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I think I've taken this "eating for two" thing too far...

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FishAlive Thu 10-Apr-14 16:29:57

I'm massive. My arse and legs are huge and I e got back fat. With DC1 I put weight on but not this much and was due in winter so could wrap up. I'm due in July and dreadibg having to show a bit more flesh as the weather gets warmer. Am currently sitting in the garden in a best and leggings and look, quite frankly, hideous.

I've spent the past 5.5 months eating my way through sickness and tiredness and now I'm feeling and looking gross.

Is it possible to undo some of this? Am a keen swimmer and enjoy body pump and yoga. I'm sure people will come and tell me to just make the most of eating but this is making me miserable sad and uncomfortable. Reckon with a good push for my last trimester I could redeem myself?

Anyone been/in a similar position? I need stories of hope here!!

FishAlive Thu 10-Apr-14 16:32:05

I have minimal willpower - made a healthy lentil salad for lunch but it was supposed to be enough for 2 and I woofed the lot. Then bought a chocolate bar and scoffed it in record time. Was just about to start making some banana bread with DD but now not sure I can justify creating cake-like things.

jimijack Thu 10-Apr-14 16:35:57

Ha!! I feel your pain! I gained 4 stone, a year on and I'm down to my last half stone to shift. It's been hard work.

Mine was a 9 month Cadbury diet, twas delish at the time.

I'm sure you are not hideous!! Just happily, temporarily plump....

Roseandmabelshouse Thu 10-Apr-14 16:40:36

Eating for two is where you went wrong (and for me too).

FishAlive Thu 10-Apr-14 16:50:14

DD would only nap in the buggy out and about and I bf til she was 18mo so I was constantly on the go and the weight fell off to about a stone under my pre-pg weight which was wonderful and where I needed to be.

Everyone says its harder to lose it second time round and I'm far bigger. I struggle with confidence with my appearance anyway so am cross I've let it get to this stage. not helped by skinny mini friends also pg who don't seem to be getting big at all

FishAlive Thu 10-Apr-14 16:51:33

I'll imprint that vision of my in the patio doors with an arse as big as my tummy onto my brain and hopefully that will be the motivation I need to get a bit of a grip.

skinnyamericano Thu 10-Apr-14 16:56:18

I wouldn't worry, but if you are feeling really unhappy, there is nothing to stop you swimming a couple of times a week and whatever else you feel like doing. Although, it is easier first time around as you don't have to think about childcare to get to the gym!

FishAlive Thu 10-Apr-14 19:28:14

I've bought some hot chocolate to stave off the chocolate cravings (though water not as tasty as full fat milk!) so that'll be dessert tonight.

I can sneak out of work to go swimming and DH can have DD if I go at weekends. Evenings are mostly out as im knackered come 8pm (tho I'm hopeful that cutting out some crap will make me feel a bit less sluggish too). Just need to actually make myself get there. May as well make the most of my £55 pm membership.

It is making me unhappy. I've never had legs this chunky. Cankles are a reality.

toffeeboffin Thu 10-Apr-14 19:58:28

I totally feel your pain. I gained 3 and a half stones during my pregnancy and felt huge. DS is 4 now months old and I have ten pounds left to lose... So even if you do gain more than you think you should it will (slowly) come off.

I was an absolute carb addict during pregnancy - maybe try more protein orientated snacks i.e boiled eggs, hummus and veg, fruit and cottage cheese. Difficult though, all I wanted was cereal, bread and pasta!

Sweetpea86 Thu 10-Apr-14 20:06:09

I've gained 2.5 stone but was already overweight, I've got mirrored wardrobes in my bedroom and they are doing me no good lol.

For first 5 months I hardly gained weight due to sickness but then after that have made up for it. My feet are really swollen to which isn't helping me. Every morning getting out of bed with my big self stirring bk is soul destroying lol 39 weeks so hopefully my monster appetite will wear off in a few weeks.

FishAlive Fri 11-Apr-14 08:08:19

I've just been a gannet. Feeling guilty as not been taking my vitamins (couldn't face them during MS then got out the habit) and have had pretty much crisps and chocolate every day. I know no control when it comes to biscuits and cakes so I actually just need to STOP.

Am coldy at the mo but will go swimming as soon as this has cleared up.

theborrower Fri 11-Apr-14 21:55:19

Everyone says its harder to lose it second time round and I'm far bigger.

Oh god, is that true?? I'm worried I'll be enormous after this one because I eat a lot in the first trimester (nausea went on longer than my first pregnancy) and I've eaten far too many cakes and biscuits than I probably should have, and I don't get as much exercise for various reasons. I'll really need to find some willpower for after otherwise I'll go mad on the sweet treats again (tiredness, BFing, and meeting people got coffee all don't help!).

Boogles91 Fri 11-Apr-14 23:06:41

Im the same...used to be size10-12 think im a 14 now sad today has been a really hot day and i went out with the only coat i have on so i can feel bit more covered up. And all i can feel is my arse n legs wobbling as i walk...i used to be so toned as i was active all the time esoecialy work. Im not looking forward to this summer as lil mans due 16th july. I have hardly anything that fits me now aswel im getting really down about it when i shouldnt be x

Jcb77 Sat 12-Apr-14 10:20:07

It's normal and good to put on some weight when you're pregnant - baby bits AND extra fat stores. Eating 'for 2' is a real misnomer though - eating properly for one and a teeny bit extra - is more appropriate. In my case, entire family sized bars of dairy milk count as the 'teeny bit'. Ahem.
If you think you're too heavy though, and you will know whether you've bulked up appropriately or over done it, going back to eating sensibly will help. Both in terms of your current and long term health and health for delivery. I'm certainly not suggestin that anyone 'diet' in the traditional fashion, but just eat for one and a teeny bit, a healthy balanced diet. That alone will probably reduce your calorie intake to normal levels with normal results. Your babe will take all it needs from you, esp if there's enough to share. Keep up the healthy vitamin and mineral bits and exercise. I imagine that good habits now will help long term too.
It's a myth that you shouldn't lose weight in pregnancy - in this country there's a lot of morbidity caused by being pregnant and overweight and most of us do it by eating way over what we actually need. Mmmmm carbs.... It depends how you do it though.
Losing weight by returning 'bad' (however bloody lovely they are - Cadbury) habits to normal and good habits is fine. But not dieting by cutting stuff out or restricting calories to below sensible requirements. That's not good.

nastymrsvicar Sat 12-Apr-14 10:25:07

Sounds like you're addicted to sugar - I know the feeling, I am a huge sugar fiend and would eat it every day if I let myself, but I restrict myself to a hot cross bun or a bar of chocolate a couple of times a week. The more you eat the more you want it. I think you need to break the cycle. Maybe tell yourself that you can eat whatever you want as long as it doesn't have refined sugar in it? Eat healthy fats instead. You need to re-calibrate your taste buds.

Mrswellyboot Sat 12-Apr-14 10:27:45

I am six months post baby and put on three to four stone!! (didnt upset myself by weighing but recentky looked at notes) don't know how. I ate healthily and swam three times a week. As soon as I had baby I started really cutting down.

Anyway, the good news is I am ten pound lighter than I was at conception. So what I suppose I am saying is this wont be forever.

I had biscuits in for visitors (or made tea and toast) but I didn't eat rubbish, walked everyday. Went to the coffee shop f hot chocolate most days but that was the treat (I allowed for this)
Am slimmer now than before. If you are conscious of it, you will be able to do it.

Eminybob Sat 12-Apr-14 10:35:04

I'm in the same boat as you. Due in July and I'm a proper chunker already.

My problem was my starting weight was at a high anyway (bad year last year, MC, depression and comfort eating sad) and then the only thing that stopped the morning sickness in the first trimester was eating, eating, eating!

Now, at 25 weeks I have constant cravings for sweet stuff. I haven't even stood on a set of scales since my booking appointment I'm too scared!

Baby seems to be doing well though and I guess that's what really matters.

theborrower Sat 12-Apr-14 10:54:55

The more you eat the more you want it. I think you need to break the cycle

This is true for me, and good advice. Thanks for the reminder!

wafflingworrier Sat 12-Apr-14 13:27:29

You need to be kind to yourself, it is hard work being pregnant and having another child already on the loose. I am only now able to loose my baby weight and my youngest is over a year old. I strongly think you should cut yourself some slack and try to accept this is NOT the time to try to loose weight. the most important thing you need to do is keep energy levels up and keep positive, try to get as much rest as possible and when you are ready it wont feel like an uphill struggle, it will just happen.

wafflingworrier Sat 12-Apr-14 13:32:52

this tea is great to avoid sweet stuff if you have cravings though, has no sugar in it but feels like it does
www.pukkaherbs.com/tea-room/all-our-teas/vanilla-chai.html

why yes, I have just completely contradicted myself smile

congratulations on your pregnancy

nastymrsvicar Sat 12-Apr-14 17:45:02

I agree with waffling, however sugar will do you absolutely no favours when it comes to energy, mood etc. I think you will feel better overall if you quit it (or at least cut down, she says, eyeing the last hot cross bun).

FishAlive Sat 12-Apr-14 22:00:54

Thank you all.

I think you're right re being addicted to sugar blush.... And it's not that I want to lose weight as such, more that I know I've eaten too much junk to date and wondering whether I can undo some if that by replacing it with healthy stuff/activities.

I think my meals are ok, it's the snacking in between. I naturally reach for chocolate rather than, say, an apple. Think I'll get some carrots and hummous in to nibble on instead... What else is a quick, easy, healthy snack??

Today hasn't been a great day food-wise but I've walked a lot. Cold is on its way out so off to bed in a mo so I can get up and go swimming early.

May pop back here from time to time to update and use this as a reminder and motivator.

Thankfully our scales are broken so I've no idea how much I weigh.......

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