep-14 07:55:30

Thank you all, went to doctor yesterday, he was very nice, booking me in at epu for a scan, I am hoping to hear from them today, my bleeding stopped last night and didn't get any worse and I didn't pass any clots, remained kind of watery and red, so I have everything crossed and am remaining hopeful that it was implantation, please please please!

Purplecircle Tue 02-Sep-14 08:02:37

Keeping everything crossed for you Lizzy.
I lost one at 5 weeks, I bled for 5 days, on day 1 I passed a big bright red clot, after that it was like a heavy period
Yours doesn't sound like that so I'm sure you'll be fine

lizzydripping78 Tue 02-Sep-14 11:36:32

Internal scan booked at Epu tomorrow morning. They did ask me if I wanted to go straight in but aagh to living in the countryside with no driving licence and no-one who can take me, boo! Rang dh at work to tell him he's off tomorrow.
According to doctor and lady at unit they reckon I'm 6 weeks today on their wheel. Now I feel sick, shame it's just the nerves! I hope they see something, anything good.

ControlGeek Tue 02-Sep-14 13:01:46

Good luck for tomorrow Lizzy flowers

lizzydripping78 Tue 02-Sep-14 13:26:21

Thanks cg, did you get your blood test? How long till u get results? I hope things are feeling better for you x

ControlGeek Tue 02-Sep-14 13:37:24

Thanks Lizzy. My bloods came back at 8859, which is good progression from Friday's results. They managed to get me in for an u/s scan today and saw a pregnancy sac and what they think (but aren't confident) is a yolk sac. It measured around 5 weeks. They couldn't pinpoint the source of the bleeding, and couldn't rule out ectopic as my ovaries went into hiding.

Still bleeding and cramping today, but not sure how much of the cramping is due to them having to be quite forceful when they did the scan. They have booked me in for another scan a week today to see how things are progressing and in the meantime I have to take things easy.

notapizzaeater Tue 02-Sep-14 13:38:45

Fingers crossed for tomorrow

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