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Miscarried today <\3

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junebaby2014 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:14:17

Anyone going through this just now?

Today i had slight bleeding when i woke up.
I was averaging at 10 weeks as per doctors visit.
Scan showing today 7 weeks 5 days but no heart beat :'(
They say this bleeding is the early stages of miscarriage.
But had no bleeding since that one toilet visit this morning.

Anyone been given false hope and been told theyv miscarried and weeks later have a healthy beating heart?

Anyone any advice on when the bleeding and pain will start for baby to pass?

I am so confused and dont want to believe it.
I'm 24 next week and this is just the worst news and shock i have ever experienced!

Can't seem to find threads on here, can anyone help me and put my own little heart to rest

xox

Rockchick1984 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:20:38

I'm so sorry you're going through this thanks

When I miscarried earlier this year I found a lot of comfort and knowledgable posters on the miscarriage board

TeaJunky Mon 11-Nov-13 18:20:53

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TeaJunky Mon 11-Nov-13 18:22:49

Apologies - I somehow misread your op and thought you'd asked if it was possible you could have been misinformed about the bleeding.

brewthanks

Peppapigisnotmyname Mon 11-Nov-13 18:25:57

So sorry, this is an awful time for you. I've had two miscarriages both were missed ie no bleeding and were diagnosed at scans. I had a d and c with both of mine. It's horrible but you will smile again xx

junebaby2014 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:40:51

Thank you guys.

I just don't want to believe it �� still feels like today hasn't happened.

I have heard stories of false miscarriages and miscarriages that baby doesnt pass..

I'm so confused. ��

princesscupcakemummyb Mon 11-Nov-13 18:43:49

im very sorry i myself had a mmc in 2012 i know exactly how you feel sending my hugs your way take care

morgs22 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:44:41

I have no advice just the hope that its a false miscarriage sad thanks xx

junebaby2014 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:47:10

❤️Thank you!

I mean obviously i'm not going to give myself false hope.
But do i go through the surgical option or tablet option so baby passes quicker?
Or is there that hope if i let it pass naturally it might be wrong? Instead of me potentially making it pass when it's still my baby jelly bean? ����

I don't know what to do!!!

KatAndKit Mon 11-Nov-13 18:47:35

I had two miscarriages that were only diagnosed at a scan. Sadly, if you ought to be 10 weeks then your scan is unlikely to be wrong. Past 7 weeks, even if dates were wrong, you would expect to see a heartbeat.

however, you don't have to make any decisions yet, you can ask for another scan in two weeks if you have not miscarried naturally. I personally preferred to get it over with so i could move forward, so i had surgical management the first time and medical the second.

so sorry you are having to go through this horrid experience.

Shellywelly1973 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:51:07

I had a mmc at 12 weeks last February. It was one of the most difficult times in my life. I had an ERPC so I can't give you advice relating to when things will happen.

Give yourself time. Take care of yourself.

Thinking of you.

junebaby2014 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:52:25

Thank you katandkit! ��

It does makes sense to get it over and done with to move on and get the pain done with as well instead of waiting for your baby to pass which is only going to bring it all back.

I've taken the week off work, compassionate leave of course.
Obviously letting it go naturally can take longer? Obviously id rather be home with my partner when this happens as i have been advised it is going to be painful and a lot of bleeding.. Any advice with the work situation?

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junebaby2014 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:53:21

❤️Thank you shelly!

OP you don't have to make any decisions yet. Give it a bit of time and use another scan to reassure you that the pregnancy has ended. I agree that given you should be 10 weeks and the scan shows barely 8 and no heart beat that your pregnancy has miscarried.
It happens to a lot of women I'm afraid but many will never talk about it. It's not uncommon for women to get even further than you and then find a pregnancy is over. It's heartbreakingly sad sad.

junebaby2014 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:59:00

I have a few days to decide to then call hospital with my decision.

At the moment natural way is in my mind....
It is the work situation that is worrying me as i don't want to take so much time off, but again i don't know how long this process can take..
And i had told everyone as my first pregnancy i was so excited i'm so impatient with news etc, so the hard thing going back to tell everyone!!

Me and my partner are so so upset, and where so excited this was happening, we are still to talk, and we will have that discussion if we will try again? I couldnt imagine going through this again. I put my hands up to all you mummys who have had more than 1 ��

Omg this is so frustrating.

Am i dreaming? someone please pinch me!!

You can ask your line manager to tell everyone that you've miscarried and you don't want people to talk to you about it unless you do so first. No reason why you have to tell people. Regarding time off - you need to take as long as it takes to get you to feel well enough to be at work. It's as simple as that. Some people take a few days, others much longer. There's no right or wrong and you can get a note from your GP if needed. Don't worry about work. Just concentrate on the time you need.

MrsCharlieD Mon 11-Nov-13 19:59:21

Oh junebaby I am so sorry to hear this and offer lots of sympathy and hugs. Stay strong and keep positive. I don't know anything about MC I'm afraid so can't help on that fron, just take your time and allow yourself to grieve. Thinking of you x

junebaby2014 Mon 11-Nov-13 21:02:41

Thank you everyone for your kind kind words and advise honestly means so much to me! ❤️��

I didn't know i could produce so much tears honestly.

Every words means a lot thank you all

DIYandEatCake Mon 11-Nov-13 21:23:31

You have my every sympathy, it is truly awful. I recommend the miscarriage board too (in the body and soul section) - I got lots of support there when it happened to me.
To answer one of your questions, I opted for a natural miscarriage - I had one night of painful cramps and quite heavy bleeding, then about 5 weeks of passing blood and tissue (I think it's normally faster, in my case the sac took ages to come away). I had to have blood tests every few days to check hcg levels. The whole episode was pretty grim but I am a wuss and terrified of surgery, and couldn't take the medical route as I was still breast feeding 20mo dd.
But my story ends well - last Christmas I was in hospital with the miscarriage, this Christmas I will have a newborn baby (am 36 weeks now). All the best and look after yourself.

BlackholesAndRevelations Mon 11-Nov-13 21:24:16

So sorry to read this sad I had two miscarriages earlier this year (earlier losses than yours). It is horrendous. I can't add anything really except to say I passed mine naturally and then had two weeks off work- was signed off by epau- so you might need longer than a week depending on when it happens.

Lots of support and empathy. Also- I agree with rockchick; the miscarriage board was a lifesaver for me.

Xxxx

SaucyJack Mon 11-Nov-13 21:25:21

Sorry dude sad

andthepiggotupandslowlywalkeda Mon 11-Nov-13 21:30:02

All my sympathy here as well. It is utterly rubbish, isn't it. I'm so sorry.

Inglori0us Mon 11-Nov-13 21:42:07

Just sending you hugs as I have no advice. Take care. xxx

Whiteclouds Mon 11-Nov-13 22:01:40

so sorry to hear this. I had a mc in 2010, I had a natural mc 2 days after bleeding. it is heartbreaking and I experienced a strange loneliness with it despite having a good support network. Please allow yourself some time off to recover. it helped me to know how common it is, if you choose to tell people you will be surprised by how many women you know will tell you that they have also been through it. it made me sure that I really wnted a baby and went on to fall pregnant 2 months later. we now have 2 wonderful children and life is good. sending you hugs

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