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Pregnancy Grumpiness

(72 Posts)
talulahbelle Wed 08-Jan-14 13:33:51

I am suffering with pissed off at the world syndrome at the moment.
I can cope and be polite with sensible normal people, but anyone getting in my way or being a fool needs to watch out.

Any tips on how to cope?

Legalbaby79 Wed 08-Jan-14 20:21:02

Oh and those poxy emails that say " track your weight during pregnancy" oh bugger off ....

weeza13 Wed 08-Jan-14 20:27:49

sorry to say but its a relief to hear that others in their first tri are grumpy and tired too and its not just me being unreasonable. Have not slept properly in weeks as DP is prolific snorer, as soon as I am awake the noise annoys me to crazy levels and I end up downstairs or awake in bed crying with frustration that he is asleep and I'm not, and I still have to go to work each day to deal with 30 young children. Any tips on how to sleep?

SugarMiceInTheRain Wed 08-Jan-14 20:38:20

Oooh me too. Really fed up. I know people are trying to be nice when they ask how I am, but 95% of them just want to make small talk and don't want to hear that my pelvis feels like it's going to split in two from the SPD, I haven't slept well in weeks, and that actually I'm not that excited about it at all (flipping AND) sad It's not really that long to go now (6 weeks left) but I know from previous pregnancies, and the fact that this pregnancy is taking its toll on me more than previous ones, that those last 6 weeks will feel like an eternity. I'm getting good at acting like everything is fine, and just privately gritting my teeth and silently seething!

Newmumtobe2014 Thu 09-Jan-14 08:29:59

LOL, i feel huge compared to some girls at my work who are further ahead than me! I look like i am carrying two lol

J3llyB3lly Thu 09-Jan-14 19:21:32

So relieved that it's NOT just me who has PMT on steroids.

I'm 37+5 with an increasingly stroppy 5 yr old dd and a dh who doesnt understand that poor sleep, extreme cankles, stuffy nose, all-night baby gymnastics and his snoring are why I melt down most evenings Im not sure he has cottoned on that we are having a baby very soon! No help + denial = v disgruntled bump minder angry

And relax...

SugarMiceInTheRain Thu 09-Jan-14 19:29:57

I feel guilty for being so snappy, especially when DH and the boys are making a real effort to look after me. I can recognise that when I am feeling rational, however my lucid, rational moments are few and far between right now!! grin

PervyMuskrat Thu 09-Jan-14 20:10:28

First trimester here and ready to punch DH (who is normally the nicest man in the world) for eating stinky crisps when I feel really nauseous angry

Wuxiapian Thu 09-Jan-14 20:13:53

32+1 here and mega grumpy and hormonal and achey and tired and worried since I lost mucus plug 5 days ago.

TeaAndANatter Thu 09-Jan-14 21:07:34

One more person asks if I'm excited, whether it was planned, or how I'm feeling (with their head tipped to one side) is going to get a fat lip.

Six days overdue and 'grumpy' doesn't quite cut it. Filled with murderous rage, hysteria and daydreams of throttling anyone who mentions fucking inductions.

Have been hormonal, rageous and snappy since about week 6. Had a stretch in second tri where I was less of an horrific bitch, but it soon subsided. In fact, massively elevated hormones have been my main symptom.

DH has learned to make me brew and provide hugs on demand and NEVER to question my sanity/reasonableness. grin

RaRa1988 Fri 10-Jan-14 11:19:11

I'm just sick of being ill! I don't seem to be very good at being pg. Normally really healthy, and instead I spent the first trimester being/feeling sick, then a couple of weeks of respite, and now I'm allergic to everything airborne under the sun, get restless legs, am STILL really tired, and have headaches and constipation. And DP wonders why I get moody!

Wuxiapian Fri 10-Jan-14 11:47:50

And, extra grumpy as I've had a bad cold for the past 2 months (since I had flu jab, coincidentally) and have an 11 month old DS who I'm really struggling to entertain!

Just want to sleep, but can't. Have visitors later and need to clean and tidy sad

enormouse Fri 10-Jan-14 12:15:45

I'll join the grumpy brigade too. 38+2 here.

I've finally got the physio referral for sciatica I wanted for the past 6 weeks though it's going to be too little too late.
My house is a mess as I can't do it and dp is spending all his time after work fielding ds, taking him out and generally stopping him jumping all over me.

I feel fat, fugly and sore all the time. Don't feel like I'm being a great mum to ds as I can't pick him up, take him out or do anything fun. I pulled my leg muscles carrying him downstairs and had to get DP to come home and look after him as I can't move now.
My lecturer won't offer me an extension on the essay I'm writing (but I've almost got it done - thank God).

Dp and I were supposed to be having a day out tomorrow but I don't think I'll be able to manage it.

DownstairsMixUp Fri 10-Jan-14 12:21:50

I'm early, not due till September, but I'm moody, paranoid and snappy. Also incredibly anxious. Really hope I feel better after a scan.

Wuxiapian Fri 10-Jan-14 12:26:58

Sounds really hard going, enormouse.

I've just dosed myself up on paracetamol - got a bad headache - have done since sleepless night in hospital with DS with bronchiolitis on Monday.

How old is your DS?

enormouse Fri 10-Jan-14 13:53:42

He's 2 and a bit wuxi. A very bouncy, demanding sort of 2. Climbs onto things but can't manage getting down by himself again.

How old's yours wuxi?

I got a call back from the physio and they can't fit me in. The therapist was lovely and gave me a lot of advice over the phone and is sending me stuff in the post but I'm still gutted. Not surprised though. They will keep me on their list in case the pain doesn't resolve itself post birth.

enormouse Fri 10-Jan-14 13:54:41

Oh sorry just seen - 11 months. Cbeebies is your friend.

Wuxiapian Fri 10-Jan-14 14:08:58

Sorry to hear about the physio, enormouse. I was recently discharged from my physio (only for back/pelvic pain to return with a vengeance) a couple months ago until April - 2 months post partum.

You're so close to the end now - hopefully it will resolve itself.

I feel hopeless and helpless at the moment. DS and I haven't been to any playgroups since November as I've been constantly unwell. Feeling extra lardy, too, as I'm hardly moving as everything hurts.

I discovered the cbeebies a little while ago. And feel guilty that he is, perhaps, in front of the screen too much.


enormouse they can't fit you in? FFS. Lame. angry On your behalf. I hope the physio's tips help a little.

Seff Fri 10-Jan-14 14:27:35

Hello to all the other grumpy pregnant ladies!

Sitting down makes me ache. Being on my feet makes me ache. Walking makes me ache. I'd spend more time in the bath but it's just not that comfortable with a 3.5 year old that just has to sit on me.

I'm 31 weeks (I'm sensing a theme here btw!) and any hint of second trimester glow/energy/other bullshit has gone and I am permanently exhausted and achy. And I know that the only option is to push this baby out of me.

Baby keeps flipping from sideways to head down, so I either get kicks at the very edge of my belly or I have the pressure on my bladder. Not his fault, but it does sometimes feel like all 3 of my family are conspiring against me.

YY to people not wanting to know the details. "How am I? Well, as I was throwing up this morning I kept pissing myself, I think I need two toilets that face each other." No, nobody wants to hear that (apart from all you lovely ladies of course!)

It's all those little things that DH does/doesn't do that are pissing me off at the moment. Toothbrush left on the sink every.fucking.day instead of being put away. The inability to hang a coat up. Then asking me why it can be difficult to get DD to put her things away.

Oh yeah, the OP. Tips on how to cope? Other than childbirth, fucked if I know!

(feel a teeeeeeeny bit better now, thanks!)

Mummytobe2014 Fri 10-Jan-14 14:31:22

I think this is my favourite post currently! grin

Loopylouu Fri 10-Jan-14 14:47:08

seff two toilets that face each other grin

I have fantised over having a bathroom like that during morning sickness. Puking and pissing simultanoiusly is no fun.

PixieBumbles Fri 10-Jan-14 14:52:47

23+6 and still waiting for the second trimester energy boost. Getting really fed up with people asking how the pregnancy is going, because nobody wants to hear "well I can barely walk, the baby is playing football with my bladder, my skin is red, itchy and covered in painful spots, I'm still being sick everyday and pissing myself at the same time and I can't get through a day without a huge nap, but otherwise great!" so I just grit my teeth and say "really well thank you".

Somebody commented the other day that I'm waddling when I walk, even though I'm "not pregnant enough" to need to waddle. Well actually my pelvis feels like it's disintegrating and an ungainly waddle is the only way I can walk that feels even slightly comfortable.

What is it about pregnancy anyway that immediately makes your body and actions public property to be commented on at will?!

You can't talk to anybody about how you really feel because you're supposed to be happy and grateful when all you really want is for the next few months to disappear and for it to all be over, so you just end up feeling hopelessly inadequate. When you do break down with pain, frustration and sheer exhaustion it's just put down to hormones, because what you really need is for your feelings to be invalidated even further.

This is my first pregnancy. When I told my mum she went on and on about how easy her pregnancies were, how she loved being pregnant and she was sure I'd take after her and breeze through it. Bullshit.

And now I feel bad because it could be a whole lot worse.

Sorry for the rant, I think I needed it. I am very fed up today!

Loopylouu Fri 10-Jan-14 15:00:03

I am sure the second trimester energy boost is a lie.

I am 28 weeks now and have felt drained and shit all the way along. I did in my first pregnancy too, and I was 11 years you get then and a hell of a lot thinner and fitter!

Loopylouu Fri 10-Jan-14 15:03:03

and yy to becoming public property.

We had lunch at the pub the other day. I ordered at the bar - pint for dh and a coke for me. I was informed by the batman that norther were suitable for me and would I like a glass of water.

Then, as I was shaking salt onto my food he commented that I shouldn't be having that either.

I wanted to shove the salt sellor up his arse.

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