scan tomorrow - terrified :(

[ithoughtofitfirst]

Hi ladies,

I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow for second bubs and i'm just so frightened. I was like this with my first and i only got diagnosed with severe anxiety after giving birth.

With my first i felt like i was going to faint from the nerves. I feel exactly the same this time. I'm worried there will be no baby, or there will be a baby but no heartbeat, or there will be something massively wrong.

My husband knows how i feel but he's so level headed and thinks i'm being weird haha.

Was/is anyone else like this? Does anything help? Thanks xx

[Roseandmabelshouse]

I was exactly the same and now working my way up to the dreaded 20 week scan. My anxiety has peaked again as I'm worried about something being wrong with the baby.

I think it's very normal and all part of pregnancy. Some people are better at thinking the best. I'm naturally more negative. At least you are a big more prepared for any bad news. It's statistically very unlikely to be bad news though :)

[saranga]

I was terrified that my 12 week scan would show no baby. Just before the 20 week scan i was terrified it would show some horrendous abnormality. As it turned out he was fine. It took me till I hit the 24/25 week/6month mark before I really stopped worrying. I'm 27 weeks now. So, you're not alone, and tell your husband to be more supportive!

Good luck, I'm sure it will all go well!

[ithoughtofitfirst]

Thanks guys really appreciate it :)

I will try and do some relaxation stuff tonight, i'm sure once it's over i'll be fine ;)

Strrrress

[saranga]

How did it go?

[ithoughtofitfirst]

Hi :)

It went really well, i thought i was 11 weeks but was 10+3 but all looked healthy as far as she could see. She suggested having another around 13 weeks so there would be 'more to see'... i have of course taken this as she thinks there is somerhing wrong and needs to check again in a few weeks, but really trying to take her word for it that all seems healthy!!

[ithoughtofitfirst]

Ps thank you for asking you made my day x

[VelvetStrider]

Glad it went well. I was crying with nerves at my 12 week scan following a pregnancy that miscarried. The sonographers are used to it though.

Have you asked to be referred to an additional support midwife? They are really good if you have pregnancy-related anxiety, they have time to talk things through with you and reassure all your worries. Ask your midwife if there is one available in your area.

[ithoughtofitfirst]

Aww thanks velvet that's really helpful info. I will definitely look into that. My midwife is lovely too which really helps! She said not to be daft this time and tell her if it's all getting on top of me.

Ps i totally had a blub at the scan too. Nothing like hysterical bawling when you're dying for a piss!

[alita7]

I can imagine I will be the same after having a mmc last time and finding out at the scan! I've got 4 weeks to go... glad it went well for you!

[Bornin1984]

Glad it went ok. Them asking you back means they can check what they need to at that scan and also get nuchal fold should you want it - plus your pic will be clearer :-))

[ithoughtofitfirst]

Thanks born that's so reassuring! I forgot about the nuchal fold thing. In my first pg i was 13+1 when i was first scanned and the pic was admittedly a lot clearer. So much so i think they felt sorry for me and gave me this one for free!

[ithoughtofitfirst]

alita got everything crossed for your scan you will be fine. I hope you're getting the support you need xx