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PG after MC, the new and shiny POSIFRICKINTIVITY thread...

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 15-Aug-13 10:03:52

Oops! I posted the last post and didn't link to a new thread! Sorry!
Anyway, here it is, come on in for the best support going and a safe place to vent. grin and a lovely squishy new set of twins

WhatWillSantaBring Thu 05-Sep-13 15:03:05

I go away and leave you for three hours (looking at new kitchens) and come back to see the thread almost full.

New thread click here

shellsocks Thu 05-Sep-13 14:55:08

This threads gone cat/dog/horse mad grin I'm not a pet person so can't joinin sorry!

bump DS was transverse too at that stage and turned, think its really common smile This baby was head down at 28w but did a big manoeuvre the other night so I'm wondering too!

GardenWorm Thu 05-Sep-13 14:38:19

Bump don't panic! Plenty of time for baby to turn, mine was transverse for ages last time but did move into place nearer due date x

BumpKitty Thu 05-Sep-13 13:37:23

As my name suggests I am a cat lover but my lovely cat had to be pts a couple of years ago and now we have a crazy golden retriever puppy grin he is brilliant with DD.

Had my 31 wk appt today and baby is still transverse, I've done some reading and I'm now very worried, I hadn't thought about c sections and with a toddler around I really don't want one. Hopefully I'm getting ahead of myself. Also my iron is pretty low - might have been nice to get a phone call 2 weeks ago to tell me that!

kjh5 Thu 05-Sep-13 13:13:44

Impatient I was the same as you - MC'd at 6wks and then fell pg again straight away before I'd even had a period. I was terrified at first that I was going to MC again and DH suggested we get an 8wk scan just to put my mind at ease if I made it that far along this time around

As it happened I had a little bleed on Monday and panicked I was about to MC again so went to my EPU where they gave me a scan mostly to reassure me because of the previous MC which I thought was lovely of them. Private 8wk scan is booked for Sat and we're still going to go - because I want some reassurance that the heart is still beating as we're planning on telling DH's family this weekend - mine already know. I was with them on holiday when the last MC happened and they guessed I was pg again straight away when I refused a glass of wine at my brother's birthday last weekend.

I found understanding exactly why I MC'd in the first place really helpful in dealing with the fear this time around. GP said it was most likely something chromosomal wrong with the fetus which just wasn't developing properly. Seeing the bean on a screen with a beating heart and the yolk sac etc was reassuring because - as the midwife explained to me - everything seems to be developing normally to date. I know I can still MC between now and 12wks but I don't regret having that scan and seeing a beating heart nestled in there. It made the whole pregnancy thing a bit more real and I feel a bit more engaged and positive about the whole thing.

IBelieveInPink Thu 05-Sep-13 12:47:23

Impatient - I think almost all of us on here cave at some point and go for a reassurance scan, if your local epu won't provide one. Some do for those who hve had previous mcs, so it is worth checking.

If not, like rock said I would wait til somewhere between 8-9 weeks. There is less chance after seeing a healthy heartbeat at this stage of things going wrong, and it is not too long to wait til 12 week scan. I also had to convince DH, but once he saw how happy I was after this he said it was the best £70 he had ever spent. After that I then felt confident enough to tell parents and 2 close friends, who got me through the next 4 weeks.

We still haven't told anyone about the MC apart from 1 of my sisters. I felt if I told then the everyone would know about us TTC and then we'd get asked in a sympathetic voice "how things are going" every time we met up with people.

I think I'll go to my docs and talk to them about it. I haven't even made an appointment yet this time around as it was only 6 weeks ago I was there having my first app from last time.

Thanks for the info about places doing it for £60 that seems really reasonable.

Rockchick1984 Thu 05-Sep-13 12:32:17

Oh, and re friends suspecting - as they knew I'd had the miscarriage I just said I was on a health kick trying to detox before we started TTC again. No one questioned it!

Rockchick1984 Thu 05-Sep-13 12:31:07

Impatient the pregnancy that I miscarried, I'd seen the heartbeat on an 8 week scan then 12 weeks showed missed miscarriage, however there's only something like 2% chance of that happening so its fairly unusual. Have you spoken to your EPU, will they not offer an early scan due to previous miscarriage? If not, I'd suggest shopping around as I know of 2 places near me, both charge less than £60!

I'd also be tempted to wait until 8 weeks, so there will be a bit more to see, and a bit less chance of things going wrong.

Does anyone here have any experiences with private reassurance scans?

I miscarried at 5 weeks in July, got pregnant the very next month and I'm now 5+5. We haven't told anyone yet. I always thought I'd tell sisters and parents early on, but after last MC I remember thinking that I was glad no one else knew as calling people with the news and dealing with their disappointment would have made it harder.

I'm starting to feel like I want to tell my family, but scared to do so incase I miscarry again. So thinking of a private scan. Checked and I could have one on the day I'm 7 weeks, it's £100 though and I'm a bit torn. Part of me wants the scan before I tell anyone and I don't want to have to wait until I'm 12 weeks. The other part of me is scared I'll have miscarried and then have to deal with that news then, or scared ill be fine then and miscarry before 12 weeks and then be even more disappointed as it will have become more real.

DH thinks £100 is too much to spend and that as what will be will be I should just wait until 12 weeks but still tell our parents soon. Urgh I just don't know what to do.

Think friends will start to suspect though. Since we miscarried so close to being pregnant this time around a few of them won't have seen me drinking for almost 10 weeks which is very very strange for me.

TotalShock Thu 05-Sep-13 11:31:54

I know I would love that!!

Anyway off to osteopath now as my body has become even more of a wreck over the last month. Already have existing pelvic problems from when I was 16 so we'll see what he has to say..

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 05-Sep-13 11:23:15

im not tempting fate. I already have the pony! itll take me a year or 3 to prise her off of DD so thatll be just right!grin grin im soo looking forward to teaching the baby to ride!

TotalShock Thu 05-Sep-13 11:17:33

It was me! I have a 5 year old I got as a yearling who has grown into a giant. He might get to 17hh and I'm 5 foot! But everyone says I look fine on him and he knows who the boss is... Then my older boy who I can take anywhere and do anything with.

Saggy I have a spare stable that is so temping to fill ready for a tiny person but don't want to get ahead of myself with that one

Pentagon Thu 05-Sep-13 11:16:20

oh I like cats, dogs and horses but don't have any pets :-( (and my dad used to be a vet - retired now - shame, shame...) Anyway, living in London and working full-time is hectic enough as it is, I don't know how I would cope with a pet - obviously it's possible, lots of people do it... maybe I'm just lazy!

Welcome anglo congratz and good luck with this pregnancy!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 05-Sep-13 10:42:47

ooh! who said they were horsey? I have 4 small ponies. they are technically DDs. I have a girgeous traditional Shetland just waiting for a new tiny jockey! grin grin

ThePFJ Thu 05-Sep-13 10:08:53

tog? I meant dog!! I really need new glasses o.O

ThePFJ Thu 05-Sep-13 10:08:09

Hi girls!

MY mum converted to cat lover.... she loves dogs... for years she hated cats because my nan's cat Tinkle was liquid evil... But her housemate takes in stray cats and all of them are sweet tempered lap cats and she loves them. She gets too tired to walk a dog, and she loves how cats walk themselves and how they purr, it really de-stresses her. She still wants a tiny tog for her handbag though!

Still Pregnant today - horray!!!
I am counting the days on the calendar on this website www.pregnology.com/faralong.php?month=5&day=12&year=2014
Love to you all xxxxx

WhatWillSantaBring Thu 05-Sep-13 09:57:38

I'm a cat lover and a dog lover. But only my own, generally. I didn't like cats for years (my parents had an evil one, who i wanted to love, but he used to attack you quite viciously for no reason) but then I got adopted by a stray, who I adore. We also have a dog, who is nuts but ever so sweet and so good with kids. I never realised that cats were such good pets and so much easier than dogs

Time to start another thread before this one fills up so you can't put a link on it <<glares at saggy>>. I think it needs to refer to posifrickitivity AND batshit crazy. (Oh, and PG after MC as a signpost, obviously!)

Chocolateteabag Thu 05-Sep-13 01:08:02

Dog person here, having said that DH managed to trick me into agreeing to get our black lab whenDs was 8weeks old, on Jan 2nd. He had sen her at a farm where she was in a barn basically eating crao and full of worms and 5 months old. We had a week of "WTF have we done" before she "got" potty training. I did resent her a bit at the start as had to take her for walks when all I wanted to do was snuggle with DS and get fatter but she is a brilliant dog with him.

Martha - needed the slap, I have really struggled walking about today, really have to take more care with myself

hello to pfj and Anglo congratulations on your BFP's

Liesl - my bump is still pretty "neat" so I keep getting told at 25 weeks, and this is number 2. I did some panicked googling last night, but really found that bump size is pretty irregular and lots to do with how the baby is positioned inside you and how long a torso you have in proportion to the rest of you. Plus I like to think my irregular attempts at Pilates over the last 2 years have given me such impressive stomach muscles that they are holding everything super well grin

ThePFJ Wed 04-Sep-13 23:47:39

Awwwww TotalShock one of my friends has horses... I love them but I am only 5 foot tall... and they sneeze at me a lot.... hugs for you - sorry you lost your darling boy...

Well off to bed for me.... I have absolutely LOVED talking to you girls.... living in this tiny village it's hard to make friends.... so its lovely knowing I can chat here.....
Will meet you all back here tomorrow so we can all say how pg we still are! (love and cake for you all on the table - help yourselves)
xxxxxx

TotalShock Wed 04-Sep-13 23:29:27

I'm an animal person full stop! But have 3 dogs, DH is not a cat person at all. I'm horsey through and through. I had 3 but lost my darling boy last year

ThePFJ Wed 04-Sep-13 23:21:47

My cats only need training in identifying when to stop when taking over the world...... they are very young and over enthusiastic. No really..... wink ... tell you what - we'll call it cats vs. dogs truce and just say all our pets are awesome. I met my friends new guinea pigs earlier today.... they look pretty shifty to me....... shock

katatonic Wed 04-Sep-13 23:15:15

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ThePFJ Wed 04-Sep-13 23:12:10

Yeah katatonic I am sureeeee that doggie just reallllly realllllllly liked me........ (shudders) ...........
grin

katatonic Wed 04-Sep-13 23:09:39

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