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Any pregnancy success stories after chemical pregnancy/ early miscarriage? Need some hope

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I'm just in the middle of my second early miscarriage in 5 months. Has anyone got any stories of successful pregnancies that didn't need intervention (progesterone supplements etc) after chemical pregnancies? I am losing hope and at a really low ebb right now.

I had a chemical pregnancy, followed by a mmc, then lost our ds at 21wks when the problem that had been found on the 20wk scan proved too much for his little heart to take and he died in my womb. This happened over a horrible 18 months.
However a year, to the hour later I delivered our perfect dd who is now a determined, clever and kind 3yo. No intervention was needed but I had lots of extra hospital checks and scans to be sure.
I am now 33wks pregnant again and we can't even work out how that happened. Not even trying, had sex maybe twice that month. Again have had lots of checks but baby is strong and lively. I can't wait to meet her.
Please don't lose hope. It very well could happen. I know how difficult it is when you are trying and not succeeding but I think the waiting has meant that the moment was worth the wait. When dd was put on my chest and I smelt her hair as she gazed at me, was THE best moment of my life. Utterly amazing and overwhelming. Good luck!

moominlike Sun 11-May-14 05:20:50

Sorry you are going through this. I had two miscarriages in six months last year but am currently 14 weeks pregnant and so far so good. It's been a really difficult time though and sadly even when things seem to be going ok the previous experiences create extra worry. The only thing that got me through is the hope that it would happen for us one day. Take care thanks

Thank you both. I feel like I've woken up this morning back into the nightmare. Congratulations drama and best of luck moomin

squizita Sun 11-May-14 16:39:17

I am 22 weeks after 3 losses. Through the pregnant after miscarriage thread (here on the pregnancy board) I've seen women who have has 2,3,4 ... Even 5 losses succeed.

A good sensible book that gives the facts is "Miscarriage what every woman should know" by Lesley Regan.

After 2 losses, heartbreaking though they are, your next has a 70% chance of being just fine! Hold on to that hope. thanks

Congratulations Squizita. Thank you. I will look into getting that book.

Mummytobeforthefirsttime Sun 11-May-14 20:32:26

Hi

I'm 29 weeks pregnant after 5 recurrent miscarriages. I was referred to St. Mary's in London although they found my blood is slightly thicker during pregnancy nothing else was found. I have been prescribed aspirin, 150 mg dosage. For my last two miscarriages both last year, the remains were sent for testing and found to have different trisomy disorders (7 and 13) not compatible with life, I suspect the previous miscarriages would also be chromosomal issues.

It is really difficult but don't give up hope, I am now 42 after having my first miscarriage when I was 37.

justhayley Sun 11-May-14 20:44:58

I had an early miscarriage at the start of September 2013, by late October 2013 I was pregnant again (although I didn't bring myself to take a test until almost the end of November). My theory was if I got my period I wouldn't necessarily know if it was another early miscarriage or just a regular late period. In December I found out I was carrying twins, although I did lose 1 at 11 weeks I am still pregnant (almost 30 weeks) with a healthy baby girl. (No intervention)

I'm sorry for what your going through it truly is a horrible time, but this time wasn't your baby, your baby is coming next time or even the time after that. Don't lose hope, let yourself physically mentally and emotionally recover & try again when you are ready. You'l get your baby soonxxx

When trying for Dc 2; I had a mc at 10wks then a 5wk mc about 7 months after that, by this point I was so discouraged and heart broken.

2 months later I conceived DS! It was a case of one of those things with mc, going through it I found out that lots of people have 2 in a row.

Please don't lose hope! I am now expecting dc 3, after deciding I couldn't bear TTC seriously I conceived the first month and I am now 22 weeks! A miracle in my eyes.

I had an early scan that I paid for at about 7 weeks with Dc 2 and it was such a relief, I would recommend it.

I have been there OP, look after yourself cake brew thanks

Thank you for all your kindness in sharing your stories ladies, it is really helping right now. This second one has hit me hard this time, in a different way to the first, I can't explain it. Thank you all again.

kalidasa Mon 12-May-14 07:35:41

monkey I had two very early losses (one at 5 one at just over 4 weeks) - so 'chemical pregnancies' really - in consecutive months in Jan and Feb 2012. I conceived DS in March! No intervention whatsoever. If you can, try to believe that your body knows what it's doing, it's super hard though, I know.

squizita Mon 12-May-14 07:53:25

Just a note - if you've had a BFP and you're past week 4 or so, it's not a chemical pregnancy. Emotionally it might not make a difference but it does if you're talking with HCP about support and medication.

A urine test works when the egg cells have embedded in the start of the placenta long enough to trigger the production of HCG for several hours. This usually takes 48 hours after embedding.

A chemical pregnancy is if it never really implants properly. Mostly you would only know if you had some kind of assistance e.g. IVF but never got a BFP/had your period on the normal day.

My GP used to use the wrong term and I used to take it as read but it was explained at St Mary's that they are not interchangeable. The fact several of my losses were at 5 weeks was actually significant to my treatment and when I had to start medication, had they taken 'chemical pregnancy' for granted it would have been missed.

Monkey I found I grieved for both losses again second time, losing twice in a row makes you feel that actually something more sinister could be happening, I felt.

As Kalidasa said your body know what it is doing, for whatever reason those pregnancies were not going to work.
2 pregnancies in 5 months is amazing too!

IF there is something that you need support with then you will be offered help, if you were to lose again. Hopefully you won't! However, it really got me though continue to TTC that I was closer to finding answers and in my case it was producing my DS.

Good luck x

kalidasa Mon 12-May-14 09:14:32

Thanks squizita that's interesting. I always mentioned my early losses and they are recorded on my notes because as I understand there's a big difference, medically speaking, between difficulties conceiving, conceiving but not implanting, and implanting but then having repeated losses. My mother also had frequent early losses (roughly one between each successful pregnancy) but had five children and always conceived easily. I think this family history, and the fact my mother had been open about it, helped me to feel OK about it.

squizita Mon 12-May-14 09:33:14

Yep Kalid basically my GP didn't know! So needed a prod that I had an actual miscarriage problem not an implantation problem. My sticky blood 'kills' the pregnancy a few days after implantation (but if it doesn't could lead to a late loss or thrombosis) - so had I not been advised at the hospital I may have been referred for totally the wrong tests. Just 4 days or so... big difference!

Good news, went to my gp this morning and she was amazing. Even though it was only my second loss she's sent me straight for blood tests to try to determine if it is a blood clotting or immunological issue, which she says might just mean I have to take baby aspirin, so like you Squiz.

My doctor has told me to wait 2 months to try to conceive again to "give my body a rest" but I don't want to wait that long. I was going to start trying again right away but maybe I should wait a full cycle?

squizita Mon 12-May-14 11:30:20

You don't need to rest your body, but you do need a regular (as possible) period to measure from which is why they usually say 2 bleeds before TTC.
I also found that a good TTC vitamin + vitamin B & D complexes + Omega oils (checked with Holland & Barratt so I didn't take too much) really helped even out my cycle and make me feel more robust. Not sure if it was just psychological but doesn't hurt!

I'm taking pregnacare multivitamins atm. It seems well rounded and also my doctor recommended it.

LONDONBOUND1 Mon 19-May-14 11:54:24

I had a chemical pregnancy on baby number 3. I got cocky as my first 2 went fine. It completely threw me and I was convinced that it was a sign that I should be happy with 2 and my body had packed up. Roll on a few more months and I was pregnant again. I had early bleeding and thought it was another miscarriage but after an early scan everything seemed ok. I still bleed off and on for 3 months and felt like crap for the whole pregnancy but I can tell you now that right next to me is a healthy new born little girl. Please don't be disheartened, focus on keeping yourself healthy. Xxx

LONDONBOUND1 Mon 19-May-14 11:54:56

*i still bled

ShoeWhore Mon 19-May-14 12:25:49

monkey I am so sorry for your losses. I remember feeling the same way after my own 2nd mc- it hit me very hard indeed.

However my next pg was totally fine and so were the following two - in the space of about 3.5 years I went from worrying I would never have children at all to having 3 under 3.

I know how scary this is but hang on in there - your chances of mc next time are only a tiny bit higher than for a first time pg. Hope you get your own happy ending very soon (())

swlondonnanny Mon 19-May-14 12:50:40

Squizita hope you don't mind me asking but what did they found was wrong with your blood clotting? And what do you take for it? I had quite a few of those early losses - by week 5 and had some tests done but still waiting for my appointment with St. Mary's.

furryleopard Mon 19-May-14 19:39:28

I am by no means out of the woods yet but I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and seems to be so far so good. Last year I had 4 miscarriages, at 8 weeks, 4 weeks, 5 weeks and 6 weeks.

I had lots of tests but nothing showing, I do have problems with my thyroid but am told this is unrelated.

All I am doing differently is taking 75mg of aspirin a day. It could be I had clotting issues, my consultant theorised that tiny clots were forming and preventing development of the placenta. She doesn't really know! If she's right the aspirin is preventing these clots forming

My second was worse because I'd told myself it was chance the first time and then I was gutted when it happened again. Don't be hard on yourself, it is not your fault, I found myself apologising to my DH, to my Mum, to my boss at work?! I felt embarrassed as well for some reason!?

Stay positive, it can and will happen for you as it has for so many of the women on this thread and elelsewhere on the boards. Good luck x

Heatherbell1978 Mon 19-May-14 20:43:46

I had a m/c in November at 6 wks. Thankfully no complications but it was my first and something I just hadn't prepared for:-( 6 weeks later I was taking a pregnancy test again and it was positive.....I'm sitting here at 27 weeks pregnant with my iPad bouncing off my belly as little one kicks away. So far a very easy pregnancy. Stay hopeful:-)

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