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PG after MC: Posifrickitivity thread for the batsh*t crazy

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WhatWillSantaBring Thu 05-Sep-13 15:01:22

Welcome ladies, new and old. grin May we all have dull and boring pregnancies. Pull up a chair, crack open a bottle of (non-alcoholic) wine and settle in for mutual handholding, fishslapping and neurosis.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 25-Sep-13 22:56:48

PFJ that is terrible! What is wrong with people! Presumably this person has a job in EPAU, a little sensitivity is the main criteria for the job surely! angry
Ive been exactly where you are, my MC was ectopic. Nothing compares to seeing that tiny sac and bean in the right place! Great news!

GardenWorm Wed 25-Sep-13 23:46:50

Congrats PFJ, wonderful news! grin

Janie, sorry but all your talk just tested my pelvic floor (and it's screwed!). You haven't got an asparagus craving thing going on have you? Deff mention it, probably just a bacterial imbalance, can't imagine they'll need a sniff, I'm sure when you describe it they'll know exactly what it is x

BlackholesAndRevelations Thu 26-Sep-13 07:21:42

Amazing news PFJ!! grin what an awful woman though....

Re: smells, would def mention it at docs. Your comment about hope he doesn't want a sniff reminded me of the midwife sniffing my pad when I was in early labour with ds! They do want a sniff so they can work out what's coming out of you, lol!! grin

ChristineDaae Thu 26-Sep-13 08:16:01

Congrats PFJ! Glad bean was in the right place. Was a silly woman though angry
Names - I'm having such a hard time with names. My DD has a really unusual name (well its really unusual in the UK, no one who meets her has ever met another, but it's common as muck in the US) and I really want something I love as much as hers. But there are NONE! Not for a boy or girl, and we haven't found out the sex. The one boy name we had for her if she'd been a boy wasn't all that unusual and has been used now by DPs best mate.
To any of you being told politely that you're huge. Don't feel too bad, my friends and colleagues just come out with 'Omg you are massive' and 'look at the size of your boobs!' Good job I'm not easy offended hey!

CbeebiesIsMyLife Thu 26-Sep-13 09:00:35

Pjf I'm so annoye on your behalf. I'm glad every thing was ok but really? Can you please put in some form of complaint that's just awful.

Oohh Christine what's dd's name? Mine has a common American name too. She's calliope but we call her callie. So many people tell me how unusual it is, but it's so common in the USA.

For thoes worried about not liking names as much. We had dd1 and I loved he name, still do! When I was pg with dd2 we couldn't think of any name for her we finally landed on calliope but weren't overly keen. After she was born it was our only name so that's what we called her. Almost 2 years on I couldn't imagine her having any other name, I still don't love it, but it suits her and it's her name. There isn't another name I like for her. If that makes sense.

SnotMyProblem Thu 26-Sep-13 09:01:41

I was wondering how your scan went PFJ - glad it was good, but what a rubbish bedside manner that woman had!

BirdsDoIt Thu 26-Sep-13 09:30:31

Yay PFJ that's such good news your scan went well and also that you've got another in a couple of weeks' time. Sorry to hear you were lumbered with a totally insensitive sonographer though - really, why did she feel the need to point something out that anyone with an ounce of common sense would have known you'd been worrying about ever since you found out you were pregnant? Honestly it amazes me how people can do jobs like that and not have a little more emotional intelligence? It shouldn't require TRAINING!! It makes me so cross because you hear this kind of thing so many times. our sonographer, who wasn't quite as bad as that, didn't exactly go out of her way to reassure us even though I'd explained about previous mmc and my fear of seeing no heartbeat - she stayed in total silence for at least a minute after finding the baby, leaving DH and I to try and figure out what we were seeing - and in the end i plucked up the courage to ask - but just a quick 'yes, there's the hb, and I'm just taking a closer look' would have been a massive help! Grrr on your behalf.

BirdsDoIt Thu 26-Sep-13 09:31:23

Sorry, didn't mean to get so irate, but once started couldn't stop!

ChristineDaae Thu 26-Sep-13 09:48:36

Cbeebies - I love Calliope, but if you watch greys anatomy you'll know that I can't use it, my DD is called Addison

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 26-Sep-13 09:50:15

Going to need a new thread today. ..
I woild complain about the sonographer. Truly I would. My view is, look, I know you probably dont mean any harm but people who have mc are very delicate. please take this on board and think before you open your gob next time!
I complained about my screening midwife. I dont want to be a pain, she is lovely, but I dont wsnt anyone else to be put through what I went through.

Rockchick1984 Thu 26-Sep-13 11:25:29

I'd complain about the sonographer's attitude too. I've pretty much always worked in customer facing roles and am very keen on feedback - however I also always make a point of feeding back positive experiences as well, not just complaining smile

GuffSmuggler Thu 26-Sep-13 11:29:39

Great news pfk but am also totally shock at what she said!

We were so lucky with a very sensitive sonographer who after we told her our history was so caring and immediately reassured us there was a baby and a heartbeat, it made a huge difference on what was a very anxious day.

GuffSmuggler Thu 26-Sep-13 11:30:06

pfj!

TheNobodies Thu 26-Sep-13 12:11:28

Congratulations pfj brilliant news for you! Good luck to everyone with there scans today, sending some sticky vibes!

I've finally got rid of my urine infection... but now I have thrush!!! My Munchkin is causing trouble already, haha! The more symptoms the better I say.

What's your worst symptoms so far? Think ive got everyone possible.

Pentagon Thu 26-Sep-13 12:41:36

nobodies I have both UTI and thrush at the moment - not fun...on antibiotics and the doctor prescribed the canesten pessaries for me to take once the antibiotics are over...I think that's the worst symptom I've had so far. Last time I got a UTI when I went into labour...I hope the same doesn't happen again

Tomkat79 Thu 26-Sep-13 13:02:11

I also have a seat on the thrush bus. Haven't had it for about a year and then bang!

Worse symptom for me tho is bloating! Nursing uniform is so tight this afternoon I look 20 weeks! Tmi but only done 2 poos in 2 weeks! Bleurgh

ThePFJ Thu 26-Sep-13 13:17:57

Thanks for all your comments.... feels better to hear from you all....

BirdsDoIT At least my sonographer told me immediately there was a baby there. I asked straight away 'Is it in the right place?' and she said 'Yes - everything is fine' without delay......
Last time I mc'd and was in for a scan the silence was bad. Because they were about to tell me baby was gone. Huge sympathy for you honey!

I have been peeing like mad.. I got up 6 times in the night to pee... a UTI or thrush would just about finish me off o.O - cake for all those who are suffering.......

TheNobodies Thu 26-Sep-13 13:21:56

Pentagon, oh I feel for you! Having one after anotger is bed enough! I got given a oral tablet, was scared to put it up just icase i did it wrong! I bet there horrible to have together!

Tomkat, its not good is it? Mines going though. How majy weeks are you? I sometimes look 20 weeks and im 6! Good job its nearly winter baggy tops to hide tge belly. The joys of pregnancy, Aslong as we have healthy babies ill cope grin

omri Thu 26-Sep-13 14:01:34

Had great scan. Saw very happy looking baby kicking and waving up at me.
The relief was immense. Actually feel excited now. I'm 15 wks.

Now to tell work- dreading it. The "oh no" look or even worse the fake smile and fake congratulations (not that they not happy for me it's that we are all really over stretched at the moment).

omri Thu 26-Sep-13 14:04:06

By the way, if you are going to weight watchers you can't be pregnant, right?! Only asking as I have my suspicions about a colleague. But she can't be pregnant if she still going to WW at lunchtime with the others... Right!?

Pentagon Thu 26-Sep-13 14:10:51

yay, great news omri!

I'm sure your colleagues will be happy for you and if their responses are a bit weird, then that's their problem - don't let this spoil your excitement!

omri Thu 26-Sep-13 14:48:44

Thanks pentagon! Trying to hold on to the excitement I felt this morning rather than worry what work thinks!!!

Lieslvontrapp Thu 26-Sep-13 15:22:59

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Lieslvontrapp Thu 26-Sep-13 15:30:22

Congrats on the scan PFJ & Omri! Good luck with telling work Omri.

Sorry to those who have thrush and utis. Hope they clear up soon. On the bloating I had really bad bloating between weeks 10 and 12 which made my belly really big.

So weve just come back from scan and all is well and found out its a beautiful girl. Before scan DH told me he didn't mind but now says he was hoping for a boy! Oh well maybe next time! Just over the moon that all is well so far.

WhatWillSantaBring Thu 26-Sep-13 16:19:11

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