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Shitting myself for scan tomorrow - can I have some hand-holding please?

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RaRa1988 Wed 22-Jan-14 13:12:18

20-week scan tomorrow and I'm terrified sad. Baby was fine at 12 weeks and had a good strong heartbeat at 16 weeks, but I haven't felt him/her move yet and I've got myself convinced that that's because there's something wrong... Doesn't help that a woman at work told me she had a daughter stillborn at 24 weeks, and I've had horrible dreams the last couple of nights, one in which the baby was stillborn and one in which I gave birth at 24 weeks all alone in a shop changing room (!) and had to resuscitate the baby myself sad. Horrible horrible images in my head - it was a little girl and she was all purple and I had to hold her partly upside down and do chest compressions because she wouldn't breathe. I'm terrified now.

SicknSpan Thu 23-Jan-14 17:21:29

Glad things are ok on sickness front. I'm fine now ta, am 22 weeks tomorrow so movements are good and strong- won't be long for you, promise!

PenguinsDontEatKale Thu 23-Jan-14 17:17:04

Nah, just that I was also looking at a soft toy one at the time!

RaRa1988 Thu 23-Jan-14 17:02:48

Penguins : Ahhhh! No children (yet! Eeek!) so never would've made that connection. Is there a reason for the 'penguins' bit too?

SicknSpan: Thankfully, yes. I was over it by 11 weeks I think, though I had a horrendous four weeks prior to that. Had the odd bout of nausea since, but my god it's good to be eating normal food again! Sorry if this is rubbing it in - how are you?

And thanks again everyone : MN really is a wonderful supportive place when you need it most! flowers

SicknSpan Thu 23-Jan-14 16:05:42

Hypermedia? Hyperemesis!

trolleycoin Thu 23-Jan-14 16:03:37

Great news RaRa. Hope rest of pregnancy goes smoothly for you.

SicknSpan Thu 23-Jan-14 15:58:21

Lovely news Rara! Has your sickness abated now? Remember you from the antenatal and hypermedia support thread smile Hope so.

CrispyFB Thu 23-Jan-14 15:50:02

Awww, lovely!! Congratulations!! :D

thepiggotupandslowlywalkedaway Thu 23-Jan-14 15:48:43

De-lurking to say great news. So pleased that you had a good scan.

Also, similar to Saggy, I had little movement till 20 weeks plus, after I'd been told I'd probably feel it very early because twins. And yes, anterior placenta too!

ChicaMomma Thu 23-Jan-14 14:45:06

Ah brilliant!!
Congrats.
Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy now lady!

Armadale Thu 23-Jan-14 14:18:50

Wonderful news, so happy for you x

PenguinsDontEatKale Thu 23-Jan-14 14:15:43

Thanks! It started off as PenguinsDontEatPancakes after Rhinos Don't Eat Pancakes, which was my daughter's favourite book when I was looking for a new name. Kale is my January detox version grin

Great! and yes, I second what Penguins said.

RaRa1988 Thu 23-Jan-14 13:55:54

Thankyou! :-D -and for the pre-warning, Penguins (great, if baffling, username btw!)

Brilliant news OP. Congratulations on your little girl.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 23-Jan-14 13:21:19

Yep. anterior placenta here too. No real proper movement until around 22 weeks.
you're home free now. Try and enjoy your pg now. xx

PenguinsDontEatKale Thu 23-Jan-14 13:15:00

Yeay!

Now please bear in mind that this is my third baby and with an anterior placenta I was around 22 weeks before I got anything reliable and at 26 they are still much more sporadic than my previous pregnancies. Just to pre-empt the next worry grin

RaRa1988 Thu 23-Jan-14 13:09:47

Pleased to announce that we have a healthy baby girl in there smile - relieved and delighted doesn't begin to cover it! Her heart's beating strongly, she's perfectly formed, and she's just the right size. Really really pleased and feel so much better now! Also discovered that I do have an anterior placenta - apparently they told me wrong last time (said it was fundal posterior confused ) so that partly explains the lack of movement, and the sonographer said the midwife really shouldn't have been asking me at the 16-week check if I'd felt any movement as it was pretty rare to feel it at that point, and obviously all it's done is get me worried! So relieved now smile ! Phew! Thanks ever so much for all your support flowers

lunar1 Thu 23-Jan-14 12:48:56

Hope it all went ok.

Writerwannabe83 Thu 23-Jan-14 12:43:09

Good luck today RaRa. I was absolutely crapping myself about my anomaly scan (I had to go to a foetal development unit and be scanned by a Consultant due to potential problems) and what made my worry worse was that. like you, I hadn't really felt any movements.

The scan turned out to be absolutely fine and baby was definitely moving on the screen. Although baby has limbs the bones are still so soft and there is hardly any muscle mass so although it looks like they are thrashing around their movements don't really have any impact on us. I was reassured they didn't really expect regular movements until 23 weeks which is round about when I started really feeling them - he never stops whacking me now smile

sorry to hear about your dreams, they sound very upsetting. It's surprising just how much our dreams can affect us! I really hope that a reassuring scan will help those dreams fade too thanks

HowAboutNo Thu 23-Jan-14 12:38:35

Sending you positive vibes! I was you 2 weeks ago. Exactly the same - no movement. Had a great scan, and have had the occasional movement since. I have been worrying about stillbirth for the last few weeks, though honestly I just think if it's not one thing to worry about it's another! It's all completely normal to freak out. Welcome to the rest of your life! thanks

ChicaMomma Thu 23-Jan-14 12:26:00

Yes indeed Crispy.. as my own mother said to me, this is only the beginning of all the worrying.. we have signed up to a life of it! I've never been a worrier at all, and am flabbergasted at the level of worry i'm now experiencing.. Firstly the micarrying worry from 4-10, then the Nuchal fold test worrying at 11, now the Anomaly worrying, OH says he's now SO used to waking in the middle of the nite to see the 'GLOW' of my iPhone as i'm busy googling stuff in the middle of the night! They dont seem to experience the same level of worry AT ALL

CrispyFB Thu 23-Jan-14 12:00:02

Hope all goes well today! Statistics are SO much on your side at this point. If you have an anterior placenta (at the front) and/or baby is pointing the wrong way it's quite normal to have not felt anything!

Having said that I also worry about everything - it's normal, it's what we do! It's part of being a mother.

ChicaMomma Thu 23-Jan-14 11:53:13

RaRa, best of luck today, please do report back!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 22-Jan-14 17:33:29

Nah! that's just the way I type! wink
Im a hypocrite really, I stress the whole time, DD does have anomalies, I dread every scan in case they bring up something new, but I try not to stress stuff I can explain. and often fail
The vast majority of PGs are just fine. Its just the very few that aren't are the ones that end up on the internet.
I really do know how you feel. Try not to worry though. And just think, you'll see your baby! smile And by this time tomorrow you might even know if its a boy or girl! grin

RaRa1988 Wed 22-Jan-14 16:10:23

Saggy: You sound very wise and rational! I used to be like that! I don't know why her stillbirth occurred, and I don't know her well enough to ask. I think right now I'd prefer not to know? I'm worrying enough as it is!

Can they face backwards? Spose they can. I'd never even thought of that, so thanks for that idea. All I've heard so far is everyone saying they've felt the baby by like 20weeks at the latest, especially if they're slim, and only haven't if their placenta is anterior, and it's got me a nervous wreck!

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