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Is my girlfriend attempting to get pregnant or ensure she is taking the pill at the right time ?

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JustACoupleOfQuestions Tue 01-Apr-14 23:55:14

I've been seeing a girl for a few months, we get on great. She is very keen to have a kid, I am not at the moment. She has told me she has gone on the pill, which I believed. However, I attempted to log onto Amazon today and realised she had left herself logged on. I saw three purchases back in Jan :-

Conceive Plus® Fertility Lubricant
Clearblue Digital Pregnancy Test Kit with Conception Indicator
Clearblue Digital Ovulation Testing Kit Inc. 20 Test Pack and 2 x Pack of 10mlU Pregnancy Test Strips

Now, the first one worries me, as does the second. The third could be to determine when she should take the pill. But the Test Pack?!?

My guess is she is trying to get pregnant without me knowing. Am I missing something about being on the pill ?

I would appreciate your comments.

Thanks.

condoms

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Tue 01-Apr-14 23:58:17

Condoms.

You don't need to determine when to take the pill.

Chloerose75 Tue 01-Apr-14 23:58:23

You don't need an ovulation kit to determine when to take the pill! In fact most types of pill should actually stop you ovulating. You just take the pills according to instructions, 21 days on then 7 day break. The days have nothing to do with fertile days - the pill stops your fertility while you're taking it.

I think it does sound like she is trying to get preg unless (small chance) she is buying for someone else confused

Has she been using the fertility lube with you?!

Have you seen her taking her contraceptive pills each day?

K8Middleton Tue 01-Apr-14 23:58:35

You're missing a condom.

You're welcome smile

yellowrose2728 Wed 02-Apr-14 00:00:40

Run. Fast.

JustACoupleOfQuestions Wed 02-Apr-14 00:00:44

Thanks giraffesCantBoogie, I do get the concept :-)

I was attempting to get some feedback before I sit down and have a talk with her. I would just like to get my facts right, which is why I'm asking you girls :-)

We (I thought) are both adults and had discussed going on the pill prior to her doing so. But I came across this info this evening.

The issue is bigger (as it were) than just condoms if she is doing this.

InspirationFailed Wed 02-Apr-14 00:01:46

You need to use a condom if you don't want to be a father. It doesn't matter what she is doing, you can't be tricked into becoming a parent if you take responsibility for your own contraception.

Sounds like she is trying to get pregnant though, especially as she has already said she would like a child. Ask her, it's not like you were snooping or anything. The ovulation kit is to show her when the best time to try to get pregnant would be. Nothing to to with when to take the pill.

BillyBanter Wed 02-Apr-14 00:07:10

Really? The advice on this is to wear a condom?

Does she know you don't want to have a child with her at this time?

I'd get rid. She seems pretty determined to have a kid and you're the chosen sperm donor. Being on the pill and those purchases don't make sense unless she is lying to you.

If you are on the pill you don't need ovulation kits. Unless she was using the ovulation kit to avoid sex before she went on the pill.

Nothing explains the fertility lube.

BillyBanter Wed 02-Apr-14 00:08:26

ah, cross post. I see you can see it's more than about condoms.

yellow has it. Run. Fast.

Sweetpea86 Wed 02-Apr-14 00:09:40

She won't be the only one to blame if she falls pregnant if your not willing to wear condoms.

Not fair what she is doing but it takes too smile

Run for the hills

JustACoupleOfQuestions Wed 02-Apr-14 00:10:06

Yellowrose2728, your comment did make me laugh ! But, I am attempting to get a general feed back. I know what my gut feeling was and it does seem to be echoed here too.

Chloerose75, your lube comment is rather interesting. As I had purchase some lube, but she had brought some of her own and suggested we use that. At the time I thought it really quite odd. But didn't think too much about it.

I'm not snooping on her, she'd left her account logged in and I went online to buy some stuff. She doesn't live with me, so during the week I'm here on my own.

JustACoupleOfQuestions Wed 02-Apr-14 00:12:26

Sweetpea86, I don't have an issue wearing a condom at all.

However, I think in this situation I think their might just be some more fundamental issues going on !

BillyBanter Wed 02-Apr-14 00:14:31

More evidence that she's pegged you to be father to her kid.

The lube you bought presumably had spermicide in it.

Even if you wear condoms from now on you can't trust her not to put a pin through them if she gets the chance.

LackaDAISYcal Wed 02-Apr-14 00:15:14

what the effing jeff is fertility lubricant?

She is either buying them for a friend, or lying to you and trying to get pregnant.

Nothing to miss about the pill. you take it every 24 hours and jobs a good 'un generally.

That looks like my amazon shopping list when we were trying for a baby.

Not to scare you, but I got pregnant first time after using an ovulation rat kit.

I'd get it sorted ASAP if you don't want her to have a 'happy accident'.

JustACoupleOfQuestions Wed 02-Apr-14 00:16:13

Chloerose75, You description of taking contraception was also my interpretation of it. With a little flexibility if you wish to control your menstruation if your going on holiday.

Ovulation Rat kit???? WtF?!

grin <peeing on a rodent to see if it goes pink>

LackaDAISYcal Wed 02-Apr-14 00:19:34

snort @ lastonedancing grin

BillyBanter Wed 02-Apr-14 00:20:20

There are two types of pill. You generally start both on the first day of your period. One you take for 21 days then have 7 days off when you usually have a pseudo period. The other, the mini pill, you take every day without a break. The first pill you can also take every day if you choose (as you say for a holiday, for instance)

Pill trivia. The only reason the first pill is taken 21 days instead of all the time is because they thought it would be nicer for women to still have a tangible period. Bless them. How thoughtful. There is no medical need.

Have you ever seen her take the contraceptive pill? Ever seen it around her flat?

BillyBanter Wed 02-Apr-14 00:21:11

Sorry I meant to say when you first start on them you take then on the first day of your period. After that you just follow the 21 on 7 off pattern or continuously.

BillyBanter Wed 02-Apr-14 00:22:08

what the effing jeff is fertility lubricant?

lube that doesn't have spermicide in it so you can use it when trying to conceive.

LackaDAISYcal Wed 02-Apr-14 00:23:55

Billy I thought you had to have the break with the combined pill? Back in the day if I missed one, the next period would be heavy and horribly horrendous. I imagine just bursting at the seams if you never had a break?

LackaDAISYcal Wed 02-Apr-14 00:24:21

ah, I thought that was just KY jelly!

BillyBanter Wed 02-Apr-14 00:25:59

That's what they said on some serious tv programme I watched!

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