My only request was that my husband told me the gender of our babies when they were born - I didn't want the midwife or doctor telling me. But both times it was ME that had to tell DH as both my sons were plonked on my belly face up and it was sort of obvious what they were. Meanwhile, squeamish husband was still looking in the opposite direction!
jolleigh i think her reaction to you saying no would be enough for me to say she wont even be in the hospital not amind the labour room. i would want to be fully relax. if you are having to watch where your mother is at all times you wont be relaxing yourself which is where all your attention should be. she does not see this! and is making it about her. she should not be there.
Seriously, I think the stress of having such a normal request ignored could really affect how you feel in labour and I don't think I'm being melodramatic by saying it could even slow down labour (and then lead to interventions etc) if you're worrying about what your mother is doing with her camera. I would totally go it alone, it's better than having someone who isn't supportive of your wishes. Apparently the midwives are a lot more attentive if you're on your own as well, there was a thread on here about it a few weeks ago and a couple of posters had really positive experiences, where the hospital found them student midwives or similar to stay with them. I think it's really really offensive to be insisting on taking a photo of your vagina, even if her grandchild is emerging from it at the time!!!
ok if you really must have her there then you have one option. When you are at hospital and she arrives, go through her bag (Make up what your looking for or lock yourself in the bathroom with her bag) and smash up the camera/take out batteries/memory card/give it to mw to hide.
I think its terrible that she would do such a thing, trust is blown not sure I'd want her there but I know how forcefull my dm can be so I kinda understand but I would never her want her with me in labour.