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Are you horny baby??

39 replies

LucyB1 · 04/03/2014 10:32

Everyone else keeps talking about how horny pregnancy makes you. I'm 22 weeks and really NOT. Starting to feel very sorry for dh. How does everyone else feel?

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balenciaga · 04/03/2014 10:39

god no I am not either

I am 34+4 and have not wanted sex for weeks, tbh the whole pregnancy I have had to kind of make myself do it Blush

plus when we do it now it sets off Braxton hicks and (tmi alert) there is only one position we can manage it in and tbh it does nothing for me :(

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CrepeFoofette · 04/03/2014 10:51

I'm not either. I'm so cumbersome now (32+1) and sex has been physically quite uncomfortable for a while.

I wouldn't say that I 'feel sorry' for my dh though. I have nothing to feel guilty about, and he totally respects how I feel. It's not an issue - we just accept this is the way things are at the moment.

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nc060 · 04/03/2014 10:51

Im 14 +3 and can count on one hand the number of times we have DTD since getting pregnant! Poor DH lol! Grin

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ChicaMomma · 04/03/2014 10:52

Oh i hear you Lucy!!!
I have never been less horny. 24+4. have not wanted sex at all apart from one random occasion where i was v v horny.
I had a bleed at 10 weeks, i think this may have given me a fright or something?
i think we are averaging sex about twice a month- NOT GOOD.
Like you say Balenciaga, it's a real case of 'making myself do it'.

Feel very sorry for OH. All he's getting at the moment is the odd hand job!
Going to make sure I fix that this weekend though.

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chloecorey · 04/03/2014 10:59

I'm not pregnant but was only 12 week ago I had my baby boy. Didn't want sex AT ALL throughout the entire pregnancy I still only want it now and again but not a much as I used too.

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ChicaMomma · 04/03/2014 11:01

Chloe, i cant imagine being ready for it 12 weeks post birth- how soon did you feel able to physically do it? Did you have a reasonably ok delivery? my sister had such bad tearing that she said it took her 6 mths!!

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/03/2014 11:05

I'm 36+4 and me and DH have had sex once since conception when I was 22 weeks Grin

When we did it at 22 weeks I just couldn't relax, it wasn't comfortable and I didn't particularly enjoy it - hence why we haven't done it since Grin

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KitKat1985 · 04/03/2014 11:12

Nope, not horny here either. Just tired and feeling like a hippo. I'm 'making the effort' about once a week now for DH, (which I should add in he isn't pressuring me into at all and says he doesn't mind waiting), but I feel a bit sorry for him so trying to make some effort. Also I figure post-birth he's got at least a few weeks maybe months of waiting to do, so will try and keep up a bit of pregnancy sex so he doesn't go insane.

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woodhj · 04/03/2014 15:13

Lol poor men! We jump on them everyday when trying to get pregnant and the moment we are it instantly ends. Plus when your in first tri you have a strange dislike to them, looking at them in a 'I just don't get you way'. When baby is born they may try to touch you only to be shouted at about how tired we are!! Good job we have just had their child and they cant run for the hills!!!!

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Sillylass79 · 04/03/2014 15:27

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SweetPea86 · 04/03/2014 15:39

I lost my sex drive at 5 weeks preg spent the rest of preg been sick lol I'm 34 weeks and would rather a choclate bar ;)

Hubby is totally supportive never pesters me but maybe that's because he's cleaned my sick up to many times lol

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Elastigrrrl · 04/03/2014 15:43

I'm also not really up for it, haven't been since about 15 weeks when it started making me feel a bit sore (now 27 weeks). Like others we're still having a go once a week or so. It's not really because I feel sorry for DH, but rather because I feel like it's still an important part of our relationship (and is still kind of nice when it's happening, has other emotional benefits, etc). I would not, however, feel compelled to force myself if it came to that, and there is room for other approaches than the actual deed!

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Cupcake11 · 04/03/2014 15:49

I've been more horny than I ever have in my life! I'm 32 weeks. To the point where I was in a bad mood last night because DH didn't want to DTD five minutes after we'd just finished Confused

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alita7 · 04/03/2014 15:51

Only 4 weeks+4/5 but so far my sex drives dropped.
we last had sex was a couple of days after I ovulated.

The first week was just due to what was going on in life- we just didn't get round to it and then I just didn't fancy it and still don't so far.

I've normally got a much higher sex drive than him so at the moment he's ok with it (if a little shocked :P) But I wonder how long before he complains :p

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Misty9 · 04/03/2014 16:01

I'm 34 weeks and recently have felt a bit more randy Grin however, the pain of moving in bed soon puts paid to any thoughts of that :(

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ThedementedPenguin · 04/03/2014 16:17

I'm 35 weeks now and from we got BFP we have had sex 3 times.

I've been in too much pain. I couldn't even try it now as I know it would be awful. I do feel for Dp but there's nothing I can so.

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Tea1Sugar · 04/03/2014 16:51

33weeks and actual intercourse I'm turned off by but still having loads of dailyforeplay :D

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SicknSpan · 04/03/2014 17:18

Sex drive this time round has vanished (dc3)-same with dc2.

With dc1 we were unstoppable though! Think we were marvelling at how fertile we were, getting up the spout and everything ;) And I could not wait to do it afterwards- think all the pushing had brought my important bits closer to the surface and the seam on my jeans was a good friend for the 5 weeks it took before I felt healed enough to engage in some gentle (but longed for) sex Blush

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chloecorey · 04/03/2014 22:04

I had a normal delivery and was really lucky with just some grazes I think it's the fact when pregnant I knew what was inside me I was just uncomfortable. It's still hurts a tiny bit I think it's all in my head really but to be honest it was 'comfortable' about 3 weeks after birth. It's probably just me being funny but I'm still quite paranoid.

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chloecorey · 04/03/2014 22:06

I'm also the same kitkat I just 'make the effort once a week' so my fiancé doesn't feel unwanted haha

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MamaPingu · 04/03/2014 22:08

Silly lass - I was the same!!

It did come and go but I was extremely horny and pounced on him at every chance.
We also DTD maybe only 3 weeks after my c section Blush
And within the first two weeks did some other things.

I'm actually a little embarrassed to even be saying this anonymously. Horny devils. Blush

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MamaPingu · 04/03/2014 22:09

Cupcake11- there were many nights where I couldn't get to sleep with the fury of him not wanting to go again 10 seconds later Grin

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MissYamabuki · 04/03/2014 22:31

First pregnancy: was either DTD or thinking about it, couldn't get enough, it was fab!

this time round my sex drive is zilch... DP and i are quite disappointed actually :(

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Boogles91 · 04/03/2014 22:48

Tbh ladies...im always up for a good shag! Even when im in pain i only have to look at my hubby with his shirt off and i cant help it lol 0.0 i was like it before if nit worse, he has trouble keeping up with me i think lol he does think of me though and tells me no sometimes :p hehehe xx

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alita7 · 04/03/2014 23:07

To be honest I'm a little worried it could affect the baby- even though I know that if things are secure in there then it won't make any difference. I think it's the amount of times sex has triggered a due period to come on maybe.

We'll have to try at some point though to prove to myself it won't hurt bubba.

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