Would you like to be a member of our research panel? Join here - there's (nearly) always a great incentive offered for your views.

Surprise pregnancy and terrified

(3 Posts)
brodie88 Sat 19-Oct-13 17:19:11

So, just over a week ago I found out I was pregnant (I was on the pill and this came as a HUGE shock) after walking around in a daze for a few days I realised deep down I was really excited. I'm 6 weeks on Monday.

I'm 25 and have always wanted children but I've got a great job, my career is taking off and I just never planned for it to happen right now. My boyfriend gently broached the idea of an abortion with me but I flat out told him it wasn't an option. He has been very understanding and is slowly coming around to the idea of being a dad and is being very, very sweet about it.

I had my GP appointment on Tues and she was not very reassuring and barely told me anything except to get booked in with the midwife for my booking in app. Her only words were warning me about if I had a m/c it would be better to let it pass naturally at home before I called them.

This has terrified me. It's now all I can think about and it's made me realise how much I actually want this baby. I'm scared every time I go to the loo that they'll be blood (thankfully none so far) but I really want to enjoy this time and I feel like I can't. I haven't told my parents or any family or friends because I don't feel like it's safe enough to. My excitement has been completed overshadowed with this fear.

Any words of advice on how I can worry even a tiny bit less? My 1st midwife appointment is on the 1st Nov (just under 8 weeks) and as I understand it they won't do a scan to look for the heartbeat then. When do they? I feel like I can't relax until I know that everything is progressing ok.

Any help or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated!

semirurallife Sat 19-Oct-13 17:23:08

smile you'll be okay!!! women have been having babies for thousands of years, lots of them without any doctors,midwives or other help and Mother Nature (its called mother, remember) has a huge amount of experience.
as for job etc, i think its great to have a baby when you're 25. In in my early 40s and know so many friends who left it too late... life is never simple but a baby is a blessing. good luck and stay cal, breathe and enjoy. cognrats!

lolablu Sat 19-Oct-13 17:58:51

there should be an early pregnancy unit somewhere close by (or similar) in case of emergencies or worries.

Unfortunately the doctors have to be realistic and before 12 weeks things do sadly go wrong.

Take a look at lifestyle changes you can make with re food, drink etc. (stuff on the nhs about the do's and donts of early pregnancy.. just read those.. dont google). Doing these things will make you feel more proactive and slowly reduce the risks of things happening.

basically look after yourself and your little baby smile

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now