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Pregnancy is a ticket to calling a women fat :( rant post sorry

(48 Posts)
SweetPea86 Wed 13-Nov-13 17:16:28

At work today and there's a fella from management, typical jack the lad always showing off acting like the big man. (Bit of a sexist pig)

Came up to me today and said hello fatty with a big grin on his face.

I'm 5 months but I don't look pregnant yet.

I'm about a size 14 to 16 so I'm not slim he made me feel like crap.

I few fellas have called me fatty porky etc sines found out I was pregnant. It's as if they always thought that but now I'm preg they have an excuse to actually call me that.

I was so hurt my weight has bothered me since I was 13 I lost about 3 stone and piled it all bk on. I'm not massive just arverge size. But you just don't need to hear that when your body is changing sad

Just needed to rant

Stom91 Wed 13-Nov-13 17:53:25

That's awful. I would have slapped him!!
He's obviously making up for a lack of something ;)

Try to ignore it. Can you go to your manager and say it isn't on and say if it carries on you will take it further and say bullying at work or something?

TheBreastmilksOnMe Wed 13-Nov-13 17:59:31

It's really horrible but have you thought about a witty retort such as 'I'm pregnant, what's your excuse?' That should stop him in his tracks. I second speaking to management about it though.

Beccadugs Wed 13-Nov-13 18:00:33

No suggestions, just sympathy.

It's hard not to feel sensitive about it, and I hate the lack of control...

SweetPea86 Wed 13-Nov-13 18:05:08

I said was kind of stunned that he said it I just said back your a F@£king pig lol

He looked taken aback and then laughed. Smug git.

Hate men like him. Told my hubby when I got home he went mental lol least not all fellas are insenative arseholes lol

I did think of going to management. If he does it again I will

Sounds like a perfect reason to use the MN retort: - "Did you mean to be so rude?" - though I might change it slightly to: "Did you mean To be so offensive?"

SweetPea86 Wed 13-Nov-13 18:06:11

Sorry that made no sense at start of last post I meant when he said it I was totally stunned.

schnockles Wed 13-Nov-13 18:08:23

That's horrible. I had a few people do that to me (also past weight issues but no one really knows about them and I'm not very big...) and my reply was:
"I'm sorry, what did you just call me?"
They felt pretty stupid after repeating the word 'fatty'...! It sounds so much worse the second time around grin

pumpkinkitty Wed 13-Nov-13 18:10:16

My stock answer was 'yes but your face will always look like that'

Littlebean13 Wed 13-Nov-13 19:34:26

It's awful isn't it! I've literally lost count of the amount of men who have found it acceptable to call me fatty over these past couple of months! I've always been a size 8 - 10 so I've never had any big body issues with my weight before but I've struggled slightly to come to terms with my changing body and it really pisses me off that people, mainly ignorant men, feel the need to comment on your weight the second you get pregnant!

IcouldstillbeJoseph Wed 13-Nov-13 19:39:21

I'm a midwife OP and a size 8. When pregnant I gained 5 stone. I was very embarrassed about how big I was. A midwifery colleague walked past me and said "hello fatty". I lost the plot a little bit at her. Wtf. People wouldn't say this normally so why would you do it to a pregnant woman. Beggars belief, thoughtless wanker.

MetellaEstMater Wed 13-Nov-13 20:05:18

The other day I was in the tube and a girl turned to her boyfriend and commented that she hated 'Baby on Board' badges. He looked me up and down and said well thin women don't need them, just fatties who are borderline pregnant.' sad I'm no Kate Moss but usually a 12.

So lots of sympathy OP. thanks

SweetPea86 Wed 13-Nov-13 20:14:35

Really horrible people isn't there. It's so easy to be nice why can't people just give it ago. On the plus I did have a lady say I can belive your 5 months your not showing yet (I'm fat so it's not obvious yet) but still nice to hear and a work college said I look very beuitiful and glowing. Funny the nasty comment over rides the nice ones.

Stom91 Wed 13-Nov-13 21:07:18

A work colleague said to me (who was 8 weeks behind me and was bigger than me I might add) your at that stage where you don't look pregnant yet, just looks like you've eaten a few too many pies!!
Charming!!!

I was 25 weeks then and struggling to come to terms with getting bigger.

Cariad007 Wed 13-Nov-13 21:18:55

Stom, the same was said to me last week. When I told a friend she went "oh so and so was being sociable, lighten up." FFS! And said friend would be the first to moan if someone told her she was fat.

ClearlyMoo Wed 13-Nov-13 21:37:18

Argh!! *joins in ranting* why do people need to comment AT ALL let alone when women are preggo. It's a time when you're feeling different and your body is doing weird things and you're not necessarily feeling confident.

I lost 5 stone in 2012 and kept it off still I got a BFP! I then put 1-1.5stone on in first trimester...

When we told Inlaws I was pregnant (at 12weeks) MIL found it appropriate to say that FIL had said "Sges not lost any weight recently" the week before. I'm livid!!

Just because I lost weight doesn't mean I'm not going to gain any in pregnancy.

No one has any right to x

FobblyWoof Wed 13-Nov-13 22:15:34

If it makes you feel any better my MIL asked me who ate all the pies and said I needed a wide load sign the other week. Suffice to say I've not spoken to her since

ClearlyMoo Wed 13-Nov-13 22:21:57

FobblyWoof argh! That's terrible! There needs to be some worldwide marketing campaign that its not appropriate to comment on pregnant ladies weight!!

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Wed 13-Nov-13 22:24:11

complain to HR about him - seriously.

AngryBeaver Wed 13-Nov-13 22:30:35

I'm currently pregnant with dc4.. My belly is HUGE! But I'm only 16.4 days.
I had to pick a tyre up from the garage the other day and said "sorry, could you put it in the boot for me, please? I would normally, but I'm pregnant"
He looked at me and said (smiling) "ahh, a likely story, you're just FAT!"

I have to say, I laughed!

As I drove off he went "bye fatty!!"

My mum was in the passenger seat and was like this confused

The humour in this country (nz) is a bit different, and things like that are tolerated more readily.

Also, I like to think that if he really thought I was fat, he wouldn't have said it...but who knows!

I laughed at his cheek anyway smile

AngryBeaver Wed 13-Nov-13 22:34:58

Oh BUT, when I lived in UK, I had a REEEEEALLY annoying posty!
Really, really annoying.

He had taken to calling me fatty at the door (I was heavily pregnant) when I signed for stuff.
It got on my nerves and I told dh, who thought it was outrageous.

Anyhoo, I was in the spar one day, and he was too.

He SHOUTED out " HELLOOO FATTY" !!shockshock
And everyone looked at me!

I was so pissed off I shouted back "hello BALDY!"
His face fell.
People laughed.
I exited.
Twat.

Mim78 Wed 13-Nov-13 22:48:11

A mum on the school run always calls me "fat woman" since she found out I was pregnant. It sounds quite blunt the way she says it, but I have to say I don't mind. My understanding is that she is saying it because I am NOT fat - my bump is not that big even at 26 weeks. Perhaps this is the same for you? Size 14 to 16 doesn't sound as though it's likely people have being going around thinking you are fat behind your back.

Misty9 Wed 13-Nov-13 22:53:11

My beloved dh said to me, whilst I was online clothes shopping, honey everything you wear is going to make you look fat - you're pregnant. Bless him, sensitivity is not always his strong point grin

When I was heavily pregnant last time round he also made lorry reversing beeping sounds when I sat down...I didn't talk to him for a bit for that one!

AngryBeaver Wed 13-Nov-13 22:58:04

Just remembered another one in this pregnancy.

A woman I hardly know said "look at you. You fat bastard!!" When I went to say hello! Again my mum was like shockshockshock

Hotmad Wed 13-Nov-13 23:24:17

Know exactly how you feel.... People don't realise they being really insensitive, especially when like you say, weight and being overweight has always been on the mind.... I always go up and down in weight, and an older lady I know said to me ' you've put some weight on again haven't you dear' to which I said, 'actually I'm pregnant' and she said ' no I didn't mean your tummy I meant In your face and arms' I was so upset by this as I was only about 20 weeks! From that day I vowed never to talk to that woman again!! Lol

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