Hello, i've just found out i am pregnant with my first child, i'm approx 5 weeks. I'm 39 and in a long term relationship. However due to shyness/anxiety i have been longterm on esa benefit and last year fought a tribunal to get into the support group so they would leave me alone. Unfortunately my mother who was trying hard to get the tribunal result we wanted (i wasn't at the tribunal) gave the impression i don't go out alone and can't cope with strangers. Which used to be the case but i am much much better nowadays, though still feel unable to work. I am obviously very worried that social services will get involved and even though i know i can do great and have the support of my partner and a clean good flat that they will want to take our baby into care as they will deem me unsuitable. But i am full of love and have been much improved with people, i have never been violent or any of that side of mental health. If i sign off the ESA now live without any of the money, would the fact that i was ever on it still count against me? Am i looking at months of visits and meeting from people trying to work out if i'm a risk? That in itself is going to upset me deeply. We both love our unborn child and will do everything for it. How soon after i get the test confirmed by my GP would it all get refered to them and all the problems start? I admit at the moment we know very little about any of this! My regular GP that had known me since i was a child retired a few years ago, and the new people at the surgery are not the best - but we will be going next week to get all this confirmed, how soon after that do i see a midwife? When will the hospital appts start? And as i said, am i likely to have my child taken away simply because of the reasons listed above? I'm very worried about what may be already written about me. Thanks for any advice, it's a scary time, i'm unsure what could happen.
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will they take my baby away because of my esa benefit history?
newtoallthis1974 · 23/04/2014 13:58
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