Why am I getting annoyed at DS?

[twiglett]

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[aloha]

Carry on ignoring Offer bicuits and milk if thing get out of hand. Learning by experience is a good thing!

[aloha]

Alternatively, you could say, "you seem to finding that difficult and a bit frustrating. Is is hard to work out, isn't it? If you'd like mummy to help, just ask me." The proceed as below...

[twiglett]

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[Lesley76]

Twiglett - Remove whingeing child to another room. Make yourself a nice cup or tea or coffee and a chocolate biscuit.Put feet up on sofa and watch something mindless on TV or read a magazine. This is called teaching child to develop problem solving skills and is a key part of being a good parent!!

The reason you are getting annoyed at him is that he is being annoying. Just remember how much you love him when he's asleep

[FairyMum]

Put your child in front of the telly and put the Tweenies on. I am pregnant and in same situation as you and thank God for the Tweenies every day!

[Lesley76]

Sorry - posts crossed. IMHO being bloody annoying is VERY normal for a 3yo. This determination to do it HIS way will be a great strength when he's a research scientist or nuclear physicist.Have you tried the tea and chocolate solution yet? ( for you not him?). Do you know any other bloody minded pig headed males??

[Lesley76]

Don't apologise for having a bad day - that's what mumsnet is here for. I would suggest that you come round for a coffee and let your son annoy my 4yo dd but you probably live 500 miles away!!!

[suzywong]

sympathies
was in a similar one on Tuesday
Spent as much time as was dilligent on here, it kept me 'grounded'

[Blu]

Twiglett, abandoned my ability to make a safe call on 'normal' as conception took place...but normal or not, it's very FUNNY! (the black forest thing).

[twiglett]

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[suzywong]

PSL what a great name

[Lesley76]

Any 3yo smart enough to think up the black forest thing is smart enough to dress himself. You are NOT a bad mum - you are allowing your child an age appropriate level of independence and encouraging his self care skills.

[Lesley76]

Twiglett - I suspect that something has happened today to undermine your confidence in yourself as a great mum and wonderful human being??

Lack of sleep? Hormones? Low blood sugar? Nasty comment from friend or relative? Lack of support ( real or perceived) from DP? Bad dreams? Bad memories? Stress? Lack of chocolate?!? Maybe its just tiredness from day out yesterday & trying to be supermum to determined toddler while preg?

[Bozza]

I think my DS would have trouble dressing himself but his imagination is mvoing forward in great strides ATM so like yours twiglett. Twiglett my DS gets very adamant about things and he is very stuck in his ways. Obviously the tool thing is going to wind you up but would not really bother about the painting thing. Also quite sensible not to get dressed if painting IMO. I often don't get DS dreseed until after a painting/cooking session if we're having one.

[GeorginaA]

twiglett - that painting thing is normal. I remember on a parenting course I went on a while back that one of the nursery teachers mentioned it as a standard "stage" 3-4 year olds go through where they want to cover all their pictures up with one colour paint. There was a developmental reason for "hiding" the pictures like that, but I've completely forgotten it at the moment, sorry!

She did say that it can be seen as quite upsetting, but that she would matter of factly say something like "oh, I've seen you've covered your picture over. You've used the entire page. There's not even room for me to write your name!"

[Blu]

oooh, tell me more about Beaver Water World: what is is and is it worth the trip from Brixton-ish?

[twiglett]

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[twiglett]

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[moosh]

About to give birth next week and have lost it with ds1 4yo a few times during this pg. We are only human Twiglet. He is older than yours and still insists on colouring most things in one colour when he is painting. It is frustrating, but he just hasn't got the time to paint I think he really hates it when I love it and am quite the budding artist. So when he gets too much I put on Toy Story or The Lion King which he loves or music which he likes too and we tend to get on fairly well at that point.
I too live in Croydon and if I wasn't so close to popping out the sprog, I would take him to the Beaver Water World, sounds ok to me. Went to the Horniman on Monday with ds and dh (too pg to go on my own with him) and found that ok for him, not too big to be daunting and just the right size so that he didn't get too bored. But I know exactly where you are coming from, kids eh!!!!!

[Blu]

Twiglett, you have touched a v sore point! I am supposed to be going to Hornimans tomorrow with DS and freinds made via MN...but have to WORK. Aaargh. Have looked at the Beaver site, and DS would LOVE the alligator, but the traffic on the route is so bad...one for if we are in the area.

Hope you enjoyed your FF sandwich, and that you have a calm afternoon.

[prufrock]

Twiglett - would it make you feel better to know that I get just as annoyed with my 21 month old - and I only see her from 6 - 9 every night - and dh gives her her bath for 30 minutes of that!

[stace]

hallelujah, thank god for this site, i am beginnning to feel a bit more normal and less guilty. My fuse is just so so short and my gorgeous little almost 4 year old is getting more and more jip from me than normal. Maybe its also a little preparation for the shorter fuse when new one arrives, maybe then they wont associate new horrible mummy with new sibling??