I'm about 11 weeks pg with baby number 2.
I enjoyed my first pregnancy immensely - loved dreaming about the little person inside of me, trying to picture them, reading all the info I could about the changes they went through every week etc, until at my 20 week scan where we we found he had a major congenital heart defect that would require surgery. I spent the last 18 weeks of that pregnancy emotionally detaching myself from the baby - the survival rates from the various operations weren't great and pretending I wasn't pregnant was pretty much the only way I could deal with the thought that my beloved baby wouldn't survive.
Almost 2 years on, he is doing well - but those first few weeks where we spent hours watching his stats fall as we waited for him to be strong enough for his operation, then waiting for him to come out of surgery, sitting by him in paediatric intensive care for over 2 weeks (doctors had thought we would be back on the ward within 3 days, but his lungs collapsed and they couldn't get him off the ventilator) have stuck with me and I still shed tears over how much pain he was in and how bloody unfair the whole thing was.
So, on to this pregnancy. I'm so so terrified that this baby will end up having problems too - I find myself, once again, pretending to myself I'm not pregnant, just in case. I keep waking up in the middle of the night in a panic then crying myself back to sleep, worrying about what could go wrong. I can't bear the thought of putting another baby through all that, of watching them fight for every breath, of seeing their swollen, bruised body when they come out of surgery, of forcing them to be poked and prodded about by scary strangers in white coats - a process which upsets ds more and more as he gets older and more aware of the people around him.
I don't know what I'm looking for really. Someone else on here must have been in the same boat - how did you cope? How do you get through to the all-important anomaly scan and (hopefully) an all-clear then? There's 10 weeks to go before I can know either way and I can't carry on like this. I'm falling apart.
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WhatAHooHa · 21/04/2014 09:24
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