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Touch my tummy unasked? Not in Pennsylvania.

(19 Posts)
BummyMummy77 Sun 10-Nov-13 21:30:21

If I was out with dh and him saw a stranger grab my belly I think he'd lay them out flat lol.

VanitasVanitatum Sun 10-Nov-13 17:22:37

I had the opposite of this, pregnant colleague said 'Ooh I can feel his heel just under my ribs, feel!' I didn't reach out because I didn't know her very well, so she grabbed my hand and pressed it hard against where his foot was.

Not that I minded, she obviously wanted to share!

wispaxmas Sun 10-Nov-13 17:16:00

Hear hear, it's harassment! We are taught that any unwanted touching is considered harassment, so why do people assume it's ok to touch a pregnant woman?

Paulwilson, as someone else said, until after 12 weeks or more the baby is still within the pelvis, so your wife was just happily having strangers paw at her belly fat. Lovely. Anyways, even if she is ok with strangers touching her, do you agree that anyone should just have the right to touch yr pregnant wife?! Or other pregnant women? Wtf, it SHOULD be considered harassment if it's unwanted. Ask first, by all means, but be prepared for a firm and resounding NO less we are very close friends.

ToNeverLand123 Sun 10-Nov-13 15:19:26

Its crazy that there actually has to be a law to stop people touching pregnant bellies. You wouldn't go up to a random person and stroke there arm. People should ask and accept it when someone says no. I personally don't let anyone I am not close with touch my belly (Not that I'm that noticeable). People are so weird..

EeyoreIsh Sun 10-Nov-13 14:38:30

Really, she's showing enough at 11 weeks for strangers to feel the bump? You do realise baby is tucked up behind the pelvic bone still?

Either way, it's my body and I don't like anyone other than my husband touching the bump without asking first.

paulwilson Sun 10-Nov-13 00:43:51

Today my wife and I decided to venture out and check out mothercare, John Lewis and a few other places to get an idea of how much we would be ripped off with prams and cots etc. We're first times and she is now 11+4 weeks.

Anyway we had 3 strangers come up to her and touch her little belly, we both thought it was cool; it made them smile and be happy and it made us smile and laugh. So, thus far she is enjoying the baby bump attention.

P.

ladylashes Thu 07-Nov-13 16:52:11

I've reported the rather strange post above.....

Musidn Thu 07-Nov-13 16:38:17

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BummyMummy77 Thu 31-Oct-13 19:27:57

It's weird, there are some people I just don't mind touching the bump. They always ask though, maybe that's part of it.

My midwife is such a sweetie, she ALWAYS asks, even when she's just spend half an hour taking blood pressure and feeling his position, if he starts kicking she'll say "ooo do you mind me having a feel?"

I'll tell you who never asks. My cats. I have 5 and the little buggers spend all day trying to siddle up to me and put paws on my belly.

NickysMam Thu 31-Oct-13 19:17:26

I hate it when people touch my bump. it's my stomach you're touching not the baby herself. Winds me up.. I even hate it when my siblings try to hear the baby, leave me alone, you can't hear anything!
Yesterday in Asda a creepy man came over and said "how cute, looks like you swallowed a football. can I touch it? I may just be lucky and feel him..or her wink kick"
me: excuse me? I'm not pregnant...

I feel better now. Thank you.

EeyoreIsh Thu 31-Oct-13 13:37:55

a former colleague stroked my bump yesterday, I get on really well with her but it's still too personal! I had to work very hard not to slap her hand away!

TeaAndANatter Thu 31-Oct-13 13:18:59

Booking my flights there as we speak!

BummyMummy77 Thu 31-Oct-13 13:07:19

Kiss the bump? Um, NO!

MummytoMog Thu 31-Oct-13 12:20:03

I had a certain amount of slightly creepy bump touching from men. One bloke actually did what I described to my friend as 'a creepy sex stroke' of my bump. I nearly vommed.

Cariad007 Tue 29-Oct-13 16:54:41

A friend of a friend was pestered until she allowed a random woman to kiss her bump. Apparently it was for 'good luck' in this woman's culture. One of my friends is complaining because I won't let her rub my bump whenever she likes - bloody cheek!

BummyMummy77 Tue 29-Oct-13 14:33:20

I was in a rug shop the other day and the woman that worked there asked if she could feel if he kicked.

She said "I've never felt a baby move before, can I touch him?"

At least she asked I guess but I was ever so slightly creeped out and said "he won't kick, he sleeps all day" lol.

If a stranger touched me I would actually fly kick them in the face (in my dreams, I'm so fat I can't even reach my butt to wipe).

Cariad007 Tue 29-Oct-13 14:28:39

It's a shame that they actually need a law to stop people from touching pregnant women.

Shellywelly1973 Tue 29-Oct-13 12:56:03

Lol...it's mad!!

BummyMummy77 Tue 29-Oct-13 12:53:41

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