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Scared about reassurance scan today

(65 Posts)
Armadale Thu 24-Oct-13 09:36:38

I've got a scan this afternoon, I am 7+5 today.

It is my 5th PG with no babies to show for it.

It gets so hard to go back in there each time, the memories just pile up and I can't cope with it all.

I'm scared about the scan too.

PourquoiPas Wed 30-Oct-13 22:29:13

So sorry Armadale. Thoughts and prayers with you x x x

Armadale Wed 30-Oct-13 22:19:34

Thanks everyone, it somehow does help x

dontmixthecolours Wed 30-Oct-13 19:58:45

I'm so sorry Armadale. Nothing I can say will make it better but I'm thinking of you

Luckystar1 Wed 30-Oct-13 19:47:56

I'm so, so, so sorry for your loss. You and your dh are in my thoughts. There are no words. Take care of yourself and each other. X

ladylashes Wed 30-Oct-13 19:36:26

I'm so very sorry Armadale. You have been in my thoughts and will continue to be.

Please look after yourself xx

Armadale Wed 30-Oct-13 18:27:20

thanks for the kind messages thanks

tsw Wed 30-Oct-13 17:36:13

My thoughts are with you & your husband Armadale. xx

headoverheels Wed 30-Oct-13 17:34:44

Thinking of you tonight, Armadale sad

FobblyWoof Wed 30-Oct-13 17:32:32

I'm so, so sorry Armadale thanks

Mama1980 Wed 30-Oct-13 17:26:27

I'm so very very sorry. X

Armadale Wed 30-Oct-13 17:23:20

Just an update, went to EPU for a scan today and it is definitely over.

Fakebook Tue 29-Oct-13 21:15:20

I'm so sorry Armadale sad.

unlucky83 Tue 29-Oct-13 21:07:42

So sorry flowers

Armadale Tue 29-Oct-13 20:59:41

Thanks for your kindness.

DH is home now so he is keeping me company.

Its ridiculous that I won't take any paracetamol just in case despite the fact that it is very obvious that there can no longer be any pregnancy in there.

Mama1980 Tue 29-Oct-13 19:14:51

I'm so sorry x

tumbletumble Tue 29-Oct-13 18:31:02

So so sorry Armadale

Cybercat Tue 29-Oct-13 18:05:39

Armadale I'm so sorry but I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this is a false alarm. Take care x

elskovs Tue 29-Oct-13 17:59:41

Oh no.... how absolutely CRAP sad Im so sorry for you.

I hope you feel able to try again at some point. Cant imagine how sad you must be.

Hope you aren't in pain at least. Thinking of you xxxx

Armadale Tue 29-Oct-13 16:30:41

Had been bleeding a little for a couple of days, but today starting losing huge clots. I knew this morning before it started by the pains I was getting.

I just don't know if I've got enough grit left in me to pull myself together again.

Feeling very sorry for myself

tsw Sat 26-Oct-13 16:15:25

He's concerned about a link between heparin & abruption that he has found in his research so is hesitant. Said in the past he would just give it to me.

unlucky83 Sat 26-Oct-13 15:47:05

Sorry turning into a thread hijack ....but that makes me so angry for you - the test are so unreliable (or used to be) there should be no such thing as a false positive flowers flowers ...
I knew/know quite bit about APS (was diagnosed 21 yrs ago after a massive DVT)
I'm not that up to date - but I would be fighting for the heparin - unless doc has a very very good reason not to prescribe...and weekly growth scans as you get to 30 weeks...
I'm going to pm you.

tsw Sat 26-Oct-13 14:58:31

I was tested for it as my uncle died from a blood clot mid pregnancy & I had a positive but it was treated as a false positive. I got another positive after I lost my baby so it was "ratified" as I had 2 tests & "an event".

I am on double aspirin but docs hesitant to treat me with heparin unless it returns. I have been tested before pregnancy, at 6 weeks, at 12 weeks & will be tested again at 20 weeks in 2 weeks time. All neg so far. Doc says that it returning "goes against accepted theory" so is very confident this will be a successful pregnancy but testing to be sure. I'm getting scans pretty much every 2-4 weeks atm.

aloysiusflyte Fri 25-Oct-13 21:26:48

Don't lose all hope yet, I had a mmc in may and am pregnant again. Was very scared to find I was spotting at 7 weeks, had a scan and saw heartbeat but was only measuring 6 weeks. The epu weren't concerned at all but after a further incident of bleeding at 8 weeks, I had another scan this week and am now bang on dates at 8+6.
As you know you'll never stop worrying after miscarriage and loss but there is always hope that things will be right this time. That's what I have to tell myself to try and keep positive.
Hope the next two weeks go quickly smile

unlucky83 Fri 25-Oct-13 21:06:36

So sorry for your loss tsw flowersflowersflowers -that was my biggest fear - and I knew it might happen - I think it must be so much worse if you aren't expecting it sad
If the tests weren't so unreliable, I think there is an argument to test for Hughes/APS as soon as a pregnancy is confirmed -it could save a lot of heartache.
Are they treating you as positive for this pregnancy anyway?
I started testing negative years before being pregnant but they treated me as positive anyway - I'd recently moved up to Scotland but for DD1 they spoke to my old consultant in St Thomas' - for DD2 6 years later with more negative results and my notes missing from London- my consultant was less keen on the frequent growth scans - I had to fight for them - he got a haemotologist to talk to me -to put my mind at rest - but after hearing my story he agreed with me and I got the scans I wanted.

tsw Fri 25-Oct-13 20:03:11

Just wanted to comment as I had Hughes in my last pregnancy (ended in a very late loss). It has disappeared for this pregnancy so far. Good luck to you.

You mentioned St Marys, do you mind me asking which one? smile

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