DH is American and I am English. We met at university, dated and then I found out I was pregnant in our last year.
I went to America in June 2013 to meet his family and we decided to get married. It was something we would have done in the future but it was a slightly rushed last minute dexcision due to expanding tummy and the fact that he wanted me to be his wife when DS1 was born.
I then flew back home because I was worried about DS1 etc. The plan was always to have the baby in England and for me to stay with my parents for a while until he finds a job in the USA, then apply for visas etc and for me to eventually live and settle there.
He was looking for jobs in the US, applying to things, studying for extra exams etc and was going to come back here two weeks ago and stay until the baby was born and for Christmas. Then go back.
He had no intention of overstaying but apparently according to our cunting government he's at risk of doing so. WHY?! Why would he do this? He's well off and educated what the hell would be the point of him staying in the UK as an illegal immigrant. WHY?!
I am heartbroken. He was actually turned away at the border, not granted temporary leave and detained in a detention centre overnight! Despite the border agent telling me that she had no doubt that our relationship was genuine and that he was telling the truth, but the decision had already been made.
He's a tall, blonde, blue eyed Californian from a large affluent catholic family. He's never broken the law, he wants to work in finance and has done nothing in this country but contribute! He is able and willing to financially support his stay, has adequate insurance etc.
I am incensed. I live with my parents in a lovely part of London, we are law obiding, good people. it it seems that immigration in this country is warped as is David Cameron's so called morality and respect for family life and marriage. We had been told that had we not been married and I was just his girlfriend he'd have been allowed entry. Or had he been fleeing a third word country and seeking asylum and benefits he'd have been allowed entry. But because he wanted to do the right thing and be here for the birth of his child and emotionally support his wife during labour he's likely to overstay. Yeah because that's why his parents spent a hundred grand to educate him so he could work illegally as a bartender....makes no sense really.
I'm not 35+3 days pregnant and feeling rather sad.
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katebakes · 16/10/2013 16:02
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