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Getting through the first 12 weeks

(47 Posts)
Siarie Sat 16-Aug-14 20:17:09

Hiya,

I got my BFP today at 3w 2days and I'm just wondering how you all coped with the long wait before the safe 12w point where MC is less likely?

Redling Sat 16-Aug-14 20:31:40

It's actually a decreasing risk throughout the 12 weeks, rather than 12 weeks being the magical time the risk drops, if that helps? After 6 weeks the chance is very low, around 5%, dropping weeks by week until 12 weeks is around 0.5%. Most are in the very early stages before 4 weeks when a lot of people haven't even tested. Try to not worry and take care of yourself because the first 12 weeks are often when you feel the worst!

Siarie Sat 16-Aug-14 20:42:09

Thank you Redling that makes sense and helps a lot!

ohthegoats Sat 16-Aug-14 21:20:02

I got through it by sleeping 14 hours a day, laying in bed a lot trying not to be sick, eating potato waffles, doing the bare minimum at work and obsessing at stuff online. Websites like this: spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=08&d=10&y=12 I also posted here on the antenatal thread to fit my due date, and ended up really enjoying having a secret from everyone in real life.

Then I started to feel better at 11 weeks 3 days, and sort of forgot about being pregnant until about week 29.

Missingcaffeine Sat 16-Aug-14 21:21:36

There is nothing I can say to make is go faster - it does feel like forever! I struggled from week 6 onwards, and found it easier once I'd told a few of my nearest and dearest. I actually ended up having a scan at 9 weeks - as I thought I'd got my dates wrong.
Redling is right though, the risk of MC decreases with every passing day.
Congratulations and I hope you have an easy first trimester. smile

I'm struggling with this atm as well! BFP Tuesday just gone and I want to pack myself away in a giant bubble until the 'safe' time! Also want to shout it from the rooftops as well but don't want to jinx anything (!) so MN may end up getting the brunt of my 'OMFG, I'M PREGNANT!!!' type posts....

I'm coming up to ten weeks now and it's dragging. I've the first scan on the 1St September.I want it to come quicker but at the same time I don't want bad news!

I also really want potato waffles now

poppet85 Sun 17-Aug-14 19:45:33

I feel for you , Iam 14 weeks now and struggled in the first 12 weeks. My pregnancy has been an 'easy' one but not telling people and being stuck in limbo land I found very difficult !! You can't carry on with your life how it was before , no boozy nights out ! But don't feel ready to enter baby world ! As well as being worried sick as it's my first pregnancy and not knowing what's normal . I did begin to tell a few people before THE announcement which helped ! My booking appointment wasn't until 10 weeks which I think helped as then the scan was close !

CateMercer Sun 17-Aug-14 20:34:59

I know how you feel. Seven weeks tomorrow and had to have an early pregnancy scan because my doctor was worried it was an ectopic pregnancy. Thankfully it wasn't and at six weeks we even saw our babies heart beat on the monitor! So wonderful and emotional but my husband and I are on tenterhooks until the 12 week mark.

m33r Sun 17-Aug-14 22:36:05

So difficult! I'm on 9+2 and I just don't know how millions of women have managed! I would say I have some good days being excited about pg; some good days where I don't obsess minute and some awful days where I'm in a blind panic and so worried. I would sAy - hard as it is and I don't take my advice all the time - try to keep doing normal things. Today I wanted to cancel a shopping date because I just want to sit on the sofa and wait til 12 weeks but I went out and had a really nice time!

Hang in there!

Also thanks to pp on risks of ms decreasing. Reminds me that every day I'm a step closer.

Rkbump Sun 17-Aug-14 22:46:00

I feel the same. Due to getting married with a hen do to cater for I have told a lot more people and the more people I have told (including my mum) the easier it has been. I am 10+5 now and beginning to feel different.. I feel a bit stretchy and I am so mega bloated I swere I look huge already... Is this normal? It's my first pregnancy and terrified I am imagining it all. I can't wait for the scan though, i keep asking my husband if I could be imagining being pregnant!

This is my second so you'd think I'd be pretty chilled about everything but nooooooo. Really not. Am finding not telling people really hard, especially as people are starting to ask if we're planning another!

crazylady321 Sun 17-Aug-14 23:00:55

The first 12 weeks drags like hell and such a scary and such an anxious time just try to stay calm and try to keep things as normal as possible. I didnt find out I was pregnant with my first pregnancy until I was 8 weeks, 6 weeks with my son and then 6 weeks with my twins, the 1 im having now was 9 weeks and I think this is flying by so far (20 weeks tomorrow)

Good luck x

ElleDubloo Mon 18-Aug-14 08:49:07

Like most other people, I found the first 12 weeks really dragged. I'd previously lost 2 pregnancies very early (at about 5 weeks) so I was extra anxious. After the 12-week scan I felt a bit better, and after the 20-week scan I relaxed completely. I'm now pretty chilled out at 30 weeks, though I know things can still go wrong, I'm choosing not to worry about them but instead focus on all the positives and the excitement.

I'd go so far as to say the first 12 weeks are the worst - nausea, fatigue and most of all the ANXIETY - they're the weeks that make me not want to become pregnant ever again. After that, things weren't nearly as bad and I've enjoyed being pregnant overall.

smogsville Mon 18-Aug-14 12:48:51

I really thought i'd be more chilled out with a second but no! Five weeks today if you count from first day of last period so realistically three I think?

kittenmamma Tue 19-Aug-14 23:01:26

I got aBFP literally a few hours ago and am terrified of this wait. I tested negative on my first missed period but I've missed a second one now so tested again. The line came up immediately and got stronger and stronger till it is almost the same colour as the other line, but I'm still convinced it's not true. Due to my 2 missed periods, technically I'm 9+1 now so not long to wait thankfully!

Fattyfattyyumyum Thu 21-Aug-14 13:31:30

6 weeks here and it's dragging!! Ive known since before missing period so already feels like forever

Firsttimer9981 Mon 25-Aug-14 09:21:58

I'm just 5 weeks with my first and I've known for a week and a half, which has felt like at least 3 months. I'm convinced that every little twinge is the beginning of a miscarriage and my dh has told me that I'm being so negative that he's finding hard to enjoy it. Why is it that other people seem to find out they're pregnant, the next week have a beautiful bump and baby is here before you know it?! hmm

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