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Good idea to take almost 7 yr old dd to 12 week scan, or not?

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Peacenquiet2 Mon 02-Sep-13 15:24:29

I will be having my scan this thursday. I had one at 9 weeks and saw hb and all was fine so im expecting the baby to be ok all being well.
My dd will be 7 soon and as yet doesnt know im pg as we are keeping it to ourselves until scan and we thought it was a big ask to ask a child to keep a secret like that.
Anyhow she already has a brother, my ds whos 3, that most definitly wont be attending the scan as hes a fidget, etc. But she has been asking us to have another dc for a while so i thought it would be nice to suprise her by taking ger up to the hospital and then breaking the news just before the scan. I also thought actually seeing the baby will make it seem real as i know she will be doubtful its actually happening as ive said no for so long! (this dc is actually unplanned so i guess she must have been wishing pretty damned hard!)

I then was going to let her tell my parents and other family, etc so that she gets to be the news bearer which i know she will love.
On the other hand im aware that things dont always go as planned and if there was a chance of somthing being wrong i wouldnt want her to be confused or upset by it.
What do you reckon, would you take your 7 year old dc?

HumphreyCobbler Mon 02-Sep-13 21:30:11

3MenAndMe - you are lucky in that you are surprised tbh as it implies that you have only ever had good news at a scan. I am glad for you that this is so, but I have had more bad news than good news when going to scans, this is my sixth pregnancy but my third child. I have had bad news at 20 weeks.

It is really not surprising that people should preach caution.

Both were fine peace. Dd is 13 and DS nearly 9 and at 38 I am 30 weeks with dc3!

Went to FMC this time though as couldn't face the nhs telling me I needed invasive testing because my risk of genetic defects was so high and there end up with nothing wrong.

We are taking the DCs with us to the FMC in a couple of weeks for them to meet their sibling (stroppy dd not taking it well) but they will wait outside until we sure all ok.

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