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Glass of wine on Chrismas day.

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LucyB1 Mon 16-Dec-13 15:13:50

Hi, I'm going to be 12+5 on Christmas day and i am absolutely GAGGING for a glass of red. Is that really bad cause I'm not quite out of the first trimester??

I won't be bothering. I didn't drink at all when pregnant with DD either.

But it's not some moral thing. I just know that one glass will sadden me more than satisfy me. It'll make me miss good wine. And a proper ice cold martini. And a glass of really good bourbon.

<<wails>>

I'm 37 weeks & haven't touched a drop since finding out i'm pregnant.
I'm sure one sneaky one would be fine op, i miss my wine but going to abstain from it as i will be breastfeeding so best get used to having no alcohol now! Might have just one glass of Asti spritzed with lemonade though, for celebrations sake.

MrsWembley Mon 16-Dec-13 16:45:17

Do it!grin

Just the odd one here and there will probably do no harm. It's the consistently heavy drinkers who will have a problem.

Though, for situations where Schloer or any other sweet sticky substance just won't work, Waitrose and Co-Op sell a reasonable substitute for red. Can't think what it's called and can't do links on my phone anyway, but I'm sure if you do a search for alcohol-free wine on either website you'll find it.

You do understand, though, when I say 'reasonable', I mean 'make sure you don't have it straight after the real thing and so have nothing immediately to compare it to...'wink

EeyoreIsh Mon 16-Dec-13 17:08:18

I never knew that about having food first. I'll try to stick to that!

HomeIsWhereTheGinIs Mon 16-Dec-13 17:37:48

FAS is caused by the mother drinking multiple units of alcohol on a very regular basis. A glass of wine won't hurt.

VJONES1985 Mon 16-Dec-13 17:43:25

I'll be 6+0 so maybe I shouldn't have any! Not really missing alcohol yet though.

RaRa1988 Mon 16-Dec-13 17:49:12

I'll be 16 weeks exactly and my family normally have champagne in so I won't be missing out on that! I barely drink otherwise - yesterday I had my first glass of wine in weeks - so I can't imagine one or two glasses will do any harm.

Mumbledore Mon 16-Dec-13 17:59:58

I will be 11+4 and I will absolutely be having a small glass with my turkey!

MiracleOntheM4 Mon 16-Dec-13 19:11:43

There is absolutely no harm in the odd glass of wine - in fact my GP recommended a small glass of red a week it with this pregnancy for the sake of feeling 'normal'. It is much mooted that the NHS say no alcohol because people don't understand units etc. and this is therefore a catch all. If it was a real problem half of Europe would be in trouble - I have French and Italian friends who think it's bizarre that so many Brits (and the Americans) think we have to abstain completely.

Each to their own but I think saying things like 'why risk it?' is scaremongering and frankly there's enough to fret about over the 40 odd weeks!!

For those looking this dealcoholised wine is quite nice but drink it ice cold.

Torres Natureo

Oh and for the festive season Bottle Green Spiced Berry Cordial can just about work as a substitute for mulled wine!

deuscat Mon 16-Dec-13 19:48:46

I'll be 7+3 on Christmas Day so I plan to abstain. I also plan to completely abstain throughout the pregnancy. I'm not a big drinker so I'm hoping it won't be too difficult.

But then I'm obsessed with sticking to rules grin

loopylou52 Mon 16-Dec-13 19:50:45

My brother normally buys champagne for Christmas day so I've decided I'll have a small glass of that. I'll be 20 weeks then and haven't had anything so far.

Plateofcrumbs Mon 16-Dec-13 20:21:11

The advice about drinking with/after food, slowly and spacing with water makes lots of sense and would definitely be how I plan to drink once I get out of tri 1.

Also although not planning to drink at Xmas am planning to be relatively lenient when it comes to food with alcohol in - eg will still have a small portion of booze laced Xmas pudding!

Mintyy Mon 16-Dec-13 20:22:59

What on earth makes you think 1 glass of wine is harmful?

Mintyy Mon 16-Dec-13 20:25:36

I should think I drank 30 or more glasses of wine in the course of each of my two pregnancies. It was never suggested to me that this could be a problem in any way. This was in 2000 and 2003, by the way, not the dark ages!

AHardDaysWrite Mon 16-Dec-13 20:26:56

I was pregnant last Christmas and had a glass of wine on Christmas Day and a glass of champagne on NYE. Dd is fine and I really enjoyed them!

Go for it.

However be warned, I had my 12 week scan on my birthday and decided to celebrate with a small glass of red with dinner... I was really excited but then I couldn't drink it sad. It made me feel sick. And I love wine normally.

KatnipEvergreen Mon 16-Dec-13 20:34:48

DD2 was planned so I had been not drinking very much, but I was off my face when I got pregnant with DD1, that's how it happened as I threw up the pill the next day!

I had two glasses of wine a week or equivalent (if I fancied it) throughout both pregnancies (last one 2008/9) and probably two glasses of champagne on Christmas Day.

I also often had a glass of wine while doing the bedtime breast feed.

In spite of the "rules" changing recently if I were pregnant now I wouldn't do anything different.

RedCountryRoads Mon 16-Dec-13 20:39:28

I'll be 12 weeks exactly and I'm really looking forward to a glass of Bucks fizz. Family tradition before the meal.

I might even have a half a lager shandy with my meal. I'm not a wine drinker.

Go for it OP.

xx

Ragwort Mon 16-Dec-13 20:40:14

I didn't even know I was pregnant until I was 10 weeks and was drinking normally (for me grin - 2-3 glasses a night) until then.

Really, what harm do you think one glass of wine is going to do to you? hmm.

My MIL was a midwife in the 60s and it was quite the norm to drink spirits and smoke throughout your pregnancy in those days - she had two strapping children.

I also had a glass of wine most evenings when breast feeding. I do think there is a tendancy towards absolute hysteria if a pregnant woman dares to have a drink or two especially on mumsnet.

Shellywelly1973 Mon 16-Dec-13 20:40:33

I find the subject of alcohol in pregnancy quite strange. I very rarely ever drink so I don't when im pregnant. I was 23 weeks on my 40th birthday. I didn't drink.

Last Christmas we were on 2 week wait & I got a bfp on 30/12 but sadly had a mmc in the February.

Its about being sensible. Do people really drink alot when not pregnant?

BlackholesAndRevelations Mon 16-Dec-13 20:47:45

Yup, do it! I was about 37 weeks on Christmas day with my dd and I had a bucks fizz with dinner (few shocked faces but I was quite forceful in my conviction that I was having one and it'd be fine so there! wink ) this year I'm hoping to have had the baby already by the big day but if not, I'll certainly be having a glass of something. Haven't had any other alcohol.

Mintyy Mon 16-Dec-13 20:48:34

Agree Ragwort. Although obviously I don't condone smoking at all in pregnancy (my mum smoked 20 a day in 1962 and I was born weighing a magnificent 5lb 12oz full term hmm) but the giving up of alcohol altogether is very recent and completely made up.

mummyish Mon 16-Dec-13 21:00:26

I'll be having a couple of glasses, but I'll be 38 weeks, so there's a chance baby might even had made an appearance by then anyway! I've had 1 or 2 small glasses of wine from about 20wks onwards, only when I've fancied it and mainly with food, socialising or to relax. It's a personal choice - this is my first pregnancy and all my friends enjoyed the odd glass throughout pregnancy, so there's not much 'judgement' in our circle. Plus, I used to drink at least a glass or two each night before getting pregnant, so it's something I was quite used to. I also read a few studies at the start of my pregnancy so I could make an informed decision. For me, it's about guilt - if you feel so guilty and think 'what if?' then why bother - as this totally defeats the object of having the odd glass for enjoyment/relaxation. I certainly wouldn't judge anyone for drinking or for abstaining - each to their own! Enjoy and Merry Xmas :-)

lanbro Mon 16-Dec-13 21:28:24

I drank occasionally throughout both pregnancies and more frequently, although obviously not masses, whilst bf. Not because I couldn't go without a drink, more because I didn't stress myself out worrying about what I should or shouldn't have, and I wasn't bothered what anyone thought.

Obviously the NHS/WHO can't advise a safe amount as that would involve a study with pregnant women drinking various amounts and possibly harming an unborn child. I would always say be sensible and everything in moderation is a good rule for life!

ToomuchIsBackOnBootcamp Mon 16-Dec-13 22:12:16

I thought I was missing a glass of wine when I was pregnant with Ds so decided to have one glass of champagne on Christmas Day (I'd have been about halfway through preg by then) but I only managed a couple of sips and it tasted really odd, very metallic and wrong! So I didn't bother for the rest of the pregnancy. In fact it was several months after Ds was born before any alcohol smelt or tasted the same again to me so I just didn't drink for about 2 years!

I make up for it now, like smile

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