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Ohhh I am such a rebel (sarcastic post!)

(35 Posts)
Anothermrssmith Fri 01-Nov-13 19:43:30

Just made a risotto for dinner and used wine! I even stood in the Kitchen sniffing the open bottle for ten minutes before pouring any! Suppose this is what counts as living dangerously these days,lol.

(And yes I know,the alcohol cooks out but let me have my rebellious moment)

If this wine shortage the press have been banging on about over the last few days is well and truly in affect by the time I start drinking again I honestly will cry. The irony of there being a wine shortage AFTER I haven't drunk any for 6 months is not lost on me.

technosausage Sun 03-Nov-13 20:50:14

Wish I could, even the smell of my partners drink makes me feel sick sad
This is my second pregnancy, with my first I had the odd glass.

Suzietwo Sun 03-Nov-13 14:37:05

By the third trimester I have drunk up to half a bottle of wine some nights during both my pregnancies, over the course of an evening. I stop when I feel it effecting me.

hettienne Sun 03-Nov-13 13:37:19

The panic about diet drinks is all bollocks too.

Eat and drink what you want within moderation. Plenty of women around the world and through out history have managed to carry and birth healthy babies without panicking about the odd glass of wine or diet coke.

Shellywelly1973 Sun 03-Nov-13 13:23:35

See?! It just goes on & on & on... !;-)

NatashaBee Sun 03-Nov-13 13:21:07

Think the risks are to do with artificial sweeteners like aspartame.

loopdaloo Sun 03-Nov-13 13:17:22

Oops I lived on diet coke throughout both pregnancies! Never heard about any risks?!

BummyMummy77 Sun 03-Nov-13 13:06:46

My midwives would smack a diet coke out of my hand if they caught me with one.

NatashaBee Sun 03-Nov-13 13:03:39

My OBGYN was fairly blasé about drinking during pregnancy - she told me a small glass 3 times a week was fine and that she drank in moderation throughout all her pregnancies. I didn't drink anything, but i probably would have had the odd spritzer if i'd wanted one, i preferred to stick with alcohol free beer. She was adamant, however, that I was not to touch diet soda under any circumstances! She felt that diet drinks with sweeteners had far more potential risks... Made me think.

Shellywelly1973 Sun 03-Nov-13 12:55:36

Absolutely Morien!

I rarely drink normally but at my booking in appointment the midwife kept insisting I must drink at Christmas & birthdays. Many Christmas' & birthdays have passed & I haven't had a drink.

My point about smoking was about the levels. No one knows whats safe regarding alcohol or smoking in pregnancy so hcps advise zero. The testing would be impossible so how a safe level could be obtained is also impossible.

I think people are way too judgemental. Its actually getting worse. When I had my older dc people really didn't seem to care. Its as if people think you lose brain function as your tummy grows!

Morien Sat 02-Nov-13 21:06:12

I'm so sick of the whole alcohol in pregnancy thing (am 26 weeks). Other than in the first trimester when I couldn't stand the smell of it, let alone the taste, I've been having a small glass or 2 of red wine (or champagne grin) a week - my choice, and I'm happy with it, as is DH. Yet I just feel I can't win - whenever it's not just the two of us, if I have a glass of wine, someone's guaranteed to comment ('my daughter didn't touch alcohol at all when she was pregnant last year', 'oh, they allow that these days, do they?', etc etc), and if I don't have a glass, someone else is bound to comment ('my daughter had a little glass every now and then, you know', 'go on, one won't hurt'). I guess it's good preparation for the public scrutiny my parenting skills are going to come under blush

Anothermrssmith Sat 02-Nov-13 19:33:57

I applied to study midwifery a few years ago (never got accepted sad) and to support my application attended a training day by NOFAS, a charity supporting those with featal alcohol syndrome. At that we were told by a neo-natel care doctor who specialised in babies born with alcohol related problems that as far as she was concerned one unit a day (sure she said day) was fine,but what is one unit for me is not one unit for someone else and that's part of the problem, people are all built differently so I could in theory drink a larger glass of wine than another person but we would still only be having one unit each. Her advice was if you know what is one unit for you, and your absolutely sure it's only one unit and that you will stop at one unit, then go ahead and have a drink.

Personally,apart from the risotto,I've just cut out alcohol entirely. I've no judgement for anyone that has a glass (or two) of wine a week, but for me it's just been easier this way. And as I said earlier,the two weeks before I found out I was pregnant I was drinkig cocktails for brunch!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 02-Nov-13 19:17:29

once upon a time, people only drank alcohol! water wasnt safe to drink...

BummyMummy77 Sat 02-Nov-13 18:06:38

And when I say drink I mean one small glass a week max!

Julietee Sat 02-Nov-13 18:06:22

Shelly No study can define a safe limit because no study testing alcohol levels in pregnancy would be approved ethically smile
Some sources would therefore have us believe that there IS no safe limit and that any amount is harmful, which of course is crud. Women should read the research and draw their own conclusions because it's probably never going to be safe for official bodies to recommend a 'safe' amount. Plus they don't trust women not to start binge drinking if any amount is advised as acceptable.

BummyMummy77 Sat 02-Nov-13 18:05:27

I live in the States and every single time I've had a glass of wine with dinner in a restaurant have had at least one person come up to me to tell me I'm selfish/hurting baby/bad person etc.

Dh used to stick up for me and start reeling off facts but towards the end I've started saying things like "oh gosh, I'd better lay off the crack too." I figure if people don't care about offending me then I shouldn't give a shit about offending them.

The in laws (who are American) have been very vocal about how bad they think it is that I drink. I didn't in the first two trimesters, mainly because I couldn't even hold water down but have in the 3rd. When mil and sol started bitching the other night I pointed out that they have all refused to go get their tdap and there have been whooping cough outbreaks here recently which I think is pretty selfish.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 02-Nov-13 17:42:44

Crikey Shelly I thought I was an old gimmer! My 2 are 1996 and 1999! Your oldest is nearly as old as my little sister! grin

Shellywelly1973 Sat 02-Nov-13 10:01:03

Must add my older dc's were born in 1989 & 1992!

Shellywelly1973 Sat 02-Nov-13 09:59:51

People get v.arsey bout alcohol in pregnancy...

I wonder if you were posting, 'Im having 1 cigarette' what the response would be?

When I had my older dc there were smoking rooms on the post natel wards. Smoking wasn't encouraged but it really wasn't thst big a deal.

Drinking now is treated the same as smoking by HCP's. There isn't a HCP willing or able to define a 'safe' amount.

I think we will end up like America & drinking will eventually be deamionised.

Julietee Sat 02-Nov-13 09:50:04

It's so nice to see pregnant ladies being sensible about alcohol!
If you go to some of the american forums there are women there who'll make you feel like the most selfish, evil monster for even thinking about drinking. FAS is a binge drinking condition - no reason moderate, occasional pregnant drinkers should feel bad.

Mogz Sat 02-Nov-13 01:19:11

I had the nerve to drink a large white wine spritzer at my wedding dinner when I was 20 weeks, bloody best tasting drink I'd had in ages!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 02-Nov-13 00:56:02

I have been known to partake in the odd glass of cider! blush
And I also partook of a whole tub of spreadable St Agur the other day too! <<bad bad Saggy>>

PinkWitch803 Sat 02-Nov-13 00:09:37

I had half a guiness tonight, yum.

My rebellious moment was at a birthday party the othercweekend where I had two halves of thatchers gold cider so it felt like two drinks.

I am sure my little one will be fine. With the odd drink here and there as long as I keep away from the beautiful whisky I have waiting patiently for me.

I am 32 weeks

Anothermrssmith Fri 01-Nov-13 23:13:15

(Runs off and checks bottle)

2.6 units in a mini bottle - yes I used the whole bottle - split between hubby and I so 1.3 units each before any alcohol cooked off. Can live with that.

BummyMummy77 Fri 01-Nov-13 22:22:46

Lol something!

I had a glass last night. Been having the odd glass ever since I got into the 2nd trimester.

I was skiing for a month before I found out I was pregnant and thought he was a hangover for the whole time lol.

hettienne Fri 01-Nov-13 22:19:20

You wouldn't have cooked off all the alcohol in the time it takes to make a risotto by the way - you need to simmer something for 2+ hours to cook off 95% of the alcohol. After 30 minutes 35% would still remain.

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