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Early Pregnancy After IVF: Worry-warts and wimps gather to whimper and wobble.

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PramQueen1971 · 30/08/2013 11:41

Yes! Happy Birthday to me indeed! Fanks for all the Cake I would say 'nom-nom' and 'it was awesome!' but I would have to stab myself for being an irritating twat. I digress..

Come here, ladies who have survived IVF and are now battling the first trimester nerves and scans. We did it...we did it!! Grin

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NoMaybeAboutIt · 30/08/2013 15:17

I've found you birthday girl Cake

PramQueen1971 · 30/08/2013 15:59

Hooray!! Smile Cake Wine Tennis Biscuit Thanks (that's cake, red grape Schloer, a scoop of pistachio ice cream, ring-sting after all the birthday goodies and flowers - 'cos no-one got me any. Twats.)

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BeetleBeetle · 30/08/2013 17:25

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MotorcycleMama · 30/08/2013 18:22

beetle it all sounds ok to me. We have all had scares with spotting, particularly of the brown variety. The placenta is trying to establish itself, which I think does cause some trauma which can in turn cause some bleeding. Also, your cervix is much more fragile, so any sort of strain on that - sex, straining due to constipation, dildocams etc - can cause light bleeds. It sounds like your abdo pain was from wind? Anyway, Im sure all is fine, but if the bleeding gets heavier, or redder, or more clotty then you should speak to EPU. Or just call them anyway. I avoid talking to mine, because they are not reassuring, they are dismissive and unhelpful, but your lot might be great.

MotorcycleMama · 30/08/2013 18:23

Happy birthday mummy pram Flowers

MotorcycleMama · 30/08/2013 18:24

Hi wim - I hope you are keeping on top of scan nerves. Tomorrow! How exciting. Can't wait to hear your report. X

PramQueen1971 · 30/08/2013 22:12

Oh, Beetle, I am sorry I've only just seen your post. How scary, but Motor is absolutely right: browny-red spotting is rotten but perfectly innocuous in those early weeks. Remember mine from weeks six to nine? Constant and annoying but eventually I had to get used to it. Go earlier than Monday if you can manage it: knowledge is power. You will be fine, my love xx

Thank you, Motor Smile

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MotorcycleMama · 31/08/2013 06:46

Hi beetle did you get your scan brought forward? I think in pregnancy you need reassurance as soon as poss, so good. I had discharge/spotting for a week or more, and it was always worse in the morning - build-up as you say. Hope the time passes quickly - let us know how you get on.

NoMaybeAboutIt · 31/08/2013 10:27

Sorry Beetele I didn't see this yesterday. I agree with Motor and Pram brown is fine. I had, and still do get brown spotting from time to time. The progesterone is the culprit in my case. I had it when I was constipated, and I get it after sex. I was told it was cervical erosion.

As far as the pain goes, in the early days when I had terrible bloating, the pain was unbelievable. Whilst it was in the same are as AF, they weren't cramps if that makes sense?

And as for short of breath? Welcome to the club. Totally normal. It's to do with the volume of your lungs increasing. Apparently it means we can hyperventilate to ensure there's enough oxygen. It's one of the weirdest things I am getting used to. I feel so unfit and also dizzy from it! So all in all, you're sounding normal Grin

Not long till that scan now. Can't wait for your news x

Prammy how was your birthday?

How are you Motor? And Caip?

MotorcycleMama · 31/08/2013 11:46

Hi maybe - I'm fine - just getting highlights done after waiting way too long. All the advice is confusing re hair dye but I think so long as you don't have it direct on your scalp, it's ok. Nervous re scan on Monday. How are you?

Looking forward to hearing scan news from wim and beetle.

What's it like to wake up the day after your birthday with no hangover pram? It'll be a new one on me!

NoMaybeAboutIt · 31/08/2013 12:25

Ooh, nothing like getting your barnet done to make you feel better. I think hair dye is fine. The dyes they use nowadays are so much kinder than for yesteryear.

I'm ok thank you. Food is getting me really down. We went out for a lovely meal last night. I ate 2 mouthfuls. I just can't seem to eat. Today have had a walnut whip as it's all I could stomach. It's so tedious. I'm worried I'm not getting enough nutrients in, but I suppose I can make up for that.

Not long till Monday now!! I bet you can't wait to get in there!

Wimwom · 31/08/2013 12:54

Hello! Was hoping beetle scan would be up first with good news but am running off to work (with boiled sweets galore for nausea) but.... Scan brilliant, right size for dates and nice heart beat. Seem to have developed a large ovarian cyst as well - currently growing faster than little wim.

Maybe - sickness is a bummer huh, mine is getting worse everyday. Jacket potato seems to be all I can imagine eating, but it changes regularly! And half the time don't think I can put anything in my mouth (ESP drinks for some reason)

Waves to motor and pram - loving all the new hair do chat! Might inspire a Barnet change here (ashamed to admit last few trims have been done by DH to save IVF cash!)

PramQueen1971 · 31/08/2013 12:57

Come on, Cutie-Pie, where are you??

I had a great birthday, thanks. I got a pair of swimming goggles, a teapot/teacup combo with saucer (very kitsch) and £150 off mum and dad (divorced) which is the most I have ever received for any occasion. They are spoiling me rotten since IVF and I bleddy love it Grin Th'usband got me the goggles plus a book by Will Self and today is buying me a pair of suede slippers from M&S (he's been on the phone far too many times: 'you're a five, right?'; 'you know you like purple? These ones are aubergine; I like 'em'; 'Do you want 'em furry? Backless?')

My nieces did this and it just warmed my cockles so much. The thought of my baby partying for its mummy's birthday just cracks me up.

Motor, I am used to sober birthdays now I am teetotal Smile Please don't worry about your scan on Monday (and remember the 72-hour pre-scan nerves mean nothing at all is wrong. They're just bastards).

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MotorcycleMama · 31/08/2013 12:58

Great news wim Flowers - you will be on cloud 9 all day! Hope you get to celebrate with Mr Wim later. X

PramQueen1971 · 31/08/2013 13:01

Wim, that's such good news! Lovely.

Marbie, did you have the two mouthfuls of steak? What sauce? Mine really was as thick as a novel and tasty as shit. Whorebag pepper sauce from a packet. Was going to use this: Blush but I am resolutely unashamed of packet sauces

Pram, 42 (what, like, ever), 14 wks today!

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NoMaybeAboutIt · 31/08/2013 13:04

Wim fantastic news!! What's your EDD?

Prammy your nieces are too lovely!! Are they still staying with you? There is nothing like a new pair of slippers. I bloody love them. And how lovely of your parents. So you know what you're going to buy yet?

NoMaybeAboutIt · 31/08/2013 13:06

I did Prammy two mouthfuls of a delicious rib eye with bernaise and then I had to divvie it up between my bro and MrM. They didn't protest. Your steak sounds immense.

PramQueen1971 · 31/08/2013 13:56

Marbie, I cannot explain it (other than working-class mentality), but when I am gifted a nice amount of money (ie never) my first instinct is to squirrel it away. I can't think of a single 'luxury' or just plain 'nice' item I would want to spend money on. What a dick. Oooh! I know...a maternity costume for swimming.

Tell me...how do you choose what cut of steak you're going to order? Why rib-eye and not sirloin or rump? I only ever buy sirloin; is there a better cut?

Nieces went home yesterday and will be sorely missed lazy mares. I make them shriek with my mental-ness Grin

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PramQueen1971 · 31/08/2013 15:53

Ah, Cutie, how marvellous. I have to admit I'm breathing much more easily after your news..I so want us all to have safe pregnancies. I would put my foot down at Wolverine, too. Tell your husband to arrange a couple of fit gigolos with fat dicks to come to the house whilst he's at work...is that acceptable hobbying? Wink

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MotorcycleMama · 31/08/2013 20:36

Great news beetle - phew! I got a bit worried when we didn't hear from you for a few hours. Had to remind myself that people do have a life outside of MN! Enjoy your evening.

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NoMaybeAboutIt · 31/08/2013 20:47

That's fantastic Beetle, I'm so chuffed. And that would explain your pains, your poor ovaries!

Pram rib eye is my fave. I love it. I do love sirloin too. And rump. Just a pitty I couldn't eat it.

I had a massive melt down. I got so upset at not eating. A slice of bread and fruit juice is all that's gone in. But I think I can manage some chow mein, so that's what I've just ordered. I really hope this passes soon. I want to get back to cooking and baking again!

Nothing wrong with wanting to save the money Prammy, you'll have a little someone to spend it on soon Wink

Wimwom · 31/08/2013 21:17

Woohoo beetle! Great news hon - am so pleased, what a day for us both!

PramQueen1971 · 31/08/2013 21:57

Oh, why did I put 'wimps' in the thread title? We're not wimps! Sorry, my lovely and brave friends Sad

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