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Feeling abandoned

(14 Posts)
LucyB1 Sat 14-Jun-14 12:13:40

Hi all. My normally wonderful husband has gone off on a stag do 3 and a half hours away and I feel abandoned. I'm 36+5 and although I know nothing will happen I was awake half the night worrying and feel really upset that he has gone. I agreed to him going about a month ago but didn't know I would feel like this? Am I bring unreasonable?

CoolCat2014 Sat 14-Jun-14 12:48:10

I think it's probably normal to feel the way you do, but you've got to remember that you did agree to it and it's only for one night. It will soon pass! Try to focus on other things, and don't wallow too much in the feelings. Maybe do something to treat yourself?

BlondieBrownie Sat 14-Jun-14 12:48:41

What were you worrying about in particular Lucy?

FrozenFractals Sat 14-Jun-14 12:50:23

You're not unreasonable to feel this way - I felt very vulnerable when pregnant, surprisingly so!

But he's not that far away, it's just one night and just keep yourself busy/occupied. Or just sleep!!

gualsa Sat 14-Jun-14 12:53:22

Yes. It has probably been all about you for the duration and he now lets off some steam and gets to unwind for a few days. Trust me when I say men really need this. He will come back refreshed and happy and going back to being your wonderful hubby. But remember not to make him feel bad he went. You did give him permission and you could have arranged for you to have family or a friend staying over whilst he was gone so it's not his fault.
And don't worry. You are hormonal and emotional which is normal. Go have a pamper session somewhere to make you feel better;-)

LucyB1 Sat 14-Jun-14 12:58:46

Oh believe me he has had his blow outs. More than once. It's been fine until now. It's just to late in the day for all that

Boogles91 Sat 14-Jun-14 16:15:49

I felt exactly the same when my hubby went on stag do about a month ago smile i just kept worrying something bad was gonna happen to him wich then led to me not beong able to sleep! Cat had gone out for the night so i was on my own sad he said to me why you not asleep when.he came back i told im i couldnt hehe love him too much to sleep when hes not ere :p x

gualsa Sat 14-Jun-14 20:39:45

LucyB1- you said it's too late but why did you say yes then? You only got yourself to blame.

LucyB1 Sat 14-Jun-14 21:07:23

Is this your first pregnancy Gualsa ? Do you always know how your going to feel??? I told him in the week that I regret saying yes but this made no difference. Thank you for your kind words. I hope you also find support from wonderful people like you when you feel down.

Justpenny Sat 14-Jun-14 22:25:33

Aaah lucy I understand exactly how you feel! My DP went on a stag do when I was 16 weeks and I cried the whole weekend. Even though I knew he wouldnt do anything, I felt totally abandoned too and barely slept the whole weekend. I put it down to hormones!! Am 29 weeks now and think hes too scares to even suggest anythin similar after how I reacted last time smile I think its natural....especially so late in ur pregnancy...when im that far along he wont b leavin my sight!! Hope you're feeling ok xx

CoolCat2014 Sat 14-Jun-14 22:56:40

Have to say my DH is away for work for 12 days when I'll be 36 weeks. I'm not thrilled about it, and will prob resort to a lot if TV to not feel lonely, but it's just something that we can't avoid. Was hoping my mum would come to stay, but after saying yes to start with she's now changed her mind sad

Hope you're coping ok. Try not to give him a hard time about it though!

gualsa Sun 15-Jun-14 19:58:23

Well, thank you;-)

JustMarriedBecca Sun 15-Jun-14 20:39:00

I'm the most encouraging wife I know when it comes to my husband going out with friends. Sometimes I love it when he's out (bath, Location Location and excessive cleaning) yet he's gone out tonight and I'm sat in tears with my third bowl of cereal. Pregnancy hormones are a bitch.

MummytoMog Sun 15-Jun-14 23:03:20

Well if you said he could go, then yes, you are being unreasonable - but it's perfectly normal to feel miserable and alone in late pregnancy when your OH is away for the night. Can you watch something comforting on TV? I have a stash of crappy films for this sort of thing.

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