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Anyone eloped whilst pregnant?

15 replies

LondonJen · 17/02/2014 16:16

Maybe those further along or now expecting DC2 or 3? Did you get away with it in terms of people being offended because you had lovely baby news?! And did you do it before or after announcing baby news?

You can guess why I'm asking! I am thinking local registry office rather than abroad but you get what I mean.

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swannylovesu · 17/02/2014 16:19

i did!! 8months pregnant. Just HAD to be married before ds2 turned up. We did take my mum and dh sister as witnesses.

no one was offended and it was a great day, i do itch for the lovely white dress and big occasion now and again though.

LondonJen · 17/02/2014 16:26

Swanny that's sounds lovely!

We would have to have absolutely no-one else there, strangers for witnesses, but that doesn't bother me. 10 years ago my DP's mum tried to get me to promise we'd never elope but maybe after a decade of nothing happening she'd just be happy we were married? Clutching at straws! She knows neither of us cares about weddings. But with a LO on the way I do think about what if one of us dies etc (romantic I know.)

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swannylovesu · 17/02/2014 16:41

just do it. don't even tell anyone you are married until you are ready. if they cant be happy for you then thats not your fault

good luck!

greentshirt · 17/02/2014 17:09

No but I eloped when not pregnant. We did actually get quite a lot of negative comments but none from very close friends and family. Everyone was just happy for us, it's no one else's business what you do to please yourselves. Anyone close who was negative would have got short shrift from me, we wanted to be married more than we wanted a big wedding so we took ourselves off and got the job done!

LondonJen · 17/02/2014 17:10

Lol swanny thank you.

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LondonJen · 17/02/2014 17:23

Green that'd v interesting that it was neg response from people not close. Miseries! Thank you that is exactly how I feel about it too.

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HowAboutNo · 17/02/2014 17:27

Do it! Wish I'd eloped... All that matters is what you and your DP want. And what a lovely time to do it, just before your lives are about to get even more exciting!

LondonJen · 17/02/2014 17:37

Thanks How I just think if we're going to do it best to do it before 12 weeks so we can then announce both at once. Then people have to get over it if they want updates on the bubba

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AFergie · 17/02/2014 18:49

I didn't elope and I soooooo wish I did !

I was so uncomfortable, tired, overwhelmed on my wedding day. Iw as only 25 weeks but it was really a mistake. My dress was a million years away of what I would have ever wanted, i dont look myself in any pictures I so wish i had waited. One of my biggest regrets!
Save your money, elope and then when you are not pregnant have the wedding you dream of. Life not pregnant is so much easier !! xxx

beela · 17/02/2014 20:45

We eloped when ds was 14 months old. We had already had a big family get together for his christening so didn't feel too guilty. No negative comments but my mum wasn't super enthusiastic either... just too polite to say anything!

No regrets whatsoever.

Plateofcrumbs · 18/02/2014 08:27

I was vaguely mulling this over - DH is not an official "H". Have never wanted to get married, certainly don't want a wedding in a traditional sense. But part of me would like to make it official before the baby arrives. We have a holiday in USA coming up where a "while-u-wait" wedding would be possible...hmmm....

greentshirt · 18/02/2014 09:25

That's where we did it plateofcrumbs, in NY. Very easy (and cheap!)

LondonJen · 18/02/2014 10:26

Thanks all. Go on crumbs!

I am not in a hurry for it to be before 12 weeks until I think about telling people about baby at 12 weeks and everyone asking about marriage. Once they bring it up, if we do it after that, it seems more 'sneaky'! Plus his mum might start on about not eloping again. But if we did it already it just feels like we have spent a close 12 weeks sharing more than one secret!!

I haven't actually mentioned any of this to DP yet..!

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Plateofcrumbs · 18/02/2014 12:44

Haha LondonJen I've not mentioned it to DH DP either. Minor stumbling block

chasingpenguins · 19/02/2014 13:12

We're not eloping, but we are getting married in a small family ceremony. I will be 24weeks.
I have the perfect dress and I am not worried about looking too pregnant in the photographs :)
None of the uninvited are offended, as we're keeping it strictly immediate family. (Mum,Dad and siblings)

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