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Ancient of moo moo pregnant at 40....any others out there?? Please!!!!

(23 Posts)
Handbagsonnhold Wed 25-Sep-13 21:24:40

New to site.....still in 'blue line shock'!!!! Any other newly expectant mums out there at 40? Already blessed with 3 yr old dd......partner 10 years older than me so think we will be the oldest patents in history....thinking I need to maybe find my 'young thang' inner pregnancy goddess!wink

On a serious note its a very early pregnancy so have not told a single soul.....nice to share.....thanks for reading! Xxxxx

meditrina Wed 25-Sep-13 21:29:49

Congratulations!

And get yourself over to the Antenatal Clubs forum - where there are various chat/support threads for the expectatnt over 40s, such as this one (which also contains links to some others).

Handbagsonnhold Wed 25-Sep-13 21:31:57

Thanks v much....ill go and have a good look

gillybeandramaqueen Thu 26-Sep-13 03:03:28

Me! I turned 40 in June and am 40+4 with dc1!

Xenadog Thu 26-Sep-13 06:54:37

And me! I was 40 in May and currently 28+3 with my first. Also totally unplanned, unexpected and with no idea how I'm going to do this but hey ho! It's all an experience isn't it? grin

mellie45 Thu 26-Sep-13 06:55:48

Hello handbag, I am pregnant at 45. My cycles had been irregular for over a year. Some months only 21 days, other months 45 days. I went 52 days without a period and thought well here is menopause. I took a pregnancy test just for grins. Imagine my shock.........

mellie45 Thu 26-Sep-13 07:00:12

I am due in December with a perfectly healthy little bundle of blue. grin

mellie45 Thu 26-Sep-13 07:02:46

PS it is my first baby as well confused

Congratulations Handbag smile Had my DS at 40 and so happy! You'll love it.

And Mellie, that is wonderful! I've been trying again for a couple of years (now 42) but I'm one tube down. Periods are changing so I thought that was it.... But who knows?

Really chuffed for all the 40 something's - yay! grin

Handbagsonnhold Thu 26-Sep-13 08:18:07

Ah thanks everyone! Lovely to hear news of all your babies..... Been up since 5am .....so sick! oh well I guess all the hormones are well n truly kicking in.....

Foxeym Thu 26-Sep-13 10:09:42

36 weeks with DC3 at 42 smile

mellie45 Thu 26-Sep-13 10:12:35

My sickness went away around 18 weeks. I wish for you that it leaves sooner.

mellie45 Thu 26-Sep-13 10:14:48

Southsea, hang in there...anything can happen wink

Poppy954 Thu 26-Sep-13 12:44:30

Congrats handbag and good luck southsea. I'm 40 and 20wks pregnant with number three. Conceived first cycle of trying, got a risk of 1:10,000 for down's ( much lower than my other two) and no noticable difference to my other pregnancies so far. It is all a big worry though. Anomaly scan tomorrow and fingers crossed after that i can start relaxing a bit. Good luck with your pregnancy.

dats Thu 26-Sep-13 14:47:11

Hello! I've been lurking a lot on mn forums, but didn't want to be a crazy stalker...so I thought I'd join in. I'm just 41 40 and 385 days. Had a mc at 6+0 in January and am now 10+4 (with #1) and finding it such a rollercoaster. Had a (private) scan at 9+1 because I was convinced I was making it all up, measured almost spot on, saw heartbeat. But my symptoms are so mild...I'm pretty much convinced it's all going to go wrong, stats or no stats in my favour! Dating/nuchal scan is the week after next, although trying to reschedule as DP works away in the week and it's on a Weds. So after worrying about not seeing a heartbeat, worrying that I saw it a week and a half ago and anything could have happened, I am currently occupying self with worrying about chromosomal shenanigans! Good to meet you all smile

buttercupski Thu 26-Sep-13 14:52:39

Congratulations handbagsonhold! Hope the sickness eases soon. I'm 39, currently 16+6 with my first and will be 40 by the time of due date. And my partner's 56...

Frankly, given that it's my first, age feels like the least strange part of the whole thing at the moment, compared to new symptoms seemingly popping up every day, changing body shape etc. It only really registers as an unusual thing when I watch programmes like Midwives and all the women giving birth seem to be in their very early 20s and on their second or third babies...

(but - an aside - I always wonder if Midwives is skewed towards featuring women that sort of age as they are more likely to agree to be filmed than older ones?)

gillybeandramaqueen Thu 26-Sep-13 16:48:02

I'm ready to drop at any minute... but I've realised through this first pregnancy experience at age 39/40 that all that matters is your state of HEALTH - not your age... which is pretty much irrelevant and just a number.

Despite a horrendous first four months with sickness and projectile vom... I've remained steady throughout with good blood pressure, came back low risk for Downs, I've surprised myself with how well I've coped mentally and emotionally despite anti-depressant meds changes... no heartburn, no varicose veins, no piles, minimal stretchmarks (and my bump is gargantuan!!)....

So in a lot of ways us 40+'s are probably in a very strong place to be for impending parenthood!!! I, for one, feel confident, happy anf strong about in a way that I NEVER would have in my 20's...

Apart from the normal pregnancy / parent to be anxieties that every woman has!!!

Handbagsonnhold Thu 26-Sep-13 17:40:57

So inspiring to hear all you lovely ladies with such encouraging words and experiences.....we are not alone out there!!!! So glad I posted now!....Poppy good look with scan tmrw I know when I had my anomaly scan with dd it was a huge relief to know all was looking good.

Handbagsonnhold Thu 26-Sep-13 18:11:44

Dats so glad you posted.....all the same worries as I had last time (and I'm sure I'll be just the same again) x

Xenadog Thu 26-Sep-13 20:01:11

To the posters who are all worrying at every different stage/event of their pregnancy all I can say is snap! I am permanently worried things are going to go wrong despite it being all ok so far. I did have a bleed at 7 weeks but nuchal screening, 20 week scan, blood tests, measurements, everything has been spot on.

Not sure if it's my age or just being pregnant but I am blooming knackered and being tested for iron levels. That, combined with permanent indigestion is making me feel a bit cheesed off but I keep telling myself it's a small price to pay.

IWantAnotherBaby Thu 26-Sep-13 22:33:12

Me too. Surprise DC3 at 40! (And DH rather older). Currently 13+ weeks (found out 2 weeks ago). Still shocked, but normal NT, and Downs risk 1:31000, apparently; so far so good...
Welcome and good luck!

apprenticemamma Thu 26-Sep-13 23:29:09

congrats OP! Wanted to share that oh is 48 and I am 35. This is our 2nd/his 5th...So u can tell your dh that he isn't alone in the older dads category smile

dats Fri 27-Sep-13 00:08:23

handbags I've not told a soul, either (apart from DP. Oh and the dentist. And the midwife. And my GP!) so your post struck a chord! And congrats to you!
gillybean I was hoping good health would override the agedness(!) too. I'm in the best shape I've ever been in and it makes me feel good, like I'm giving myself the best possible chance. Although I should probably knock the toast and peanut butter on the head fairly soon!
Poppy good luck tomor!
Lots of positive nuchal results, too which is lovely.

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