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Pregnant and terrified...

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elliolli2 · 22/04/2014 14:18

I have two beautiful babies already - one boy of 3 and a girl who is 1 today. I have just discovered I am pregnant with an unplanned baby and I am terrified. My OH and I decided we didn't want any more kids as we are not in a good financial situation at all and we immediately decided it would be irresponsible to go ahead with this pregnancy - doubly . I went to the doctors this morning to discuss my options and I am heart broken. My OH is really upset about it all too bless him but trying to be practical. Any similar people out there!? I don't want to offend anyone but I can't talk to friends because a lot have had trouble conceiving or carrying which makes me feel doubly guilty for even thinking of not going ahead... Help - I am too old for this [embarrassed]

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splendide · 22/04/2014 15:30

Poor you, sounds very difficult. I don't think there's much I can add, you'll have to make the decision but I do know someone who aborted an unplanned pregnancy under similar circumstances. She was devastated initially and then fine. We spoke about it fairly recently and she's very at peace with her choice. Not at all saying you will feel the same but just a thought.

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Roxie85 · 22/04/2014 16:14

Didnt want to read and run. Its a tough decision that you have to make but you have to choose what is best for you and your family. Do you think you would regret either option? If its just finances is there anything that could be done to help you? I have never been through anything like this myself but hope you are happy with whatever decision you make x

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elliolli2 · 22/04/2014 16:51

Thank you both of you, I wasn't sure I would get much support - in fact I was kind of waiting for the back lash that comes with such a difficult topic!! I wish my heart was crying out either way but right now I am very confused and that is not helping

There is no telling how such a decision will effect you but once done it cannot be undone. The same goes for having a third child and I would hate to regret either!!!